OMG my daughter died her blonde hair red

Alright all...I consider myself FAIRLY open-minded and my older kids have done hair coloring...tattoos...u know...stuff. My son even got a bigger tattoo than I would have WISHED for his 17th birthday a couple of weeks ago...a cross about the size of my hand smack in the middle of his back....i have ONE rule in this house and that is NO facial/tongue piercings... it's just my own hangup=) Today while i was working...mind you I WORK in our home....my soon-to-be freshman daughter dyed her beautiful blonde hair....a color of red Ill call mahoghany...although Im sure the BOX had a 'cooler' name than THAT! This one was permanent and she did it while, of course, she KNEW I'd be busy with the kids at work. The problem is she likes it, but her boyfriend HATES it (SO DO I) and now she says she HAS to have her blonde hair back by the time her boyfriend returns from London July 6th. Any help or salon experts here???? Should I just call a color salon and ask WHAT we do with her hair now?? Since the dye was permanent instead of the temporary wash out kind :rolleyes:I'm not sure if there is anything we can do except wait for all that red to GROW OUT...those are NATURAL consequences I think, lol...but really...I want her blonde hair BACK! ANY suggestions would be GREATLY appreciated=)

Oh wow..... :( I would consider going to a professional. I know that there are products you can buy in the professional shops that completely lifts all the color out of your hair, and then you can use a regular dye to dye it back close to what it was...but considering she just dyed it, and the stripping being kind of a harsh chemical process...I think I would go to a professional. When I used to dye my own hair, I used the color lifting product. I cannot for the life of me remember the name. However, it really does work...strips all the color from your hair, and then you start with a so-called "blank slate" to absorb the new color.

As an aside, one time I decided to dye my hair black....(don't ask), and then changed my mind. I went and bought blonde dye, and ended up with a totally lovely shade of green. I had to go BACK to the store with my green hair to buy even more dye. I figured my hair would just fall right out by the time I was finished! (This was before I discovered color stripping/lifting)

My son did the very same thing once. It was actually some sort of cranberry red, but it looked mahogany, too. It was awful. He was going through his gothic phase then.

I have no advice whatsoever about what to do, though! His grew out on its own. And it took a LONG time. :)

Hello Singalou.

Professional advice coming your way...
DO NOT MAKE ANY ATTEMPTS TO FIX THIS YOURSELF!!! It will only make the situation worse. Go to a reputable salon to have this problem remedied. There are some excellent professional products on the market that might be successful in removing the color. There are no guarantees, though, as home box colors can be tricky. Again, whatever you end up doing, DO NOT try and fix it yourself. The more home color you use, the bigger the problem and the harder it becomes to fix!

Good luck!!!


edit: I guess I should mention that I am a hairstylist/colorist:)

LOL! My baby sister just dyed over 50% of her jet black hair red last week! I think it looks funny! She looks like a little cartoon character! :D

Sing, shampooing with dishsoap like Palmolive may help fade it a bit, but yes I think she'll have to go to a proffessional---and they aint cheap!!
:rolleyes:

If its any comfort to you, when I was her age I had a modified mohawk, one side of which I had dyed blue. Guess they are all Lessons Learned :D

Also washing it with Matrix Alternate Action will help fade it faster. But I would not put any more chemicals on it without consulting with a salon. She could end up with green hair or no hair if it is not done correctly.

I know how you feel. My daughter has gorgeous blonde hair that most women would die for and she dyed hers red too. Everyone hates it but her! :eek: It is finally about faded out to her normal color now, thank God.

LOL...my daughter is reading replies with me now...she's like OH i KNOW...im the only one who really loves my new hair....:D Inserting her LOVELY new hair to my avatar now...so you can decide IF you like it...also...we're going to the color salon tmw to see what they suggest we do. Thanks for the replies all....ill let you know what actual color we get next;)

Well, here is to your daughter then....you know, it really doesn't look bad....you have a beautiful face! You just have to remember that everyone (including your Mom) is used to seeing you with your blonde hair, and it was a shock! It takes a while to adjust. Even when I got to professional salon to have my hair colored, it takes a while to get used to the new color. Sometimes it takes a few days. Having said that....you did have beautiful blonde hair, and Im sure at the salon they will be able to help you get it back.

If your Mom approves (which Im sure you would want to discuss with her) and you want to experiment in the future....there are a lot of rinses and semi-permanent colors on the market now that work really well. I let my daughter use one, and they wash out in something like 18-20 washes. That way you get to try it and see if you (and everyone else) likes it first, before you do something permanent.

((hugs)) to you!

I realize that in pictures sometimes colors don't look the same in pictures as they do in person. But, I actually don't think the color looks bad at all!

I'm sure that since she's blonde, it was a huge difference and will take some time getting used to. But, I tend to agree with Babes. If her b/f has a problem with how she looks, then maybe it's time to find a new b/f. She's a beautiful girl. And, besides, isn't it her inner beauty that matters most? I say if she is happy with her hair, let her keep it. One thing about hair... it always grows.

you are all so sweet=)....sarah actually LIKES it but it is not really a case of her allowing a BF to tell her what to do;) she really doesnt let anyone walk on her....hard life skill she acquired at a very young age but will suit her well into womanhood:D I think both the BF and I could live with it...lol...IF she truly wanted to keep it...she just wished to TRY something new and be independent about it...once that feat was accomplished...she doesnt really care to keep it now=) We were having so much fun last night reading the posts ....my older daughter had purple streaks at one time. Whiterose...we both laughed out loud when you said 'your son's GOTHIC phase'....both my older daughter and sarah experiment with that too...at ONE point my older one wore black eyeliner in strange little squiggly lines down to her cheeks. We see pictures now and she says...'geez mom why did you let me walk out of the house like that?'....OH ...becuz YOU were asserting your 16 yr old newfound right to independence and it WAS necessary to let you then! Sarah wants her blonde hair back, but with 'something' different to it...not the same ole blonde hair. We'll talk to the colorist and see what we could do with blonde that would be different;)....told her perhaps we could go back and get some color of highlights after we fix the basic color....think that works for her. Have a great weekend all!

