Hunting Women on Ageless

Originally posted by Genevieve
Spam anyone?

Hmmm.... Haven't had spam in a long time, but if I move these steaks around, I can probably make room for a slice or two here on the grill. What would you like with that, Gen? :D

Originally posted by last1standing
Hmmm.... Haven't had spam in a long time, but if I move these steaks around, I can probably make room for a slice or two here on the grill. What would you like with that, Gen? :D

Can I have green eggs with my Spam? :)

Originally posted by Raven Magdalene
What? Computer has been dragging, if you are referring to that...hmmmm



Probably...as for the PMs don't hardly any but then again they don't find me 'attractive'.

Yesterday a guy I knew a few years ago stopped by the house to see how I was doing, haven't seen him in like 3 years. When he got out of the car he embraced me, blah blah blah. Anyway, he wanted to chat a bit and began to hug me and running his hand down to my butt and touching my breast area! :eek: And just after he tells me he has a g/f!! I moved away from him but GAWD! that was insulting, what an idiot, only confirms my reasons why I didn't want anything to do with him (among other stuff). He owns a pool business and so I moved our convo to that area and showed my new equipment and finally he left. Whew...grabbed my dogs and went on our walk. It was so refreshing to clear my head and ran into 2 lady neighbor's and we chatted and got grounded from the earlier display of vulgarity...I am purely venting because this behavior was disturbing. I asked one of the ladies about this, and she is married btw, and she said 'Guys are like that, if they see an opportunity or figure there can be an opportunity to 'get it' they will, it is the nature of the beast'. I exclaimed 'not all guys' and she replies 'all guys but different techniques'. Geez, it is insulting, I mean where the hell is the respect for another person, never mind it is a woman, and just assume it is 'open season/game', to take such liberties? Geeeeezzzzz, Excuse me but had to get it out of my system...hate to be touched in that manner unless it is with a b/f and that is what I can't seem to 'wash off my skin'. :(

Wow Raven . . . what a loser . . . I think I would have said to him "Did you just stop by here to feel me up?" And sent him packing! :mad:

:D @ Raven!

For the good listener, half a word is enough... do you have something similar in English?

Or maybe they just realize the person is not a possible match, so instead of saying, I made a mistake and this won't work for me. They just vanish. It is better to say 'this won't work out' than drop out...females should try and reassure the guy that life decisions won't be made over coffee so as not to cause panic...

It means that sometimes we don't have to say a word to be understood, the smart people will know what we mean. Like when you bump this thread, we kind of know what is going on... :)

Too cryptic yet? ;) :)

Oh, good GAWD!! :mad:

Can we take it as a sign of "equality" that gold-digging is now practiced by younger men also?

I'm sorry to hear that OW are being led on like that here. I would NEVER do something like that. If things weren't working out, I'd be honest and decent enough to tell the OW interested in me that it isn't working out. I NEVER leave anyone hanging. I've been left hanging many times in life by people I thought were friends and it sucked. I do not wish that on anyone, especially when it comes to to finding a SO.
;)

Granted, 22 pages are a bit much to read through, but we're not just talking about men who "lead women on" here, although we've had some examples of that. (I've been "left hanging" so many times, I've begun to accept it as normal :eek: ) We're also talking about men who build a collection of women by contacting them here on Ageless, and others who are apparently pursuing women merely for financial gain.

That's terrible that someone would use another for financial gain. My (now ex) fiancee' used me for my money as well as my looks. I wasn't very happy with her when I found out. :(
;)

Originally posted by Savannah
Granted, 22 pages are a bit much to read through, but we're not just talking about men who "lead women on" here, although we've had some examples of that. (I've been "left hanging" so many times, I've begun to accept it as normal :eek: ) We're also talking about men who build a collection of women by contacting them here on Ageless, and others who are apparently pursuing women merely for financial gain.

Hey Savannah u forgot the ones who r just looking to get laid ....... an the Married ones looking for fun ..........

Hmmmmmm Am I becoming cynical or what?? LOL

Not as bad as me wolfie, LOL....... I'm to a point where if it has a penis, I don't trust it right off the bat nowadays.:rolleyes:
And age has nothing to do with it.

I really don't want to start a thread on that. I was a fool for not seeing the truth sooner in that relationship. I came out of it with more wisdom and being alot more cautious.
;)

Jerry, I think that a true measure of a man is when he can say two little words.... "I'm sorry." Good for you for apologizing to Gen and for learning from your mistake. She is a very sweet woman.

that there are a myriad of philosophies floating around about what being single entails. Some people are into only hunting for casual sex, some for bf/gf, some for marriage, some for survival and help, some for just one-nighters, some for money, some for control, some for thrills alone and ego, some cause they can, some for green cards,some for phone sex, some for soul mates and true love, some for net pic sex, some for collecting people, some for playing net games called bait and switch.
Plus, everyone is on a different page. One has to keep their eyes peeled for recognition of the person who is reading from their page . It takes a bit of communicating to see if the person you click with physically is reading from the same page as you are. The steps are: physical acceptance, agreeing to meet, trust, reliability,willing to make future plans for more meetings.
Where most dates bomb (after all the first meeting is just a date, one that lets both people know if they want a second date and that is it) is when one party builds more expectations into the meeting than the other. I have to agree with Savannah, expect the worst, expect cancellation, expect it not to work out, that way if the first meeting goes well, then it will be a pleasure to make a second date and a great surprise.
There is one area that most on here have not touched on, and that is some of us like myself feel that THE PERSON is already out there for each of us and the timing is just not here yet when he/she will bump into us. I believe that THE ONE has already been picked out. As Einstein said, God is a mathematician. Everything is already in order, already in place...one has to just live his/her life, enjoy the journey, live his hobbies, live his dreams, and then he will bump into the person he is meant to be with. Yes, be open to discovery, yes, have friends and do things in life but don't go to each outing expecting to meet that perfect person and being devastated if you don't. Sadness and worry doesn't attract people. About 6 mos ago, I stopped going to singles dances and clubs with my gf's. I feel so liberated to just live and enjoy the journey. It doesn't mean to give up at all. It means be more open to what life has to offer .

Originally posted by Jlojsuperman
Well who is she writing about? that person is me and I have apologized to Gen for it,..and I dont reget nothing in my life but I do regret not going to see her,..I let other peoples opinions at the time influence my choices that I made,..And I SHOULD NOT HAVE. I have since seperated myself from those people,..actually I havent talked to or seen any of them for almost four months.
I will not let myself do that again. why did I post this you may ask? why not I say? I owe it to Gen cause she is a good friend and person also to anyone reading this thread dont think twice about doing something you want to do just go for it,..I should have. Thanks for reading,..

Jerry

Thanks for posting. That took guts. It's all good. :)

I tip my hat to you two.

Both of you are remarkable.

Peace,
thatgirl

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Another shout out to ageless ladies. I've just been screwed over, good thing with some investigative work, I found out soon. If anyone wants details about a guy claiming to be a Capt. Special Forces. I told him about Ageless, and he read just about every post I've ever made. Said all the right things, sent me a phony pic, which I later found out was a pic used for people to send greetings, whereby they can write what they want on the sign. I am embarassed to say the least. I must have a sign on my forehead that says "***** with me" and I'm feeling so gullible and stupid right now.

I grilled him, and he seemed to know the right answers so he must have some military experience. Since he is a new member here he can read this. I dare him to respond.


WARNING: The contents of this woman will turn an Army Ranger into mush. :mad: HOOOAH!

The more I read all this, the more I'm disgusted. But Gen, you are getting quicker to find out, isn't this great?

Some phone calls may help, too. Getting addresses and signs of trust. I have to say Jason gave me his phone number first, his address, his mom's phone number, he was really trusting. Then again, why would he not trust someone who has her picture all over Ageless?

