Runs in the family...

One of my sisters just moved back in with me after a bump in her current relationship. She is also in a relationship (relationship limbo right now!) with someone 13 years older than she is.

I am in a relationship with someone 18 years older than I am.

My father was 18 years older than my mother. My father also dated a woman for about a year who was 40 years younger than he is. She was 20 at the time. I also went to high school with her (that's another therapy session!).

Another of my sisters dates men 10 or more years older than she is. My brothers have dated women 10 or more years younger than they are.


I was just curious as to whether this is unique to my family. Are any of your immediate family in relationships where the partners have a significant age difference?

Hey Girly,

Funny you should bring this up. This once was an argument between me and my ex. He didn't believe that this ran in my family.

My mom was dating someone 11 years younger.

My grandparents have a 9 year age gap.

My aunt and uncle have a 13 year age gap.

My Dad usuall likes younger women.

Kinda funny how it does run in the family ;)

my mom and dad were less than 2 months apart in age, but they are both remarried now.

my dad's new wife is i think 11 or 12 years younger than he is. i really didn't notice or care, he mentioned it like he was worried about the age difference. i was dating someone 24 years my senior at the time, but my dad never met him, and i unfortunately fudged a bit on his age. during that conversation i said that the guy i was seeing was around the same age as K (his wife), when actually he was closer to my dad's age. i expected more of a reaction, if i had known how cool he was going to be about it i would have told the truth. ah, well. doesn't matter anymore.

anyway. that's all in my family that i know of. my boyfriend now is pretty close to my age. (he's a year younger, ok? i admit it! am i still welcome "over here"?) :p

but he's very mature for a youngin'!
;)

Well, I am married to a man 18 years my senior, and my brother is married to a woman 14 years his senior.

my father is 10 years older than my mother, and my aunt is married to a man who is at least 13 years her junior. It is probably more, but I'm not exactly sure!

Originally posted by captain1997
I think that fundamentally there are plenty of issues surrounding age gap relationships but age gap should not be singled out as an issue by itself. People of all levels and all walks of life mature at different rates and enjoy different things. Some of these differences can be attributed to age and some are not. The most important thing that comes to my mind is a couple having the relationship that they desire. Age gap be damned!

Just me being damned I have found this to be true in my life. Married twice to men my age and yet so much was lacking in communication and interests. For the first time, with my y/m, we share the same beliefs, same interests, have the same sense of humor , and can talk about anything . I have the relationship I always wanted and as you say captain....."Age gap be damned"
;)

Originally posted by captain1997
I think that fundamentally there are plenty of issues surrounding age gap relationships but age gap should not be singled out as an issue by itself. People of all levels and all walks of life mature at different rates and enjoy different things. Some of these differences can be attributed to age and some are not. The most important thing that comes to my mind is a couple having the relationship that they desire. Age gap be damned!

Just me being damned


Aye, Aye, I agree Captain. Sure there are plenty of issues facing couples that don't have to deal with age. Compatability on many levels is the key. You'll get no argument from me there.

It is interesting though to think of how much of what a person likes and dislikes in a significant other comes from family dynamics. You may like someone as funny as your brother or as sweet as your father is to your mother.

The opposite is true as well. You may not want someone as clingy as your mother or as ditsy as your sister. Who's to say that one's penchant for a lover's age isn't engraved in the back of his or her mind as well?


To borrow a phrase:

Just me attempting to stir up a debate with the Captain. :)

Popping over from the other side to say...pgbrowngirl, I really enjoy your posts!

Originally posted by joannalee
Popping over from the other side to say...pgbrowngirl, I really enjoy your posts!



Thank you, joannalee! I have found myself going back and reading your posts with interest as well. I love the fact that Ageless members offer such positive energy for each other.


I'll try to keep my swollen head in check! :)

In regards to the original question of this thread :D ...my mum and dad had 12 years apart, my mum being younger that is.

I can't really say though that it's soemthing that run in the family...it was an arranged marriage (this is going back 28 years back, we are as a community moving siftly away from the much more conservative ways of life i.e. arranged marriages).

Ive spoken to my family as a general subject about they feelings regarding age-gap relationships..it was quite ironic ...My mother doesn't support them, she said the only reason her and my dad had a gap was due to unforseen circumstances and my brothers feel totally opposed to the idea too ...Especially my older brother, he says if dad wasn't so older then mum wouldnt have become a widow so early on in her life.

I personally feel thats a shame :(

hey there... welcome to ageless...

you may want to post that on the other side of the boards... :) we are all younger women with Older men... of course you can join us anytime you like ... just if you are interested in OW/YM relationships that side is the place to go :)