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hi im 25 and always fancied older women the ones my own age - cant realy get along with. well went on hold with friends and this lwoman and her kids came too that i sorta knew, anyway, found out she is split from husband he went off with some1 else, i think shes is beauitful and want to get to know her more. we got on well. how should i proceed

Hi Prime.

Welcome to Ageless. You have come to the right place for advice. How much older is this woman you are interested in? Can your friends plan a group event and invite her along so that you have a chance to talk to her and ask her out? That might be the best way since she has recently split up. It might stress her out if you just call her out of the blue and ask for a date. Although she may seem to be okay with her separation, such a direct approach might unsettle her. So, a casual social situation might be the best way to approach her.

P.S. I really like your signature!

Hi Primevera,

It's always nice to meet a fellow "Buckaroo Banzai" fan. Long live Buckaroo and the Blue Blaze Irregulars! LOL

As for your lady friend, I would think that the best way is to ask her out for something safe like lunch or coffee. Or if you hang out together keep on doing that and gently let her know you are interested in her as more than just a friend. Since she has been dumped you have to be stable and sincere and not come across as looking for a fling.

If she is really sure that the agegap is a problem, see if you can get her to come here and read the messages. There are a lot of couples making a go of it and being really happy. The age difference seems important at first, but as you become a couple, it usually fades into the background.

I met my husband on line, so we didn't really have this sort of experience. I hope someone can give you some better ideas.

Peace,
Jane (56) married to Dave (30) for 22 glorious months. :)

hi, thanx all for advice, she is maybe 14yrs older. iwe got on well whilst away but that was probably just friends and doubt shes looking anyway. Im going away next weekend and thought id send her a postcard just saying hi - would this be a good idea? otherwise when i return i was going to wait and see her when shes comes into my shop and ask her for date.

Just be casual, talk to her, be polite. Maybe ask her on a date and just be your self, you will be fine.:D

would the best way to ask a ow our on date to wait and see her face to face of ring her and maybe say lets meet for coffee/lunch? forgot to say she has i think not long split from her husb. scared she say something like no or not ready!
thanks!

Whichever works! Does it matter? As long as you are asking her. Go for it. :)

hi, just found out that her husband has run off with some1 else, and she has lost alot of weight but the children and her seemed ok when i saw them. not sure if shes going for divorce bcoz shes catholic.

talking to a friend about my feelings last night, and he said she probably won't be interested because i am younger and he went on about shes obviously more mature than you being 40 and he said i know this is the wrong word but for that reason she could easily overpower me. How do ppl cope with maturity gap? is just wanting to make each other happy companionship etc enough to overcome all else? thankyou