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My name is Mike and I am 21-year-old student at Indiana University. Ever sinc eI was about 14, I have wanted a relationship with a womam who is older than I am. During the winter I met a 43 year old woman. She alsways talks to me. I catch her smiling at me. She often imitates what I do. She is interested in one of my tattoos, and even went to a library to research it. She even sketched it on one of her personal belongings. She also seems interested in other aspects of my life and has inquired about my family (asking if I had a wife and kids). She's also hinted that she doesn't have a man in her life. I have thought for a while that she is interested in me. What do you think?I am nervous about asking her out. I only see her in her workplace, and I have never asked a woman out who is that much older than I am. Any advice?

Welcome to Ageless, Mike. From what you've described, she seems to be interested enough. :) Of course there is always the risk of her saying no if you ask her out. She may resist the idea at first, due to the age difference but... the truth of the matter is that you won't know until you give it a shot. I'd say it's work taking a chance.

Best of luck. :)

~Elle

PS: It seems like she works with you, is that correct? If so, that would be my only concern. But, since you are in college and your job may not be a career building thing, I'd still say give it a shot -and wish you double luck. :D

I think Elle gave some great advice here, Mike. I'd be careful about the work environment as well if you work together, but if you feel comfortable enough with that, and your workplace does not have any rules against employees "dating", then I don't see a problem with you asking her out for a cup of coffee, or to go to lunch together, or to take a break together. Starting out like that is rather non-threatening, and let's you have a chance to talk and be together in a no-pressure kind of situation. Hope things work out for you.

Yes, ask her out for coffee sometime. That isn't really like a date, just an opportunity to have a casual chat. She shouldn't feel threatened by that.

Hi Mike

Welcome to ageless! We LOVE to give advice, lol.

This woman is interested in you for sure. I agree with the other lovely ladies here and suggest you ask her to coffee and explore things a little further with her that way.

How interested in her are you?

I agree....ask her out for coffee.

Originally posted by Mr20s
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My name is Mike and I am 21-year-old student at Indiana University. Ever sinc eI was about 14, I have wanted a relationship with a womam who is older than I am. During the winter I met a 43 year old woman. She alsways talks to me. I catch her smiling at me. She often imitates what I do. She is interested in one of my tattoos, and even went to a library to research it. She even sketched it on one of her personal belongings. She also seems interested in other aspects of my life and has inquired about my family (asking if I had a wife and kids). She's also hinted that she doesn't have a man in her life. I have thought for a while that she is interested in me. What do you think?I am nervous about asking her out. I only see her in her workplace, and I have never asked a woman out who is that much older than I am. Any advice?

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Hi! She's definitely interested in you, at least on a friendship level. She probably finds you attractive as well, but may not be interested in pursuing a relationship... that's why the coffee idea is so good! It'll give you an opportunity to get to know each other better without the pressure of a date scenario.

Thank you all for your helpful replies! It makes me feel better to talk about this with some other people, especially women, and especially women who are aren't my age. I may ask her out for coffee or lunch this week. AS of now, I am very interested in her and would like to get to know her better. thanks again,
Mike

i think she is interested also, but news flash for ya:) just treat her like how you would if you were interested in a woman your own age, as a woman in her forties, i like coffee, i like alot of stuff probably a woman in her twenties would like. in other words relax!!! she is just older, not a alien from another planet. take care and give it a shot and see where it takes you.

Oh yes, excellent advice Kitty, we forgot that part!

Just consider this date like any other date and you will be okay, whatever the outcome!

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