Hi, I am new with a question....

Hi there. I am a soon-to-be-divorced 30-something with no children. I am very good friends with a younger man (8 yrs. younger) that I am attracted to. I'm not sure how he feels about me other than that he and I work together at one of my jobs sometimes and we go out for drinks and confide in each other. An ex-girlfriend is still in the picture, but she and I are friends as well, and there is no chance of a reunion, from what I can tell.

Anyways, we go out once in awhile strictly as friends; that is what confuses me a bit about the situation. We've gone out for dinner and drinks once, and then drinks the other night, and he initiated both times. Plus, he came to my house last year for a party when I was still married, but that was when things were going sour. It has been fine and a lot of fun. I think he actually respects my opinion and me as a person, so nothing has ever happened. To confuse it even more, he is an employee of one of my close relatives. He has said things like "I need a girlfriend" (just the other night) and "I don't want anybody my age....I need someone more mature and established" right to my face. What am I supposed to think of that? Any insights? Is he giving me signals, or just being nice?
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Hi Ozfan, and welcome to agelesslove!

It's possible that he is in fact giving you signals that he may be interested. At the time when you are ready to begin pursuing a new relationship, perhaps if he has not approached you with any interest, you could then let him know that you are interested. Maybe he hasn't approached you yet because he doesn't think you're ready since your divorce is not yet final?

Welcome to Ageless!

If you aren't divorced yet he might be waiting to see how that goes. He certainly sounds interested, but you aren't quite free and that might slow things down for the moment. It sounds as if your best bet is to act interested and wait for the divorce to be final. Once it is, if he hasn't asked you out -- why not ask him? Since you are friends anyway, if it doesn't pan out then it was just two friends out on the town.

Peace,
Jane

Ps, are you by chance a "Boy From Oz" fan?

Yes, I am a huge Boy from Oz fan! Glad that you noticed! Saw it once, and I'm going back to see it again!

Thanks for the advice, I saw him at work last night and we talked for about 20 minutes on my way out...and I asked him to get a drink on Thursday night, since I will see him again at work. It is tentative for now.

Later on, when I was online last night, he IM'd me to apologize for venting about some of the stress in his life....I don't mind talking with him about that stuff, since I'm close to it in a way. Anyways, we will see what happens...

Hi there

Sounds like he is interested. Just keep it friendly for now. When I was going through my divorce, my YM was a huge support and then when I was free - he was "In like Flynn!!"

Good luck with everything and keep us all posted.

Dizzy