from Russia with love

I have been corresponding for a few months now with this wonderful Russian lady who I met on on one of those friendship.com websites.

She lives in Western Siberia of all places (Novosibirsk) and she just recently told me that she is in love me..and I mean madly in love with me. We have exchanged emails, pictures, bios and even phone calls. She's very beautiful, intelligent and has this wonderful down to earth character that I find to be very appealing. I'm sure if I ask her to marry me tomorrow she would say yes!

But I have read that 50% of all of these types of foreign marriages are simply scams. You know just to get their U.S. citizenship and then six months later dump you like a rock. So I'm sorta feeling guilty that I don't really believe her..you know what I mean? I know the best thing is to fly over and see her but I can't get the time off and besides $1400 for airflight plus a visa is tight for me right now...sleepless in Seattle.

the waxman

Well, I don't know for certain that 50% of all of these types of marriages are actually scams, but I sure hope not since I'm marrying a Romanian man! However, I have definitely read a whole lot of articles on the web about Russian women in particular conning American men. So, please be careful.

Have you by any chance viewed her on webcam? I do hope you'll be able to visit her.

Good luck to you. You'll have to keep us posted.

EDIT: One more thing--- there's no way she can leave you after 6 months if she marries you to get into the U.S. She would have to stay married to you for at least two years and then at the end of the two years, YOU have to be the one to apply to have her conditions removed from the green card. So, it's not as easy as one may think to marry and run.

Mostly what Ive heard rumors about are men who after a few months of correspondance and falling in love with a woman, are conned into sending money to "help" the woman and her family. In alot of those cases it may not even be a woman, just someone with pretty pictures and a way with words and writing letters.

I think viewing on webcam is a good idea, as well as a visit to her home for you if you're serious about her. Just keep your eyes peeled!
Maybe she's a wonderful person who just happens to be from another country and that would be great!

You never know where love is waiting for you to find it.
Good Luck to you!

There are scams everywhere, even in Luxembourg! Such a small, quiet and organized place, but you know, human beings live here, and human beings are not always good.

Take your time to know her, some people will take all measures to be on the safe side and will only find out they've been fooled months after living together (some take years...) it depends on the determination of the bad partner to stay and take advantages of the naïve one...

Meeting is the best thing, there are not other more efficient ways to get to know someone. But you can dream until you meet, and make sure you do whatever you can to know more and more about her.

Originally posted by ravenglow

You never know where love is waiting for you to find it.
Good Luck to you! [/B]

That is so true..even before her I was corresponding with another lady from Azerbaijan..she was somebody I was getting serious about too. But love could be across the street or across town or halfway across the world...you just don't know.

I guess that whats makes life so interesting...:)

If you want my opinion, it's not worth the potential heartache. She could be genuinely in love with you, but you can't take that chance. You don't know what her true intentions are. I've heard similiar stories about women from Russia and Ukraine using American men to get money and U.S citizenship. Your intuiton is correct. Please take my advice, and don't pursue this. Of course, if you do pursue it, I would do it with low expectations.

Well after much thought I have decided not to continue this relationship with her anymore. I guess I just have too much doubt and shall we say questionable motives. Believe me I feel bad that I have to tell her, for perhaps she is sincere but my feeling is I can't go on.with her. Will let you all know what happens and thanks for all of the advice...

Waxer, I'm sure that was a very difficult decision for you to make. It's so hard to know who you can trust. I'm so sorry that it didn't work out for you.

Originally posted by whiterose
Waxer, I'm sure that was a very difficult decision for you to make. It's so hard to know who you can trust. I'm so sorry that it didn't work out for you.

Hey thanks for the kind words but a funny thing happened to me this morning. I opened up my email box before I went to work and there was a Dear John letter from her!

She went on to discuss things like the vast distance apart and something about cultural differences and she knew of some girlfriends who returned from the U.S. after meeting men from here because of over sexed American men (what gives them that idea?..too many movies I think). Anyway it's over and so I'm moving on. Already have a date for the weekend with an OW and she only lives 40 miles away...not 7,500/lol...dosvidanya.

:cool:

the waxman

LOL:D

To quote the Bard:

"All's well that ends well." Talk about a story with a twist! Enjoy your date this weekend!

Cheers!