We don't hide, why shouldn't they trust us?

Originally posted by Genevieve
Another shout out to ageless ladies. I've just been screwed over, good thing with some investigative work, I found out soon. If anyone wants details about a guy claiming to be a Capt. Special Forces. I told him about Ageless, and he read just about every post I've ever made. Said all the right things, sent me a phony pic, which I later found out was a pic used for people to send greetings, whereby they can write what they want on the sign. I am embarassed to say the least. I must have a sign on my forehead that says "***** with me" and I'm feeling so gullible and stupid right now.

I grilled him, and he seemed to know the right answers so he must have some military experience. Since he is a new member here he can read this. I dare him to respond.


WARNING: The contents of this woman will turn an Army Ranger into mush. :mad: HOOOAH!

Hey he sounds like my ex online lover, and I did tell him about this place... LOL, lets compare notes :D He also was Capt Special Forces... do you have a pic? I can't send you one since they all got ground up in the recycle bin... even the GOOD ones ;)

I really have to thank DHShogun for this. When I sent him the picture of the Captain, he recognized it as phony, something he'd seen on the web. I'm grateful to him for helping me.

Thanks to Stan for finding this thread! Woohoo :D

Wow, I can totally relate to what Maria has said in her OP. I did feel like a used tissue in the beginning and then I thought, it's his problem and not mine. I have absolutely no trouble keeping my integrity, attractiveness, charm and honesty. He is the one who's sick.


What's funny is that he keeps posting here and I truly enjoy reading his posts just like I always have and I even enjoy responding to them. His intelligence still attracts me but I don't think he has anything to offer except his brilliant and often twisted ideas. In France we say "HE FARTS HIGHER THAN HIS ****" If he had more to offer, he wouldn't have been such a coward. Life on the forums goes on, right ?

And by the way, he doesn't even have the slightest idea what he's missing. :D

edit: the most amazing part is when you meet a man on a discussion forum, you have already read many of his posts about relationships and sex among other issues, you think *wow, what a sensitive and interesting man* and then in real life he turns out to be as ordinary as the young dude you'd meet in a sleezy pub. Very interesting indeed.

I wonder how much respect they could have for themselves.

Who is this dude? (Please educate us.) He sounds totally lame.

Who is this dude? (Please educate us.) He sounds totally lame.


What does it matter Skates, think he's one of those guys who suffers from PMS
'Post Maturity Syndrom'

edit: Of course I meant 'PRE Maturity Syndrom' :o

What does it matter Skates, think he's one of those guys who suffers from PMS
'Post Maturity Syndrom'

I'm like Skate. I wanna know! Look at it as supporting each other. You can pm us and tell us his name so we dont get caught in his web. I believe Skate his aware enough and so am I to probably spot him if he write to one of us or both of us...who knows how many he wrotes too!! But just so we dont loose our time even if its a few minutes with scum bags like that! woops...sorry! had to say it out loud. Dont believe that kind of guys deserve better than that anyhow.

You know, I had a very traumatic experience many years ago with a relationship that first started online and we did meet and we did have a relationship but it really turned bad. Anyway, to make a long story short afterward I've read a few books about manipulators. Emotional manipulators. I can recognize good people but I also now have a sixth sense when it comes to manipulators, liars. Sometimes I give a chance but I'm usually pretty much on target the first time.

Why am I rambling like this this morning??!!
:confused:
Faith

It's not a big deal really. But it's funny how when someone posts regularly on the boards we get the impression of knowing them so we end up believing and trusting them.

I know that many people have met online and I respect that, but I'm really not into that AT ALL. Anyway when someone with whom I have discussed various subjects PM-s me, I don't tell him to buzz off just like I wouldn't tell a lady poster to buzz off. Then when things become a bit personal, and you realise that the guy is just as weird incoherent and immature as a anyone you would meet in a bar, well, forget it.

It's all a game after all. Who cares.

It's not a big deal really. But it's funny how when someone posts regularly on the boards we get the impression of knowing them so we end up believing and trusting them.

I know that many people have met online and I respect that, but I'm really not into that AT ALL. Anyway when someone with whom I have discussed various subjects PM-s me, I don't tell him to buzz off just like I wouldn't tell a lady poster to buzz off. Then when things become a bit personal, and you realise that the guy is just as weird incoherent and immature as a anyone you would meet in a bar, well, forget it.

It's all a game after all. Who cares.


Ok than...message well received

i would say they are doing whoever a big favor by just dissapearing. especially if it's either that or a chainsaw.

Yeah ...my motto is...guilty until proven innocent..trust is built over time...not overnight...and NOT online until AFTER you've met in person.

Newbie to the group(don't kill me yet, LOL) SOrry they sopme men feel the need to lie and cheat. To me, not worth it. Sneaking around, hoping not to get caught, can I take her here, there, what lie am I gonna tell to my wife. I know, it's been done to me. BTW, just call me CED

Guilty first...LOL...i've been duped majorly as evidenced by my post of two wks ago titled "unbelievable" - please read it if you haven't cause it's important to know that this is possible to happen to all of us! I've become so jaded and issues of trust abound... IMO we as women eagerly and warmly welcome these guys (newbies) before they have even "revealed themselves" through their postings...and it becomes so easy to play right into their ruse. I hope we can become like minded in this effort to keep this from happening. I'm not saying lets be vigilantes...but speak out when you think it might be helpful. Nobody wants to accuse anyone unjustly - no one is asking anyone to be rude and ill mannered - but please if you know or suspect something - lets protect each other from internet predators....

So, to walk the talk, I intend to bring to your attention my suspicions and I intend to also tell you when IMO I feel someone has been- or may be - less then honorable...... and we'll sort them out after....right KathyW?!! Which brings me to several newbie users...Please be aware of my latest post to a new member.....My Red flag/hurricane warning flag is UP!!! Stopping men from hunting women begins with us as community members at ageless Nuff said.....cuz (Keith Storm's favorite word btw) I'm still...... :mad:

Guilty first...LOL...i've been duped majorly as evidenced by my post of two wks ago titled "unbelievable" - please read it if you haven't cause it's important to know that this is possible to happen to all of us! I've become so jaded and issues of trust abound... IMO we as women eagerly and warmly welcome these guys (newbies) before they have even "revealed themselves" through their postings...and it becomes so easy to play right into their ruse. I hope we can become like minded in this effort to keep this from happening. I'm not saying lets be vigilantes...but speak out when you think it might be helpful. Nobody wants to accuse anyone unjustly - no one is asking anyone to be rude and ill mannered - but please if you know or suspect something - lets protect each other from internet predators....

So, to walk the talk, I intend to bring to your attention my suspicions and I intend to also tell you when IMO I feel someone has been- or may be - less then honorable...... and we'll sort them out after....right KathyW?!! Which brings me to several newbie users...Please be aware of my latest post to a new member.....My Red flag/hurricane warning flag is UP!!! Stopping men from hunting women begins with us as community members at ageless Nuff said.....cuz (Keith Storm's favorite word btw) I'm still...... :mad:

Yep...you're right Despina...speaking up is key...you have to question anyone who does not appear to be consistent as well, imo....these types are "players" and they'll come up with just about any excuse to cover their tracks...don't like them...and I don't like to see other people getting taken advantage of...so on that note....I'll be watching...just as I always have.

Yep...you're right Despina...speaking up is key...you have to question anyone who does not appear to be consistent as well, imo....these types are "players" and they'll come up with just about any excuse to cover their tracks...don't like them...and I don't like to see other people getting taken advantage of...so on that note....I'll be watching...just as I always have.


That is exactly what I do Kathy. I made mistakes, still do sometimes cause I will give the guy a chance but when I see something doesnt add up, I observe and if it keeps happening...bye bye.

