I need help here...

It's just that latley I've been having fits where I've burst into tears. Out of nowhere I feel so alone, so scared. I've moved out on my own, but I don't like sleeping in an empty place, it scares me. I want to talk to my lady about this, but I'm afraid if I open up to her, I'm going to bring her down because shes recovering from depression as well. I'm already getting paranoid thoughts about her not coming over when she says she will (shes supposed to come tommorow afternoon). I miss her so much when shes not around but I don't want to scare her away. I'll visit her after work tonight as shes leaving, like I do every Thursday, but why do I get a bad feeling about tommorow?

when you feel them come on, just let them.

Now, about not feeling secure in your relationship, haven't you realized from our board that most of us have ups and downs where we don't feel "secure in someone's love"? People aren't perfect, and getting two imperfect people together is often a rough path. I think the key here is to calm down. I sense that you are getting hysterical, and I would have to guess that you are working out some stuff from the past. This is one of the few cases that I would recommend finding a therapist if it goes on for any length of time.

Striker : These are not the kinds of feelings a relationship can fix. These are the kinds of feelings counseling can fix. Get yourself to a sliding scale psychology clinic in your area and ask for help. It will help you to manage your feelings better.

Striker, you might want to get ahold of a therapist.

Agreed..check out this with a therapist. Could even be some brain chemicals acting up..

I see one about once a week and things haven't been any better.

The woman I'm seeing is being evasive again because she feels that we're becoming too close and we're turning into boyfriend and girlfriend and she doesn't want a relationship. I didn't ask for one, I've just tried to have a good time. She says everytime those feelings are aroused (sexually and emotionally) it reminds her of how her ex made her feel like a cheap *****. His last words to her were "You slept with me on the first date, *****" before they broke up. But I don't want to have sex, I just want a nice fun relationship where the other person acknowledges that they like the other. But her kid is telling her parents about me and then the age is brought up, and they all tell her that I'm out to use her sexually. So this is a huge frustration it's like hitting a brick wall over and over again..