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I been posting here off and on for years and yet I rarely complain about alot of things and I think it is time for me to let people know where I stand. I deleted that post on sexually speaking because it made feel like I was literally attacked for my ideas whether or not it was mature of me to post something like that. I have been very patient with alot of people. Everyone has a right to reply to my posts to disagree with what I say. I came to this board with good intentions and to share my ideas with others. If there are people here that really harbor negative feelings about me and to try to indirectly attack me, I feel that is not right of you to do that when you realize that most of my posts are light hearted, funny, sad and something to think about. Those who hate me, I will still post within the borders of the board and will be there for my friends and your actions and comments towards me will never stop me from being a person that has contributed to this site. I did not come to this site to be self righteous in the minds of others, I poured my heart into my posts to help those who needed new ideas and those who want to get away from harshness of reality and to meet at a place where there is alot of fun, laughter and a sense of belonging.

Gee Tyg. I don't know you at all really, but I feel badly you felt bad. I did not think anything on that thread was attacking you at all.

Hi Tyg,

I didn't read the thread, but I can relate to your feelings.
I just want to say that even if I do not always post, I read your threads and and happy you are here on ageless. This too will pass. :)

I'm sorry you are feeling bad...one incident doesn't mean you *don't play well with others*. Some have sharp tounges, and I do not think yours is one....

You are appreciated Tyg..I am sorry people have to sometimes not see the goodness intended...we can't open up everyones mind when we want to, peace to you...keep on keeping on Brother!

careful Kelley! I had a bad time when i loved someone on the boards once! ;)
((i was being funny))

I read the original thread but didn't respond to it.

In defense of the people who did respond....

I did not see any personal attacks at all.

I think this thread is inappropriate since the original was deleted.

It sure feels like the original responders are being attacked without being able to defend themselves.

I read it and also replied. There was not one post directed to the OP at all. They were comments on the game idea itself.

I do think it's a shame when someone's effort to contribute to a community is met with negativity.

I do not believe that this is what happened here.

The reason why I felt attacked was because I was misunderstood in what I post. It was wrong of me of delete the post and not give those who were innocent a chance to defend themselves. I still felt attacked by this person because I feel that when I post, that person does not realize that I am not perfect and my posts are always silly and waste the boards time with a bunch of nonsense. I want to make it clear again that I was hurt because yes I am sensitive and I have a right to my feelings whether people agree with me or not. What I don't agree is when people contest my character on these boards and I don't want to ruin it for other people. I just wanted to make people laugh and smile and sometimes not take my nonsense post to heart. It may seem childish to some on what I post but I accept who I am and yes I am a kid at heart. I grew up in a controlled environment where my sister and I never got to express ourselves emotionally. I kept alot of things inside of me that made me gain weight. It is my fault. Yes, I am not successful at this point and that I remember one member attacked me behind my back and my friend Rayne stood up for me that time in the chat room. But you know what made my life changed is the fact that I get to share my not so serious side and whimsical self. I want to point out again that I make mistakes but I felt I was attacked.

Can you say specifically what was said that attacked you? I do not recall even one, tiny, or even indirect comment aimed at you at all. It would really, really help. Thanks.

Tyger is an old member who has always been unable to say a hurtful word to anyone. Yes, he's sensitive, sometimes overly sensitive and we can tell him that without the intention of giving anyone a life lesson.

Intelligence is often knowing how to talk to different people without hurting feelings unnecessarily. If your life depends on defending what you are saying, I bet you are more careful with the way you word it.

I know Nessa is blunt sometimes, and she's the kind of person who can take bluntness well, if it's not meant to hurt. She's good in making the difference. Tyger is not. I am not always. We are all different and we should respect our differences and settle things not in the thick skinned level, because this will hurt those who haven't grown it or can't grow it, but in a level that has more chances of pleasing most of us. All of us is impossible, I have learnt that in life.

We have made the option around Ageless to settle for a very respectful, polite way of discussing different matters and that's our choice. In this particular case, I saw the first post by Nessa and didn't see anything bad, and although it was not what Tyger expected, it was not rude. It didn't oblige Tyger to grow any skin, it just showed him she didn't play those games, but hey, we are many more hundreds of people here and maybe some would. If we had felt any direct insult, the post would have been deleted, but even over sensitive moderators would not have touched it.

This time, really, I think we should just reassure Tyg that it was not mean, and that we just hope he'll give other posters the occasion to see his thread and give it those turns only Ageless members know how to give.

As for judging Tyg or Nessa, let's stop it right here and right now before this becomes a real attacking thread.

Originally posted by MariaLux
As for judging Tyg or Nessa, let's stop it right here and right now before this becomes a real attacking thread.



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Tyg-
I can't see anyone having a disliking towards you.
You have a big heart and genuine aura of
compassion and honesty highlighting all of your posts.
I consider you a dear friend.

When it comes to humor-
it can be quite tricky on a message board.
What we think is fun and whimsical
can very well offend or appall others.
I know I have done it, it just happens.
Or worse yet-
what we think is clever and cute,
gets ignored altother, which has also happened to me.

We all look for a cerain amount of attention
and input here, (if we didn't, we wouldn't be here),
and we all feel "more" accepted when our threads are
celebrated and have tons of posts-
but that is not the norm.
(Believe me, I know....)

Gathering advice from the posts here is like
picking apples.
Some are quite well-rounded and delicious,
(just what the Dr ordered),
as others are rotten and full of worms.
Pick the posts that you can healthily feed upon,
that give you the most satisfaction and toss the rest.


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What is that beautiful house?
And you may ask yourself
Where does that highway go?
And you may ask yourself
Am I right?...Am I wrong?
And you may tell yourself
MY GOD!...WHAT HAVE I DONE?

Letting the days go by
let the water hold me down
Letting the days go by
water flowing underground
Into the blue again
in the silent water
Under the rocks and stones
there is water underground.

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Tyg, I didn't read the thread either, but I want to tell you that I really appreciate you being here. You seem to be a really nice person and your posts are always nice. I'm sorry that you're feeling hurt:(

I saw the thread in question and saw the reply in question, as well....

And to be honest, I did not see any attacks nor put downs. It wasn't like someone was taking Tyg by the testicles, hooking him onto a car and dragging him down the street saying, "You Suck!" It wasn't like that, at all. The reply was perfectly fine....

Not everyone is going to agree on idea's....that's what makes us so wonderful. Also was seperates us from animals, other than the opposable thumb....

It's like some months ago...in one of my "Caption This" threads. I posted a "spoof" picture someone made of this guy standing on the World Trade Center, with the Stay Puff Marshmellow man behind him. I thought it was someone humorous. My dear sweet friend, Trish...called me on it. She didn't find it funny, and looking back, I understand her feelings...and I respected them. I took the picture in question down...and in one simple post, I think Trish and myself learned alot about one another which has helped fuel our friendship...

Nessa wasn't disrespecting Tyg...she wasn't doing anything like that. She posted in a mature manner, not attacking the idea...but rather conveying her opinion on it. Just like we all have different senses of humor..we also have different opinions on relationships and sexual things as well...and that was conveyed.

Tyg didn't do anything wrong...
Nessa didn't do anything wrong...

If anything? It was just a simple misunderstanding...and it just snowballed. (No pun intended from the sexually speaking thread)

The important thing...is to take something away from this experience and situation...

~Dan