That is exactly what I do Kathy. I made mistakes, still do sometimes cause I will give the guy a chance but when I see something doesnt add up, I observe and if it keeps happening...bye bye.

LOL Faith...from my observations here at Ageless...I think I could just about construct a list of names at this point....I'm attached, so have no reason to care and nothing to gain or lose by saying this...some of the guys who come to this site are MAJOR flakes...now granted, I met my boyfriend here...so their ARE exceptions to every rule..don't get me wrong....however, some guys are just on MAJOR ego trips around here, and want to see how much "attention" they can get from as many women as possible...in as short of time span as possible...these are the ones I refer to as "players"....and I can see them coming from a mile away (usually, I have been known to be fooled a couple of times..lol)..all I have to say is "be careful out there...not everyone is as they SAY they are"... :( :mad:

LOL Faith...from my observations here at Ageless...I think I could just about construct a list of names at this point....I'm attached, so have no reason to care and nothing to gain or lose by saying this...some of the guys who come to this site are MAJOR flakes...now granted, I met my boyfriend here...so their ARE exceptions to every rule..don't get me wrong....however, some guys are just on MAJOR ego trips around here, and want to see how much "attention" they can get from as many women as possible...in as short of time span as possible...these are the ones I refer to as "players"....and I can see them coming from a mile away (usually, I have been known to be fooled a couple of times..lol)..all I have to say is "be careful out there...not everyone is as they SAY they are"... :( :mad:


I could give you names too and I'm pretty sure it would be VERY similar.
And I am sure most women here would have similar lists as well
;)
And dont worry. I'm not an idiot. I do recognize those players and dont fall into their webs.
sometimes some are not as obvious. Thats what I was meaning when I said I would give a chance. Its not always black or white unfortunately.

Well this has been a very long thread to read, but I am glad I took the time to go through it. I am still very new to the site and I just want to congratulate you all on standing up and speaking out. We women have to take a stand against all the weirdos out there. You certainly have my vote !!!
:D

Well I haven't read this whole thread so this may have already been said, but what I do when I'm pm'ed by some guy is to check all of his posts before replying, if he's posted at all. If all he's talked about in his posts is how 'big' he is, whatever :rolleyes: then I just send a quick reply saying thank you but no thank you and that is it. If the guy hasn't posted I usually tell him to visit the forum and join in. Hmmm..... not seen that happen yet.

Something rotten is in the state of Denmark.... be wary...

Something rotten is in the state of Denmark.... be wary...

Could you be more specific Suicide?

Could you be more specific Suicide?


Just asking cause if there is more than one guy from Denmark here that could create a problem if there is an actual nice guy from there lol

first off, Raven (and glad to see you back!) your comment was funnier than you may know. And Faith, that is true, but I know of only two from there and one is already in a relationship. However, if someone or you, really needs to know, she can pm me as I am not really one to besmirched someone's character directly for all to see.... and if he ever does see this, he knows who he is!

first off, Raven (and glad to see you back!) your comment was funnier than you may know.

Some of us do love a good surströmming joke. ;)

(((Hugs))) to all who have had to endure this kind of treatment from a guy. I met a wonderful guy just recently, he promised me the same, still says he misses me, and I realize his job is demanding, rarely hear from him. It started out he would call, we would talk like say 4 hours straight on the phone, now nothing. We have not even met yet, but he wrote a quick email, says he misses me. He had said on the phone he wants a long term relationship with me. I don't know what to think. I keep hearing that if a guy is really into you, he will phone you often, even if he doesn't have the time to, he will make some time just to say hello, see how you're doing.

If he misses you tell him to do his part then. If this is all he is able to offer, that is certainly not a healthy way to start off a long term relationship. Perhaps this is all he can offer? Is this what you want?

I say, go with the gut. If you are questioning it already then take it as your first clue. ;)



.... He had said on the phone he wants a long term relationship with me. I don't know what to think. I keep hearing that if a guy is really into you, he will phone you often, even if he doesn't have the time to, he will make some time just to say hello, see how you're doing.

Thanx for your reply Raven, yeh, my gut is saying this is not working for me, I need a man who is more attentive. He has his own business, works for himself, is constantly on the go, one of the problems. So many other men out there want to date me, I keep saying, sorry, can't. I think he should at least phone me once or twice a week, even if it's after midnight I wouldn't care, just to leave a message, let me know he is ok and to maybe say he misses me. Is that asking for too much?

Yes, it is. Not for him but for you. You shouldn't ever be on the begging end of matters that pertain to the heart.

.... So many other men out there want to date me, I keep saying, sorry, can't. I think he should at least phone me once or twice a week, even if it's after midnight I wouldn't care, just to leave a message, let me know he is ok and to maybe say he misses me. Is that asking for too much?

I know exactly what you are saying, a woman should not have to beg for the affections she deserves from her bf. I totally agree with that. I do have an older man interested in me, it's difficult to say who is being honest though about wanting a long term relationship, so many guys play games out there. A girl loses trust after awhile.

Then play back. ;)

so many guys play games out there

Believe it when ya see it. Actions speak louder than words, and there are some out there who can talk the talk for sure. Make them prove it. LOL

It's amazing to me how many people in the world are searching for something with no idea what they are looking for. I am a younger, very attractive, athletic, unhappily married man living on Long Island, NY. I am steps away from joining a site like Adult ****** Finder but thought I would first try and see if there is an older woman out there looking for a discreet, daytime meeting. So far I've met two older, unhappily married women out for coffee. BOTH women have expressed they wanted to have an intimate encounter before meeting, however when we finally got together they where intimidated by me!!! They felt I was too good-looking and said I would be horrified by their fat naked bodies. I thought that was the point. I happen to find older women extremely attractive, but if you women who are looking for a younger man can't get past your own insecurities, why bother? The one thing I love about a mature woman is that they are so comfortable with themselves and have the freedom to express themselves without any inhabition. I am slowly proving myself wrong! :confused:

Um....maybe its not there own insecurites so much as YOUR married and CHEATING!!! D'oh!!!


I think your first thought was a good one....Adult XXXX Finder might be more suitable for a person such as yourself.

Adult Friendfinder is just for **** buddies, that's disgusting, you should be ashamed of yourself looking for something else while you are a married man. I feel so sorry for your wife. Don't you have any morals? Marriage is a scared union, you should never have even indulged the though of marriage if you are planning on cheating on her. No woman deserves a man like that. My 2cents.

And may I add another note...you call OW insecure? :eek: You make me laugh... :D You *Spygame000* are the insecure one for living and accepting a marriage that is unhealthy & unhappy. What a joke.

You might not realize this due to your lack of insight, but a OW is wise and would kick the likes of you to the curbside in a heartbeat.

Definitely, find your folly at that Adult XXXX site....Ciao Baby!

Um....maybe its not there own insecurites so much as YOUR married and CHEATING!!! D'oh!!!


I think your first thought was a good one....Adult XXXX Finder might be more suitable for a person such as yourself.

Adult Friendfinder is just for **** buddies, that's disgusting, you should be ashamed of yourself looking for something else while you are a married man. I feel so sorry for your wife. Don't you have any morals? Marriage is a scared union, you should never have even indulged the though of marriage if you are planning on cheating on her. No woman deserves a man like that. My 2cents.
Actually, luneib, I can tell you from experience that 90% of the women on AFF are looking for more than sex. If a guy just wants a casual NSA relationship, the last place I would recommend looking is Adult Friendfinder.

Hey Mark!

Really???

AFF is not a great place unless you are not looking for anything substantial, not the type of guys I want to date. I put my profile on AFF last year, but just as a joke, put all these kinky things (LOL) to see who answered me. You would not believe the photos I got in my mailbox (LOL). I got a good laugh. I can't believe guys will actually send a woman photos of their private parts, comon guys, what are you thinking? Ewwwwwww. I never did answer any of those emails, tg (LOL). I was just having fun.

