whiterose
05-16-2004, 09:04 PM
I thought it would be a good idea to introduce a different ageless LDR couple each month. This will not only help current members get to know who else is involved in a LDR, but will help our new members identify who you are as well. We all have to stick together! ;)
If you are interested in having your story shared, please send me a PM.
Our first couple is Molly and Caden. Molly has been a member of ageless since November, 2003.
Here's what Molly has to say.....
Whiterose: How long have you been involved in a long-distance relationship?
Molly: Almost a year!
Whiterose: How did you first meet?
Molly: He was the younger brother of a friend. We'd sort of "im'd" a little off and on when he was at his brother's but we'd never really "talked" in person. One day he answered the phone and the rest, as they say, is history.
Whiterose: What type of age gap relationship are you involved in? Ex. Are you the older woman or the older man? And, what is your age difference?
Molly: ym/ow. Caden is 19, I'm 38, we're 19 years apart.
Whiterose: Do you live within the same country? If not, which countries do you two live in?
Molly: Yes, we live in the US. I'm in the Dakotas and he's in Florida at the moment. We're both looking to relocate on the central east coast. . .Ohio, PA, somewhere in there....
Whiterose: If you met online, how long did you two talk before deciding to meet in person?
Molly: Well, we spoke for several months before meeting in person.
Whiterose: How do you keep in touch with each other when you can‘t be together? And, how often?
Molly: We talk daily on the phone.
Whiterose: How often do you get to see each other in person? How long does your visit typically last?
Molly: Every few months for a few days. Wish it could be longer!
Whiterose: What kinds of things do you and your partner do to help cope with the distance when you cannot be together?
Molly: He sings to me on the phone. Which, if you could hear him sing would be a shocker because he can't sing, lol, but to me it's beautiful. We send each other cards, emails. He'll send me flowers, jewelry - I'm a ring hound so he spends a lot of time ring hunting. lol
Whiterose: How does your partner demonstrate to you that he/she is as committed to your LDR as you are?
Molly: My partner has some communication problems caused by ptsd so many times it's been hard for him to express what he's feeling or thinking. To make up for that, he's always been quite honest and vocal regarding our time spent together, what happens when others come on to him, or what he wants to do with our future.
Whiterose: Have you made any future plans to be together permanently? If so, who will be the one who will move?
Molly: Yes. We will both be relocating.
Whiterose: How does this relationship compare to others you have with someone who lives closer to you? For example, please describe the similarities and the differences.
Molly: For all the bumps we've had in the road given Caden's problems, I revel in the honesty that he brings to the relationship. While, yes, some of his thoughts on women and weight are totally lame brained, lol, I know he would never force them on me. He's given me his thoughts and wants me to make my own decisions. With my ex I was not allowed to make my own decisions.
Caden also makes me feel beautiful. The ex, while full of beautiful words, was obsessive and controlling, those words backed by a fist. My ym would never do that. I feel very secure with him. He's concerned about me, concerned about my children, he wants what's best for all of us and I never had that in all the years I was trapped with the ex.
Whiterose: If you had it all to do over again, would you still choose to be in a LDR?
Molly: Probably not. But then, it would depend upon the person on the other end.
Whiterose: Any other pearls of wisdom or comments you’d like to share with us about LDR’s?
Molly: This is not for those with weak stomachs. It's painful, full of impatience and often misunderstandings because you can't relay everything over the phone as you would in person. You hate the time you're apart but dread the time you can be "together" because you know it has to end. The ultimate reality that makes it as special as it is is the reality that you'll be together permanently at some point.
If you are interested in having your story shared, please send me a PM.
Our first couple is Molly and Caden. Molly has been a member of ageless since November, 2003.
Here's what Molly has to say.....
Whiterose: How long have you been involved in a long-distance relationship?
Molly: Almost a year!
Whiterose: How did you first meet?
Molly: He was the younger brother of a friend. We'd sort of "im'd" a little off and on when he was at his brother's but we'd never really "talked" in person. One day he answered the phone and the rest, as they say, is history.
Whiterose: What type of age gap relationship are you involved in? Ex. Are you the older woman or the older man? And, what is your age difference?
Molly: ym/ow. Caden is 19, I'm 38, we're 19 years apart.
Whiterose: Do you live within the same country? If not, which countries do you two live in?
Molly: Yes, we live in the US. I'm in the Dakotas and he's in Florida at the moment. We're both looking to relocate on the central east coast. . .Ohio, PA, somewhere in there....
Whiterose: If you met online, how long did you two talk before deciding to meet in person?
Molly: Well, we spoke for several months before meeting in person.
Whiterose: How do you keep in touch with each other when you can‘t be together? And, how often?
Molly: We talk daily on the phone.
Whiterose: How often do you get to see each other in person? How long does your visit typically last?
Molly: Every few months for a few days. Wish it could be longer!
Whiterose: What kinds of things do you and your partner do to help cope with the distance when you cannot be together?
Molly: He sings to me on the phone. Which, if you could hear him sing would be a shocker because he can't sing, lol, but to me it's beautiful. We send each other cards, emails. He'll send me flowers, jewelry - I'm a ring hound so he spends a lot of time ring hunting. lol
Whiterose: How does your partner demonstrate to you that he/she is as committed to your LDR as you are?
Molly: My partner has some communication problems caused by ptsd so many times it's been hard for him to express what he's feeling or thinking. To make up for that, he's always been quite honest and vocal regarding our time spent together, what happens when others come on to him, or what he wants to do with our future.
Whiterose: Have you made any future plans to be together permanently? If so, who will be the one who will move?
Molly: Yes. We will both be relocating.
Whiterose: How does this relationship compare to others you have with someone who lives closer to you? For example, please describe the similarities and the differences.
Molly: For all the bumps we've had in the road given Caden's problems, I revel in the honesty that he brings to the relationship. While, yes, some of his thoughts on women and weight are totally lame brained, lol, I know he would never force them on me. He's given me his thoughts and wants me to make my own decisions. With my ex I was not allowed to make my own decisions.
Caden also makes me feel beautiful. The ex, while full of beautiful words, was obsessive and controlling, those words backed by a fist. My ym would never do that. I feel very secure with him. He's concerned about me, concerned about my children, he wants what's best for all of us and I never had that in all the years I was trapped with the ex.
Whiterose: If you had it all to do over again, would you still choose to be in a LDR?
Molly: Probably not. But then, it would depend upon the person on the other end.
Whiterose: Any other pearls of wisdom or comments you’d like to share with us about LDR’s?
Molly: This is not for those with weak stomachs. It's painful, full of impatience and often misunderstandings because you can't relay everything over the phone as you would in person. You hate the time you're apart but dread the time you can be "together" because you know it has to end. The ultimate reality that makes it as special as it is is the reality that you'll be together permanently at some point.