What to say?

HI All:
I am new to the board and have introduced myself in new members. I also posted about a YM I am interested in and a compliment he said to me about my perfume. We sort of work together, by that I mean he works with catering (one section) I work as an Symphony Usher (in another section). There is no time to speak to him unless we bump into each other (every blue moon). The summer is coming and we will not be "working together" much longer until September. I am rather shy about approaching people and really would like to get to know him.
Are there members who would like to share how I can TACTFULLY say something to him, invite him for coffee or something? Of course just walking over to say something to him is way to scary for me.
Thanks for the other replies I received.

Are there members who would like to share how I can TACTFULLY say something to him, invite him for coffee or something? Of course just walking over to say something to him is way to scary for me.

Hi, Cheryl....

If you were a relative of mine like a daughter or sister, I
would try to do play-acting exercises with you so that
you don't feel scared talking to him.....

BUT that's not practical right now.

So, I'd recommend writing a note. It's the only practical
thing for people who are hopelessly shy or nervous.

Keep the note short and to the point, like this:

Can we talk later on?
I'm at (473) 276-8673

Cheryl

Write this on a small folded-up piece of notepaper and
slip it in his palm or pocket when you next meet. You
don't have to say a thing. Maybe just wink. ;)

If he made a flattering remark about your perfume, I
guarantee he's interested in you. He will call, and then
you can talk in private. :)

Cheryl - I would never have thought of Harrison's appraoch, but it is interesting and might work. I would probably try to literally "bump into him" , laugh and say "hey = want to a grab a coffee with me later?" It is so scary putting yourself right out there isn't it?

I'm sure the other folks will have some more great ideas - we are very creative here! Welcome!

Originally posted by abby
Cheryl - I would never have thought of Harrison's appraoch, but it is interesting and might work....

Actually, abby, I tried it out at work once, but it was
for non-romantic reasons. I needed to talk to a co-
worker about some work issues, but in private, and
there was no time or space to do it at work.

So, I handed her the little slip with my number, and
asking her to call me. She did, so I know it can work.
;)

My first thought was Abby's suggestion to somehow find a way to bump into him and start a conversation. But, if you're the shy type, I can understand how the conversation part may be difficult. So, my next thought was a note like Harrison has suggested. It's a long summer and why not tell him in a note that you are interested in him and give him your phone number? The worst that can happen is that he doesn't call you, but then at least you'll know for sure how interested he is.

i dunno about the note thing, but then again since he was the one that commented about your perfume (ie, he was the one that said something to you FIRST) i can actually see it working well.

when in doubt, theres nothing wrong with a little white lie....

something along the lines of going up to him and saying something like....

"hey, you doing anything later? i was sposed to meet up with a friend of mine after work but she ditched me and now i've got no plans for the night..."

obviously start with some small talk before using something like that, like asking him how his day was, complain about the long day at work together etc etc.

and yes it has workedon my end if i wanted to talk to someone :D

Hi Cheryl and Welcome to Ageless

I have had attractions like you described.
They are giddy!
Do you and him talk at all-
or do you just say hello now and then?

The suggestions given you so far are great.
I know asking someone out for coffee if you haven't
had a lot of time chatting with them is scary.
(But do consider it...)

Well, I don't know how close you are to your fellow
workers, but I work for a catering company,
(I'm a Chef), so I know the closeness a crew can
develop with one another.

This is what I would do.
I'd have a party.
I don't know your living situation of if you can afford
a nice gathering for friends-
but you could invite everyone to your home for a
cook-out and make sure this YM is invited too.
Just call it a "end of the season party" before everyone
goes on hiatus.
Of course, if he doesn't come, you will feel a big
disappointment, so please prepare yourself for that
and try to have a good time with those that do come.

If a gathering at your home is not suitable-
maybe you and one of your closer co-workers could
plan a little gathering at a local pub or bar.
He might be more inclined to come to that, rather
than something at your home.

Whatever you do-
you need to do it soon or the season will be gone.
I just don't know what to suggest as I am uncertain
as to how much of a friendship you have with him.

If you are just admiring him from afar and know nothing
about him, (such as, if he has a girlfriend or what his interests
are), then you really are starting from square one.

Hope my suggestions are helpful and hope
you get a chance to get to know him better too!

Let us know what happens!



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Hi Cheryl! I think the note is an excellent idea! Guys are pretty darn shy too when it comes to the dating thing. Speaking from experience, I think any man would love to get a note from a woman saying she's interested! And I bet anything he'd call as soon as he could!

Cheers from Cali!

Dave