And may I add another note...you call OW insecure? :eek: You make me laugh... :D You *Spygame000* are the insecure one for living and accepting a marriage that is unhealthy & unhappy. What a joke.

You might not realize this due to your lack of insight, but a OW is wise and would kick the likes of you to the curbside in a heartbeat.

Definitely, find your folly at that Adult XXXX site....Ciao Baby!

You go girl, he deserves what you said!

Val

Hey Mark!

Really???

AFF is not a great place unless you are not looking for anything substantial, not the type of guys I want to date. I put my profile on AFF last year, but just as a joke, put all these kinky things (LOL) to see who answered me. You would not believe the photos I got in my mailbox (LOL). I got a good laugh. I can't believe guys will actually send a woman photos of their private parts, comon guys, what are you thinking? Ewwwwwww.....


ROTFLMAO!!

I can see some guy clicking send on his XXX email + photo, and thinking "Damn, that hot package ought to impress her!!" :D :p

Oh, my! Guys, guys, guys! :D

That has been sometimes my experience as well...ewwww, is so appropriate. Who the hell wants to see that ugly, smelly, crusty thing. :o It is their sheer extent of their mentality/intellect they wanted you to see.

Actually they want to humiliate a woman. No different than the guy standing in the sunshine with a rain coat flashing the hanging wad of flesh. Double ewww! :rolleyes: If only we had internet police that would zap them good when they would send crap like that....you know, like the Edison thing with the key & kite? :D


Hey Mark!

I can't believe guys will actually send a woman photos of their private parts, comon guys, what are you thinking? Ewwwwwww. I never did answer any of those emails, tg (LOL). I was just having fun.

That has been sometimes my experience as well...ewwww, is so appropriate. Who the hell wants to see that ugly, smelly, crusty thing. It is their sheer extent of their mentality/intellect they wanted you to see.

Actually they want to humiliate a woman. No different than the guy standing in the sunshine with a rain coat flashing the hanging wad of flesh. Double ewww! If only we had internet police that would zap them good when they would send crap like that....you know, like the Edison thing with the key & kite?
There probably are a lot of idiots on there who think they're Johnny Wadd, and they mistakenly assume women are going to get excited about seeing pictures of their genitalia. I have a picture of myself on there with my clothes on, though, and I don't get many replies. By the way, is a penis crustier, uglier, and smellier than a vagina? :rolleyes:

OH Mark...you get pictures of vagina's?! :eek:

OH Mark...you get pictures of vagina's?! :eek:

LOL! Only for educational purposes! :p

OH dear! :D

LOL! Only for educational purposes!

I'm just curious as to why that guy would post on the "Hunting" thread in the first place?? Not too smart.

Well, he did describe his outside packaging and for good reason not his intellect. We already surmised the latter. ;)

There probably are a lot of idiots on there who think they're Johnny Wadd, and they mistakenly assume women are going to get excited about seeing pictures of their genitalia. I have a picture of myself on there with my clothes on, though, and I don't get many replies. By the way, is a penis crustier, uglier, and smellier than a vagina? :rolleyes:

LMAO!!! Omg, you all are terrrrrible!! And hilarious, never a dull moment here at ageless.

Yes, I agree terrible. Mark is a really nice guy, we are friends. He is not like that at all when you get to know him, he is a real sweetie.

If you do not trust someone. You will never know if it is the one you could have trusted. But if you trust the wrong one, your heart is broken . a double edged sword.

I've always thought of this as a place for people in AG relationships, both guys and gals, married or just "together", to share ideas, stories, advice on issues, etc., and not so much as a "meet market". Only one category in this forum even allows "personals ads", so I don't know where all these people "flirting and hitting on people" come from. It's a shame that married men (or women?) come here to do that, and I feel sorry for those who fall for it.

But this is nothing new. This goes on on many web sites, and has gone on in paper personals for decades before the internet. I remember hearing horror stories about people meeting through newspaper personals ads back in the '80s. There was even a serial murderer who lured women through these ads. Whenver you meet someone who lives far from you, whom you only know through writing, you need to be on your guard. This is just common sense.

First time here, hello; so i briefly read and find it interesting how we are certain to be each of us individuals, as clear as any fingerprint, yet we all live in similar situations, no matter where we may reside or what age we may attain. In other words, same ****..different day.
Young men, I find can try to pretend to be men as with young ladies, who believe to be women themselves, but eschew rather swiftly and painfully breaking all adult rules when closeness becomes too real and too scarry to handle. So on-line relationships no matter how long can be full of lies and deceit. It happened to a close friend of mine, the man at the other end happened to be "16" not "26" from Finland. Intelligent but in the end, cracked under pressure!!
So beware and be friends. let it be!!
;)

As far as im concerned there are sick ppl everywhere im esp wary of men who whinge about their ex's and all the things women have done wrong to them im steer way clear

Lately I have noticed something around ageless that has deeply disgusted me and I would like to discuss this with you.

I have seen some guys come to the site, start conversations with some women, then flirt with them, get them very interested, talk about a serious, commited relationship, talk on the phone, spend hours building the illusion, set a date to meet....and disappear.

It's not like a passion that had no continuation because of the difficulties of the virtual world, or discovering incompatibilities, but it's just a cruel technique to seduce and then drop the other person as a used tissue.

I would like to advice especially the female members here to be careful; Ageless has grown and has probably attracted more weirdos than we needed (did we need them?) and although beautiful friendships have been built here, behind the curtains there are people suffering for having trusted too much.

Some people are really sick in this world.

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U r absolutely right. There r many people ( Men & WOmen ) who come to
Flirt and have fun, then somday they disappear. But believe it or not, in my
Entire Life I never flirted any woman nor I tried to seduced some 1 ..
I came here just to make friends, go for a dinner if possible. Talk to her,
Know & understand eachother. See, how passionate we can be towards
Eachother and then marry ... I am not here to do just because of
Attraction or a few days/months fun , I meant it to be Friendship / Love /
Marriage .. Am I wrong if I feel more comfortable wth older woman ?
Younger ones r just like my little sister, so I prefer older woman ...
For me, Sense of Humor matter a lot and the Person she is, rest what she
Does, religion, don't matter ... yes, Maria ... I too don't want to flirt and
Get flirt ... share yr thoughts if u want, I will listen to it ..

Bye Maria, Have a nice Day ...

Thank you so much Maria for your advice on the site....We are very vulnerable at times.

Well Maria wrote that post 2 and a half years ago. Sounds more like the words of an angry jilted lover to me than an altruistically intended warning.

Is Maria still here anyway? Or did she "disappear" and heartlessly abandon all of us who have a sincere romantic interest in her ;)

Ah, True Heart, Maria used to be one of THE moderators around here. She left and started her own board with her fiance.

i must admit that i did this about a year ago, the reasons behind it were that i became single from my age gap partner so came on here looking for advice, met a very nice woman ( i wont name names but she still here) started chatting and even talked about a meet, then i got back together with my partner. i was an asshole for not explaining this to said woman but if she reads this she will know who she is. i can only say sorry and hope that this does not happen again. i do regret it. i did not come on here to meet anybody it just happened.

here i am a year later with my relationship changed with my partner ( she is now my best friend and has a lovely boyfriend) whom i still love dearly. i hope that this time i can be more mature about it and again sorry

No you are not delusional, some men are just scum. I've met a few online, one promised me that we were going to get married, he said he was madly in love with me, we would talk for 3-5 hours on the phone, but he also wanted me to take all of my clothes off on cam, now here's a guy who does not have any respect for women at all. I talked to him on Yahoo Messenger, you know, the new voice thing on there, and I told him I did not like him asking me those questions about getting nude for him, he said he never did, he totally denied it, then he rudely hung up the phone on me, and that was the last he ever heard from me, end of story lol.

