confused...need advise quick!!

ok guys i am still a virgin and there isa guy who i have been around scince i was a little girl..he is much older. We have been sorta messin around but no sex. He want to meet me at my house sometime soon and have sex with me. I kno he is the type of guy to just do it and 4-get i dont kno what to do when i amw ith him i cant control myself but im afraid it will not only hurt physically but emotionally...what should i do go with it? or dont?

You sound young Shauna........ how old are you? How old is he?

I feel this way about it, based on the limited info you gave. If you have this much anxiety about it, then that is YOUR GUT telling you it's not a good thing!!!

That nagging feeling is something you need to learn to listen to and pay attention..... it will keep you out of trouble later in life.

If you have to ask "do it? or not do it?"...... then you are not ready for "it"........ and you'd be better off waiting for someone that LOVES YOU and will be around afterwards.

Tell him you are not giving it up and he can wait or hit the road girlfriend!!!! You shouldn't be with someone that is going to treat you like a drivethru window....... sheesh.

p.s. Also, if you decide to go ahead ....... PLEASE use protection!!!! But I still say you shouldn't based on your own fears posted above.

Ummmm....am I the only one alarmed by reading this
post?
Obviously this person is a child....

I mean:

shauna
Boys and Girls Club of Glendale

shauna
If you are not under 18, I apologize,
but your words sure come off as being from
a very young girl.




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Don't do it, Shauna....don't do it...you will regret it forever.

Hi Shauna,

If you have to post here to ask if it is okay you already know that it isn't right for you to do this. When you are ready and with the right person making love seems so right that you won't even have to think about it.

Stay away from this man. You say he wants to meet with you and "have sex." That's not the way you treat someone you love and care about. This man just wants something from you and that something could hurt you both. Don't do it. If he scares you, tell someone about it and don't be afraid to seek protection. Never let yourself be pushed into doing anything that you don't want to do. Not sex...not *anything*!

You say you "can't control yourself" when you are with him. That's just your body talking. This is a time you have to use your head. You are a woman, no matter how old you are and a woman respects her body to much to give it to any man who does not respect her in return. Part of being an adult woman is to know when to walk away from a situation that you know isn't right. I pray you find the strength to walk away from this one.

(((HUG)))
Jane

Moderator *please* don't delete this thread -- Shauna needs someone to talk to about this.

How old are you, Shauna?

We all see that this is something that is not good for you. Do not go out with this man. It seems he may be someone whom you see often socially? You should avoid being alone with him. Do not accidently give him any reason to hope. You should wait a few years before you have sex with anyone, if you are as young as I think you are.
If this man is ove 25 and you are 16 or under? Call social services and get a social worker to intervene for you.