You know Sing . . . this may sound mean, but maybe she should have to live with the red hair for a while so she can learn that impulsive actions do create consequences and maybe she will think a little harder next time before jumping in and doing something that is supposed to be permanent without thinking the whole thing out. The next thing she tries may not be as easy to remedy as hair color.

Peachy--you are right...living with the consequences of our choices is NOT at all a bad idea....OH she is gonna have TONS of fun:D with lots of lil kids WORKING off the MONEY it's gonna take to 'remedy' the hair;) ...maybe ill just SAVE the worst smelling diapers for HER:)

Former hairstylist and Cosmetology license carrying person here:D

Well, a color stripper or bleach would have to be used to get the red out. This is very damaging to the hair.

I didn't see her pic but personally, I think if she wants it that way, let her have it. It is probably only a temporary change and most of us do these things at one time or another. It's an experiment to see what we really like.

When I was in cosmetology school, I had rainbow hair and every color imaginable by itself as well as permanents and different haircuts. I was lucky to have a few sprigs left upon graduation!

Even when I started working in a salon I had long hair but had some of the underneath shaved and had different decorations shaved into the sides.:p I can't even imagine that now.

But as young people or even older sometimes, we have to spread our wings and fly. Sometimes our wings get clipped but that is ok, for we are learning and growing in the process.

Best Wishes!
xoxo

Hi Sing-
Wow, our teens can sure put us through some "stuff"
can't they? LOL

With hair, I try not to get too bothered by it.
Thank God it grows out.
I would say let your daughter have her red hair
and don't try putting a bunch of junk on it to change it.
You don't want to damage it.

My teens have put me through the same upsets.

My youngest daughter, who has a very thick head
of natural blonde curly hair, (it's gorgeous), decided
to let a girlfriend shave all her hair off underneath
from one ear all around to the other ear.
Now, this is a look that isn't so bad for girls with straight
hair, but on my daughter, it looked hideous.
Plus the girl shaved it too far up and when my daughter
finally realized what she'd done, she cried for three
days straight and refused to go to school.
(She was 15 at the time- she is 17 now).

My oldest daughter, at 17, came home with her tongue
pierced and this one really bothered me.
I don't like this kind of piercing
and have read some horror stories
about how people have gotten severe infections
from these and for some people, it caused their tongue
to be paralyzed. She took the "ring" out after a
few months and let the hole heal over.
(Thank goodness)


My 16 year old son and I just recently had a tiff over
him wanting me to shave his head.
I don't like the way he looks with his head shaved-
and he and I bickered about it for awhile when
all of a sudden a had a vision from years ago of my
Mother chasing my brother around the house with a
pair of scissors because his hair had grown over his ears.
This was back in the early 70's and my Father was yelling in the
background as my Mother chased my brother,
"There will not be any long-haired hippies in MY house!"
I shaved my son's head.

My oldest daughter also came home with a tattoo-
a cute little butterfly on her ankle.
It was no big deal to me, but I was married at the time
and my ex came unglued over it all.
(He detests tattoos).

The kids all want to be different and at the same time,
"be just like their peers".
They try some crazy stuff with their looks, that is for sure.
Seems too, they always want what they don't have -
blondes wanting red hair and all of that.

My oldest daughter has had every color of hair there is
and the only thing I worried about was the damage
she was causing to her hair.
There was a year that her hair was dry straw from
all the different colors.
Now she highlights only and it looks much more
healthy and the highlights give her hair a very nice look.
They DO grow out of the whacky stuff!

I won't even go into the stories of my oldest daughter
and what she did with make-up when she was
a teen!
Oh my- I refer to the year she was 15,
as "The Year Of The Raccoon".




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You can use Dawn or Palmolive dish liquid or as a last resort Wal Mart does sell soemthing that will strip the dye out of your hair but it is very drying.

Oh, wow! I love red hair! :D An OW I'm friends with has red hair. Her mother told her to dye it back to it's original color blonde, so she could be beautiful again. I told her "You look great with red hair! Don't change it!" :p
;)

Sing,

My daughter has naturally blonde hair. A lot of people in my family had blonde hair, but by the time they reached 16, it started turning dark brown. Not hers, it is a most beautiful shade of honey blonde, and everyone thinks she dyes it to keep it that color, all her friends have to that have blonde hair. She is 18 now.

When she was 16, she died it cranberry red. She looked great in it, It was a temporary color but it changed the color of her hair for almost 1-1/2 years. Everything she tried to get the color out just didn't work. She went to beautitians, but nothing helped, for some reason, the reddish tint lingered for a long time. She thought her honey blonde would never come back and she has never died it again. lol

i have to say i luv red hair...i have a dark auburn short choppy spiky look...with occassional pigtails....i too am naturally blond ive tried to go back but i love the red too much to give it up!besides i get way too many complements about how the color looks with my eyes....i personally would love to have electric blue hair if i could...i have 1 tatoo but i want 2 more and my belly is pierced...would luv some other things pierced too but no $$$ right now for extras...& i color my daughters hair...& both of my sons have had theirs colored but they rnt in the mood right now....besides hair always grows out....as for piercing & tats for them after they r 16 if i feel they understand they r stuck with whatever happens after they get them then id be cool as long as the tat is not offensive...each person has to explore who they r & try things...i say if it would hurt u or anyone else...hey be who u r then