Some guys will play this game with you, make you believe they really like you, just to get you in the sack, promise you a relationship, it's really sick really. There really are nice guys out there, but these other creeps don't help you believe what the nice guys say because of their deceit.

I met a great guy, younger than me by 17 years, and it is hard sometimes to truly believe that he is such a nice guy which he is because of all the games guys have tried on me. Ladies hang in there, there are nice guys out there still, it's just a needle in the haystack trying to find one. They really do exist. My new bf brings me flowers every week, we go out to eat, do everything together, he supports me, I support him, that's how a true relationship should be. These guys that just want sex should find themselves a hooker. I mean comon, what do they think women are?

Lately I have noticed something around ageless that has deeply disgusted me and I would like to discuss this with you.

I have seen some guys come to the site, start conversations with some women, then flirt with them, get them very interested, talk about a serious, commited relationship, talk on the phone, spend hours building the illusion, set a date to meet....and disappear.

It's not like a passion that had no continuation because of the difficulties of the virtual world, or discovering incompatibilities, but it's just a cruel technique to seduce and then drop the other person as a used tissue.

I would like to advice especially the female members here to be careful; Ageless has grown and has probably attracted more weirdos than we needed (did we need them?) and although beautiful friendships have been built here, behind the curtains there are people suffering for having trusted too much.

Some people are really sick in this world.

http://www.smilies.org/basesmilies3/malad.gif

Thank u,
I just registered to the site, and I was curious.
Thank u for the warning.

I am 21 m and trying to date a 37 , she just sent me a message saying :

Hi Thank you for your message. Actually I thought about the age gap we have and I feel its not right.... I hope we can remain as a good friends. I hope you understand how I feel....

How can I reply to this and win her round ?
I really like her and respect her but the age is big issue ,
I dont look 21 I look more like 31 ! Stress of work !

Any advice much appriciated

I am 21 m and trying to date a 37 , she just sent me a message saying :

Hi Thank you for your message. Actually I thought about the age gap we have and I feel its not right.... I hope we can remain as a good friends. I hope you understand how I feel....

How can I reply to this and win her round ?
I really like her and respect her but the age is big issue ,
I dont look 21 I look more like 31 ! Stress of work !

Any advice much appriciated
Tony, ask her what about the age gap bothers her. Find out her objections.

The Net in '94 was made up of professionals who said what they meant and meant what they said.
When AOL opened the doors in '96 to all the folks in the USA and soon to be world, we quickly got viruses from hackers who managed to get into munipical and gov't systems and personal PC's,
Then in 2000 came the identity theft, credit card theft, soon to be followed by net-panhandlers wanting your money with sob stories.
In the past year, I have had at least 15 guys pose as interested prospects from other sites, but within two weeks they managed to get out a sob story for money: one was stuck in Africa and needed help with a plane ticket, one had a mother in the hospital and needed help with her, one couldn't pay his electric bill, he couldn't find work after a car accident...and the list goes one.
The red flags were there:
a sob story wanting sympathy, very limited English,
a desire too quickly bond with tons of compliments or need of sympathy,
and a proposal that was too quick.
They all sound sort of the same, the net panhandlers.
You will quickly be able to spot them because they load you with compliments faster than the average male will.
The compliments are not genuine because they don't know you.
Does a woman really want a man who pores on the compliments and doesn't know her at all?
The need for money comes out and the flags go off: does a woman really need a guy in dire straights with no money of his own and wanting hers?
There are international scams going on now to hit women in the wallet. LET ALL WOMEN BE ON THE ALERT.
Since I have been dating the net since, '94...met a ton of great guys, some have turned out to be bf's and some just dates...I now have a BIG RULE for myself.
If they like you , they call. The dial the phone. Then they make plans to see you. My interest level doesn't go up at all, until after the 3rd date because by then I can tell if they are sincerely interested. If they have produced no face time, they are not interested.
Never assume a thing until he sets foot on the ground in the airport. And even then, you owe him nothing other than politeness and getting to know him over dinner, coffee, walking, movies, dancing. I had one guy fly in from NY, a YM...had a great weekend with him...he wanted too quickly to have sex, I said I like you but "no"...he politely accepted that and should have...we are still good friends, but it gave me time to realize that I was just not that into him...he was nice, cute, smart, but just not me...he told me as he was leaving to board the plane, "It has been a great weekend, I am a gentleman, but I was thinking with my little head...I am just a mortal guy...I really like you and would like to date you."
H e will make some girl a great bf, but the chemistry was not there...we have to meet to find out...we were honest with each other...not all dates click, not all guys meet you, and one can't assume there is even a potential unless they have managed to get to the 3rd date.
A great book on men and woman is called, WHAT MEN WANT, written by Gerstman, ESQ, Pizzo, CPA, and Seldes, MD...all men...they are very blunt about men and how they are , Ladies. The book is very clear about guys, and they tell women who are divorced not to sleep with a guy before the 5th date has come and gone. Why? For all the reasons we already know, and don't need to say. Instant gratification too soon only breeds questions!!!
They also go on to say that guys who are constantly making and breaking dates, rearranging their plans, are doing so for other women...duhhh...and those that are into YOU, are making plans with you in advance and keeping them. Those running around on someone, are making plans at breakneck speed at the last min. because they are keeping their options open for other women in their lives...sad but true.
The ugly truth is that men not into YOU:
1. are disorganized
2. make clandestine phone calls out of your ear range
3. stop inviting you over but spend all their time at your place
4. cannot make plans in advance
5. begin to break plans regularly
6. takes you out to discreet locations
7. his condom supply is depleted
8. has sex with you less often [ if he has reached that stage]
9. avoids bringing you around his friends
10. has tied up weekends
11. says he is not committing to a relationship YET

**THE TRUTH: THE WAY MEN ARE:
* Women's looks to a man are everything--he is visual first.
* When a man loves a woman, she becomes more beautiful to him.

THE MORAL IS: GET PRETTY, ENJOY YOUR BEAUTY, ENJOY LIFE, DON'T WORRY , BE HAPPY, MOVE ON IF HE TURNS OUT TO BE A TURKEY...TURKEYS ARE OUT HERE, THEIR LOSS NOT YOURS.

I am soooo sorry that some jerk presuming himself to be a MAN gave you so much heartache. We all live in that fear I guess....yikes! Here I am.....56...in love with a 28 year old man! But I think mine is a great guy....a bit kinky but I can deal with that! I really adore him and I don't care if he reads this. I love him. He knows who I speak of.

you need to start loving and stop obsessing. it's the Saturn way....end of story

Hello, does anybody want to chat?

Fred :o

Are people posting in this thread in error? I'm confused by some posts here that don't seem to have much to do with the subject. :confused:

I was in ldr with a man from the uk. It lasted around 9 months,we went through alot together. He had a substance abuse problem and i had severe depression. Anyway I love him to this day,he was my soul mate. We both hurt each other but he started backing away whenit was time to come over here. I realize its a big step. I started to get insecure. I feel he made up a lot and i was guilable and willing to hear it. My rule is if after 1 months of online,there should be phone calls,after 3 month there should be some plan or goal of meeting. I know things take time and money but i spent 8 months working toward that goal that never was going to happen. Its ok for people if thats what they want a online love but for me i want to set some goals of meeting.
I kick me if i ever do this....I wont tell them i love them till i have met them.
wish me luck. i do have a point,,,,make a time line if you really want to persue the relationship.

We're all weirdos actually, maybe if your inlove too you might do things unexpectedly just to get the one you love. Never stop searching other website like webdate dot com and etc. Chill out!

