Thoughts

Hey Everyone,
I just found this site yesterday and I think it is great and hopefully I will have alot of valuable information to share through my experiences as well as gain some valuable insite as well....
Here is my what I call dilema...I am 26, my partner is 32. We have been dating actively for about a month and a half...it was great up until recently where I confessed that I do carry some insecurities which I know turned her off..probably because my confidence in my self is what attracted her to me to begin with...we had a week where we just were not gettting along as a result...it was awful for us because we both care about each other very much. In addition, within a couple of weeks, we told each other we love each other...from that point it seemed the relationship was too serious and we need to slow down. We decided to give each other space while she went to NY with her girlfriends...throughout the time she would text message me and tell me how much she missed me and I missed her too...She is a very caring and independent woman which I am not used to so she really enjoys her space.
Anyway, she is in a life altering situation...bottom line she has adapted a teen in a addition to her younger child and is now raising two children as opposed to one...since then, she has been very distant from me...doesn't email me as often or call...she lives a couple hours from me and our schedules never meet....We talked about it a little and she does not feel this would jeopardize our relationship but I am not sure....I know my insecurity is kicking in or maybe things are truly fine....I never raised two kids so maybe it is taking alot out of her...your thoughts?
I am really backing off now and not calling her as much and emailing her maybe once a day but I just have this bad feeling about things....it could be just me.

We talked about it a little and she does not feel this would jeopardize our relationship but I am not sure....I know my insecurity is kicking in or maybe things are truly fine....I never raised two kids so maybe it is taking alot out of her...your thoughts?
I am really backing off now and not calling her as much and emailing her maybe once a day but I just have this bad feeling about things....it could be just me. [/B][/QUOTE]


Be thankful she said what she did..... it probably is your insecurity and it does take a lot to raise even one child. A woman usually pours a lot of energy into her children...ITS INSTINCTIVE.
Please don't go into the Older man way of thinking and think she is shunning you for her children.... be patient.... this is new to her too ALL OF IT..... be there for her when she needs you to be and dont add to her dilema right now and I believe you will reep the benefits!! :)
Just my own humble advise....as seen through the eyes of a woman whos husband was insecure.... ABOUT EVERYTHING!!!!

I would imagine that adopting another child, no matter how old they are, can impact her ability to talk to you as often -- at least initially.

You say you are talking less. How often do you talk to each other now?