Introducing myself

I just stumbled upon this board tonight and wanted to introduce myself. I am 32 and seperated. I'm now dating a 23 year old man who i really believe to be my soul mate. The age difference was an issue in the beginning, but not so much anymore. The only real issue is our future-- I have 2 kids, he would want kids, and I'm not sure I do. Stuff like that.
I'm so glad i stumbled here!

Hi, there I'm relatively newer to the sight too.

Having kids is probably the biggest factor for the man in this type of relationship. Personally right now I am really falling hard for my women, she means the world to me and I feel as though I would'nt need to have my own child with her. She has three kids and her youngest is two and I really like him. This is a tough issue though because you never know when life will give you an epffiony that makes you change you're mind. The thing of it is to me is that if you truely love you're special person no matter what situations you face you will accept them and compromise to make the relationship the best it can be.

If you love each other and have good communication I'm sure you will be fine though. Really though if you have not asked him you might be surprised I know older men in relationships were they don't have a child of their own. It really just depends on the person, everyone is different some might really want a kid some might be totally fine without having any.

I am a 36 year old, divorced mom of 4 and my live-in b/f is 19. We have been together (online at first and then real life last November) for a little over a year. The age gap is scary and so are life issues that correspond to our partner's ages (as well as ours). Committment, support, and communication are the keys to managing through those feelings of anxiety.

Post often... its a good group and its nice to have you and all the other new folks here!

So a big welcome to you all! :D

Hello and welcome! We have a member SuzieQ, and she rocks! Nice nickname!

How long have you been dating? Are you having doubts because the relationship is not long enough or because you really don't want to have any more children? Have you told him about how you feel and what has been his reaction?

I'm 43, my boyfriend is 27, and we both want children, but not right now. As I think it will be difficult for me to have them naturally, our options don't depend on my age anymore and we are not in a hurry. Looking at your age, you still have time, too, and you may change your mind when you want.

Having time is a good thing, you don't have any pressure.

Thanks for being so welcoming!
Here's a few more details.
I'm 32, he's 23. I am in the middle of a seperation, and divorce will be final in January. My bf and i have been dating about 5 months. He is wonderful- everything I want and need. He's gorgeous, driven, romantic, passionate, giving, and makes me laugh and smile all the time. He has quickly become by best friend, and I can't imagine life without him. We knew quite quickly that we wanted to make this long term- we've looked at rings and talked about ways to make this work. (He lives 1 1/2 hours away from me) He has met my children, and loves them. He wants children of his own, and mine have been such a blessing to me that I can see why he would. BUT I have a history of breast cancer, and b/c of my treatments I've had, I'm not even sure I can have more children. (or that I want them) He says he wants to be with me regardless, but I know in my heart, I would be denying him what he truly wants.
We haven't really had any issues due to age. The only one I can think of is that when we are apart, he goes out a lot- hanging out, drinking, etc. Having two kids, working full time, and mananging a household (he rents) leaves me little time for that type of thing. I guess I get jealous that he has so much free time and lack of responsibility. Other than that, we get along so well, and I truly believe he's my soulmate. Age is nothing but a number. He makes me feel young and beautiful, and I ground him a little- it's a perfect match. :D

Hi SuzieQ,

My bf and I have the same age-gap as you guys. I have been living with my bf for 13 months now....I was 33 when we met, and he was 23 (now 34/24).

I'm sorry to hear about the breast cancer...you're doing the right thing not having more children as the huge does of oestrogen can make cancer proliferaate very quickly. You're a very brave woman!.

I believe that there are some major advantages in choosing not to have children.....personal freedom, travel opportunites, less stress on the relationship, more money, and more lifestyle options. The childless couples I know who are content with their decision take full advantage of the lifestyle and opportunities offered to them; some put their nuturing energies into humanitariarn cuases, take an active role in helping relatives with children, or care for pets.

I personally don't see why people get all worked up over `missing' out on child-raising when life offers so many alternative ways to spend your time and energy. To me, child-raising is just one out of about a zillion choices we may make regarding where we devote our energies.

You've found a fantastic site full of caring and supporting people. I can relate on the divorce and separation thing; my ex-wife left our children and myself in order to go live whatever life it is she wants to live, and our divorce was final earlier this year.

Your YM sounds like a fantastic guy:D who love you for who you are, and that's a rare find indeed. You sound as happy with your YM as I am with my OW, and that's happy at a twenty on a scale of one to ten for me.

Well, welcome to Ageless:cool:

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