I've experienced mixed messages as well - but I try to minimize my dissappointment by meeting face to face as soon as possible. Internet intimacy is not real - so I avoid it. As soon as I make a connection with someone, I arrange to meet. You meet once and decide whether or not to meet again. That way, if it doesn't work out, you're not really invested in that person, so the hurt is minimized. Good luck!

Are people posting in this thread in error? I'm confused by some posts here that don't seem to have much to do with the subject. :confused:


I believe that is the case, Gen. I'm not so certain that they understand that the purpose of this thread is to give a heads up to unsuspecting female ageless members when someone is "hunting" down women on this site.

there are some like me who still choose to think that humanity IS GOOD....i will be one of those that constantly get hurt from loving.....but the choice not to love...isnt in my dictionary;) Someday, that will be a GOOD thing for me :D love, Darla

Good or Bad but I am one of them, Darla you are not alone, i am with u:D

Well Darla, u r absolutely right, we (specially the ladies) should be very careful. Although I am a man myself but still i advise u the same but godddd sake dont adopt "hate" and "dont trust any man" attitude, world is full of good guys. I consider myself one of them, whether u guys agree or not?

No you are not delusional, some men are just scum. I've met a few online, one promised me that we were going to get married, he said he was madly in love with me, we would talk for 3-5 hours on the phone, but he also wanted me to take all of my clothes off on cam, now here's a guy who does not have any respect for women at all. I talked to him on Yahoo Messenger, you know, the new voice thing on there, and I told him I did not like him asking me those questions about getting nude for him, he said he never did, he totally denied it, then he rudely hung up the phone on me, and that was the last he ever heard from me, end of story lol.

Some guys will play this game with you, make you believe they really like you, just to get you in the sack, promise you a relationship, it's really sick really. There really are nice guys out there, but these other creeps don't help you believe what the nice guys say because of their deceit.

I met a great guy, younger than me by 17 years, and it is hard sometimes to truly believe that he is such a nice guy which he is because of all the games guys have tried on me. Ladies hang in there, there are nice guys out there still, it's just a needle in the haystack trying to find one. They really do exist. My new bf brings me flowers every week, we go out to eat, do everything together, he supports me, I support him, that's how a true relationship should be. These guys that just want sex should find themselves a hooker. I mean comon, what do they think women are?

Absolutely right, it takes time to know a guy. Plus i plead all ladies to pleaseeee sharpen up, dont let these weirdos near you, when i see women falling and fooled by these jerks. I just kinda start hating women for being stupid and not recognising true person. But i am impressed by this lady. When the guy asked her to get naked, the first thing that came to her mind was , thats how much he respect women?

Brave, u r the most intelligent lady in ageless.com :)

I really don't see why people would be so stupid to spend so much time doing something so petty. It's not even worth the time, much less is it human to **** around with people's hearts.

Dreams do come true, and mad love affairs do happen. My deepest sympathies to all the ladies who've been jerked around by a-holes.
Pigs like that give the rest of us a bad name >.>

You are right, I dated a guy for 10 months, he couldn't commit, I gave him 2 weeks to make up his mind, he didn't even take time to think about it he said. He said he could never marry me, it broke my heart. Why date a person for 10 months and act all kind and caring and stuff, then tell them that? What's the point in dating for that long a time period? We didn't even have sex every time we saw each other, so it was much more than that. Our personalities just go so well together. We are still best friends, but...it is difficult for me since I still have feelings left over for him, probably always will. I recently distanced myself from him, am in a new relationship, I needed a time out from our friendship even.

You are so right though, why do guys jerk girls around like that, it is messing with our hearts, and girls are sensitive loving creatures who deserve better than that.

But I will post publicly here..

The question is.. how do you know? How can you tell from online or phone communication, whether someone is sincere? Even after hours of talking with them? What can one do to keep this from happening? This similar situation has happened to me before, and I feel like I never learn. This happens not only on ageless, but in various other chatrooms as well. Perhaps men do this, because they really aren't sure of what they want.. but if that is the case, then say so. Don't lead women to believe otherwise. Be honest about what you want, and what you are looking, or not looking for. It's not that hard, an would save a lot of BS, and games.

It is a gut feeling of how serious their tone is. Sometimes a flirtation can sound fake even if you have met the person. Once you can break through their defensive facade, trust can begin to build. I have met nice people online, they say I am the nicest guy they ever met and than I never hear from them again. Be patient and see how the other person reacts to your messages, if they don't answer back than it is their loss.

Thanks for the heads up ladies - I just posted my very first post on this site yesterday and already got a private message from a 29 year old guy that says he's "intrigued" by me and would like to talk. It seemed a little weird to me, and after reading this thread, now I know what's going on.
Don't know about the rest of you, but I'm here to make the relationship that I HAVE better...not to meet someone else!!!

I think I may have gotten the same pm... BUT he was "intrigued" by my picture, and since you do not have one, and have only a few posts, I sorta wondered what aspect of you had intrigued him as well (pm me if you would like and we can compare notes and see if this is the same man). Yes, we women have to be careful here, for this often happens. The men do not realize that we women chat with each other or often put two and two together on here as we AIN"T NO DUMMIES! :D BUT what irks me even moreso, is if the person has read any of our posts, he would know that we are already involved! :rolleyes:

Hah! got the same "intrigued by my picture" line and get this....he's from the same state as me.....NOT!! Thought it was just a mix up. Now I am just pissed!

Same here... I got a PM from the same dude with the same line "intrigued by your picture." :rolleyes:

What a loser.

These people need to come up with better pick up lines :P, or at least research.

I touched base with some of you and we are all getting hit on by the same man it looks like. Ironically or not, this man's name is HUNTER! AND I am sure he is thinking of putting an MILF in front of it! SO BE WARY all ladies who get a PM from him!

Same here... I got a PM from the same dude with the same line "intrigued by your picture." :rolleyes:

What a loser.


Nobody has been bothering me since I've used a tree as an avatar. Guess there aren't too many tree-huggers here :p

I touched base with some of you and we are all getting hit on by the same man it looks like. Ironically or not, this man's name is HUNTER! AND I am sure he is thinking of putting an MILF in front of it! SO BE WARY all ladies who get a PM from him!

Yep, that's him. Here's the PM he sent me...

I just saw that you had posted a message and I was intrigued by your picture. You are very attractive. Incredible, in fact. I'm 29, almost 30 years old and I live in Alabama. I am 6'0, 205 lbs, and I have brn hair and hazel eyes. I would be more than happy to send a picture if you would like. I would love to talk with you more. My email is bham2743@yahoo.com. Please write back and tell me more about yourself. Hope you're having a great day.

Truly,

Hunter

Whew. Nice work ladies. That was one for the records. I did not "bother" or hunt any of you, by the way. Most of the posts I read were from years back, so I figured this forum was not real in the first place, but I am interested in OW and the ones I found interesting I did write with a "form" email. I have nothing to hide and will confront whoever with whatever.

I am new to this whole forums thing and obviously didn't know what I was doing or how to go about the "research," as you so aptly put it.

Really. Give me a break.

I hope this reply helped clear the air...or it at least intrigued you. ha. :p

But if not, it is no skin off my back.

Sincerely,

The Big Bad Wolf

Yep, that's him. Here's the PM he sent me...

I just saw that you had posted a message and I was intrigued by your picture. You are very attractive. Incredible, in fact. I'm 29, almost 30 years old and I live in Alabama. I am 6'0, 205 lbs, and I have brn hair and hazel eyes. I would be more than happy to send a picture if you would like. I would love to talk with you more. My email is bham2743@yahoo.com. Please write back and tell me more about yourself. Hope you're having a great day.

Truly,

Hunter

Yep, that's the same one I got.:rolleyes:

Got one from Sexxxy Devil too.

Nobody has been bothering me since I've used a tree as an avatar. Guess there aren't too many tree-huggers here :p
Awww- I am a tree hugger!!

P.S. I got the same PM.

Hehe, hunter got me too. Funnier yet is if he was really reading posts the first one I did talks about me being pregnant and due in August '06 (I'm past due now!)

Hehe, hunter got me too. Funnier yet is if he was really reading posts the first one I did talks about me being pregnant and due in August '06 (I'm past due now!)

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I have never been pregnant, thou it would be weird since I am a guy, anyway.
I wish you well and the best of luck.

Nor flower & llama lovers. :p
And I am sure the gals here don't need to see my pic...unless of course I am on the wrong forum... ;)

... Guess there aren't too many tree-huggers here :p

But aren't all of you ladies wasting time and energy on a guy that's obviously a sociopath?
Or is it "antisocial personality?" I never get those straight...LOL
It seems you're giving him the attention he' seeking
Just a thought...

I remember when I was in my twenties being too immature to handle a relationship I'd gotten into and wasn't able to face getting out of gracefully. I was horrible. It is still one of my biggest regrets and I'm deeply ashamed of how poorly I handled the situtation. It wasn't his fault in any way. I was maturity impaired.

But young people often ARE immature. They are entitled to be! If we are going to have relationships with young men we can expect that they will sometimes behave in immature ways. Yes, there are exceptions--people that are unusually mature for their age--but most people aren't exceptions.

I just had a conversation with my YM recently in which we talked about the many ways that he's grown up in the last year (he is 31). By both of our evaluations, he still isn't mature enough for a committed relationship, but he is maturing and it is fantastic to see that.

No amount of neediness on my part, for him, for stability, etc. is going to make him grow up any faster. But I'm not looking for a man to take care of me. Fortunately I can be responsible for myself and that actually allows me the freedom to take great pleasure in him, in his very young and sometimes immature self.

"intrigued by the dimple on the pimple on the bum of a small black ant"

I went through some of the posts in this thread....and I got a PM from a female shortly after I registered lol


I found it strange, that she was so intrigued by my profile, and that she wanted to have email contact...something about love not having color or distance :rolleyes:



Attractive31

Most folks around here will PM a new member to welcome them rather than post on the open forum..

good Luck..

I got a PM from a young "woman" when I first joined. She wanted a nice man to take care of her and thought I might be up to the challenge. :cool:

I went through some of the posts in this thread....and I got a PM from a female shortly after I registered lol


I found it strange, that she was so intrigued by my profile, and that she wanted to have email contact...something about love not having color or distance :rolleyes:

Attractive31

Ooh! Ooh! I just got the same email. It was in my box this afternoon when I logged in.

Are you guys discussing this?


[modedit -- PMs from actual members removed]

Originally Posted by miss spammer
My name is miss spammer i saw your butt today and become intrested in you.l will also like to know your butt more,you can send mail to my box so that we can be getting intouch all the time and know each other's butt very well.I believe we can move from there.remeber distance or colour of **** does not matter but love matters alot in life.here is my email;miss_spammer@yahoo.com
yours,
miss spammer.



I have got a good number of these already.

OMG, what'e next?? At least I'm not getting these messages . . . I usually just get them from randy young men :(

OMG ahhahahahah Jungelion just quoted the PM I got HAHHAHHAH I have to laugh, because in a way it is funny :D





Attractive31

I also got that message of someone who said he/she got interested in my profile and that he/she wants me to send an e-mail to his/her e-mail address. Good to know that many of you here have read that. There's no need to discuss the message.

Urduja



Are you guys discussing this?


[modedit -- removed actual PMs]

Originally Posted by miss spammer
My name is miss spammer i saw your butt today and become intrested in you.l will also like to know your butt more,you can send mail to my box so that we can be getting intouch all the time and know each other's butt very well.I believe we can move from there.remeber distance or colour of **** does not matter but love matters alot in life.here is my email;miss_spammer@yahoo.com
yours,
miss spammer.



I have got a good number of these already.

I also got that message of someone who said he/she got interested in my profile and that he/she wants me to send an e-mail to his/her e-mail address. Good to know that many of you here have read that. There's no need to discuss the message.

Urduja

Why not? I think it's funny to discuss it. Plus...might as well get it out in the open so no one falls for it and ends up being prey.

Nadine.

Please do not post actual PMs written by members. I have removed some from a couple of posts.

If you do receive some and you think it is SPAM, you should forward them to a moderator.

If you think they are preying upon people, it's ok to comment here that you received a PM, but everyone needs to avoid copying/pasting an actual PM, and avoid mentioning the member's name and any email address that they give you.

You can alert people that someone is "on the prowl" and if they are interested in knowing who, they can PM you for more information.

I never get any lewd or "spamworthy" messages. Sigh....:o

First off Ladies I'd just like to tell you that I am often ashamed of my fellow males as to how they act and speak to a lot of you.
As a man that is hopeing that I am a Gentelman always have been and always will be .
It is a sad man that has to feed his ego buy hurting sweet accepting women online or in person just to make him self feel very desired or important , Guys the next time you wanna see just how important you think you are Just try ordering another mans DOG around ! <g> .
I often much prefer the company of animals instead of man just because of this fact of being disrespectful to our sisters (females ) is NOT a KIND or compassionate thing to do .
A man should look too woman as an equal partner Not as a waitress at the Banquet of life as many guys think or wish (Don't know which ).
So any way girls PLEASE don't Judge us all by a few Jerks out there because there ARE still a few GOOD MEN out here and looking for the same kind of fullfilling relationship as you may be looking for .
Your friend In Ohio Jerry :bgrin2:

:pink-coffeecup: Ah, what a sweet post to read while enjoying my coffee this morning, thank you. Any one who prefers the company of animals to man has my attention. There is nothing kinder then the beauty in the souls of animals. :thumbsup_still:


This is written in the Hebrew Talmud, the book
where all of the sayings and preaching of
Rabbis are conserved over time.

It says: "Be very careful if you make a woman
cry, because God counts her tears. The woman
came out of a man's rib. Not from his feet to be
walked on. Not from his head to be superior, but
from the side to be equal. Under the arm to be
protected, and next to the heart to be loved."

I sometimes wonder if the world would be a kinder place if it didn't lose the ability to recall the sweet sound of their mothers beating heart while nestled in her womb.

No, Jerry, I personally don't judge all men to be the same. Just some are more misguided then others. But as anyone I can't control others, defies the Laws of Universe but I can control & create my own reality. Yours words were part of it. Thank you. :yes:


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I often much prefer the company of animals instead of man just because of this fact of being disrespectful to our sisters (females ) is NOT a KIND or compassionate thing to do .

boooooooooooooooring

Lately I have noticed something around ageless that has deeply disgusted me and I would like to discuss this with you.

I have seen some guys come to the site, start conversations with some women, then flirt with them, get them very interested, talk about a serious, commited relationship, talk on the phone, spend hours building the illusion, set a date to meet....and disappear.



I've been in the internet dating scene for over three years and women do that to me all the time. Wheather it be older or younger than me. I lost count after 100 but I'm only been out with maybe 10.

They will put me on their frend's list, want to chat via instant messenger (I hate that thing personally), want to know intimate secrets about myself, put sexual suggestive cartoons in my comments list. But when it comes down to actually going out on a date, they never follow through. Basically all they want to do is tease and flirt with me.

I am pursuing older women in this forum for a long term relationship l cant fathom that people just want to disappear.

I am pursuing older women in this forum for a long term relationship l cant fathom that people want to just disappear.

People have been doing that in paper personals ads for decades before internet forums like Ageless existed. I know, I've been there!

boooooooooooooooring
Insennnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnsitive

I've been in the internet dating scene for over three years and women do that to me all the time. Wheather it be older or younger than me. I lost count after 100 but I'm only been out with maybe 10.

They will put me on their frend's list, want to chat via instant messenger (I hate that thing personally), want to know intimate secrets about myself, put sexual suggestive cartoons in my comments list. But when it comes down to actually going out on a date, they never follow through. Basically all they want to do is tease and flirt with me.
Imo, I've never flirted with any man online or off (in real life) in a way that should cause them to think that I actually would want to be more than casual friends with them. However, sometimes as I get to know a person better, they become annoying. Sometimes it's because they talk about stupid things like drinking for fun, or repeating the same stories, or they just have the wrong sense of humor, or they just become a pest. Then I do shut them out of my life.

The old saying comes to mind... familiarity breeds contempt. I can get along with most everyone on a superficial level, but sometimes when I get to know them too well, I can't take their company any more. Sorry.

Also in regards to instant messenger type programs. You just never know how many people the other person has on their friends list, or what else they are doing on their computer while online. And again, I've had to block people that would contact me to say hi just as soon as I signed on. I can't deal with more than two convos at once, and even then I am unhappy. lol. So maybe someone has blocked a person just to get some work done or to have some privacy, then forgotten to unblock you.

The same goes for cellphones. Some people just don't like to be so connected to all of their friends. When I used to have a cellphone, I would keep it shut off most of the time. A cellphone to me was for emergencies or important business calls when I was on the road.

So remember, whoever it is you are trying to have a LDR with, don't forget to give them some personal space too. Give them a chance to say hi first more often. Don't be the overeager puppy jumping all over them as soon as they get online. Let them have a chance to miss your online company and think... I wonder how he's doing or what he's up to?

I read the OP, and this is in reply to that.

I'm sorry to hear about it. I don't understand why some men would do that. I didn't even know men did that. Why do some men do that?

In the past, some women have done similar stuff to me in person, face to face, many times in my local area. Why do some women do that?

It really hurts and damages the victoms confidence and ability to trust or hope for a better future. It makes you skeptical the next time someone seems to like you. Damaging a person's hope and ability to trust is very cruel.

I still ask again, why do some people do that to others? I really don't understand it.


May I share the benefit of my years of asking "Why" and what I've learned? It doesn't matter. Don't waste your time or your energy. "Why would someone do that???" should be a fleeting question that pops into your head and, if you need to answer, you answer with a minimum number of words: "They're sick." "They're mean." "They're not like me." "I will never understand." or any other short, simple answer that puts it to rest for you. Then shrug your shoulders, shrug it off, and don't give it anymore of your brain space. Your time and energy are much better refocusing yourself to the issue at hand: "NEXT! Mr/Ms Right-for-me, I know you're out there and I'm ready!"

About the losing interest in a budding friendship... it's more like in real life when you meet someone and like them a little bit. Then you go out on a couple of dates, get to know them better and find out that this person is not your soulmate. So you let them down nicely and move on. Also not everyone takes the hint that things aren't working out for the other person. We've also all been in situations where the friendship is lopsided and one likes more and the other likes less. And by meeting and dating more people, we are able to find someone that is the most compatible with our different personalities.

I think that in internet land, the rules of etiquette are not as formal. So sometimes instead of being courteous and letting someone down nicely, they find it easier just to stop all communications.

In real life, there was a guy who wanted to date me. We were in the same group of friends so everyone except me thought we'd be the perfect couple. lol. However, his last girlfriend had dumped him and then gone out with some other friend of theirs, so he was still very bitter over that. He smoked cigarettes, another huge no-no for me. Lastly and most importantly, although we were of equal smarts, he was a talker, not a listener... and I need someone that understands the art of good conversation. I used to joke to my girlfriends that had we become a couple, I would have ended up killing him. Haha. And about a year later, he and his old girlfriend got back together. So anyway, my point with this story is that different combos of men and women will yield different results.

Well... I've read through all the pages and here I sit...a fool as well.
I did the online thing, actually met the guy (from Alabama) and WASTED 2 years on someone who really didn't know what they wanted.
Oh yes, he said what he wanted plain as day, but when it came down to it, what he really wanted was someone to do all the relationship work, be faithful and support him...while he went through job after job, jail after jail, woman after woman and dollar after dollar.
hmmmm.... After 9 months of putting up with it, I picked him up the day he got released from county jail and drove his butt straight back to Alabama, dropped him on his Momma's doorstep and said "finish raising him, I'm done".
9 months you say?... Yes, living with it...2 years and 15 months trying to get over it. I loved him with everything I had (literally), and spent a majority of the time making excuses for him and the last 15 months of it trying to move on between his phone calls. (which still come 4 years later, that I don't answer)
Online, on the phone, in letters...you can't tell, but it's not your fault. There are wolves in sheep's clothing everywhere...just know, however you met doesn't matter, it's what's going on that does.
All that doesn't matter now :no: I have a YM that is light years more amazing than the man ole' Alabama was (yes he was younger as well, 26 at the time). Don't lose hope or become jaded, love can be found ANYWHERE!:yes: Sometimes it's easier for them to prey on someone with a lot of time on their hands...just be aware. If he sounds too good to be true, he usually is!

You know what really bugs me...getting PMs from YM who I've never seen post anything ever on any thread and have very little info about themselves in their profile. Sorry if I'm offending anyone, but I find it annoying!!! Participate and show who you are before you approach someone. This is NOT a singles site...this is a discusssion board and if in the course of discussions you strike up a friendship, fine...but I repeat...this is not a singles site!!!:mad:

You know Rosebud, in 6 years that has never once happened to me!
I think I should be offended LOL!!!
Not that I want any or would in any way respond.
So please people, just keep going about your business and continue to be "put off" by my presence LOL:D
Blessings, TD

You know what really bugs me...getting PMs from YM who I've never seen post anything ever on any thread and have very little info about themselves in their profile. Sorry if I'm offending anyone, but I find it annoying!!! Participate and show who you are before you approach someone. This is NOT a singles site...this is a discusssion board and if in the course of discussions you strike up a friendship, fine...but I repeat...this is not a singles site!!!:mad:

I got a few lately and do not post under my old name anymore nor go overboard on my jokes and STILL i get PMs YOU tell them I am with someone then they make comments how jealous they are or things like do you like me? I just put them on ignore. Its so stupid. They see you are with someone and BOOM..:no:

This may sound remarkably rude, but anytime I've received PMs from someone who obviously knows nothing about me and never posts on the site, I've just deleted them. I even had one from a WOMAN telling me what an ATTRACTIVE MAN I seemed to be. Yeah, me and the other 500 people you sent this to, right?

Geeze...I am starting to get a complex over something I don't even want:eek:

:eek:sad TD very sad....you gotta get out more LOL

Geeze...I am starting to get a complex over something I don't even want:eek:

HANG ON TD will send you an obscene letter LOL

Here's a suggestion for people to try who don't want to receive PM's. In your profile, you have the option of posting a profile picture. Try putting up a photo of a man and a woman together. It doesn't have to be your own photo. Maybe, it'll deter people from PM'ing you. Or, maybe not. But, it might be worth a try.

Darn girls I honestly had never thought of this situation .
I have PM'd fellow members of ageless to either complement them on a post or to offer advice that I didn't think was appropriate for the whole board .
If I have ever stepped over the line just please tell me and it will never happen again I am just a helper at heart as my YW says and am in a very Happy relationship and do not stalk ladies on line but just did want to post this so that if I was ever misinterpreted that at least someone would understand .
your friend in Ohio Jerry :bgrin2:

Jerry, I wouldn't know lol. But I doubt that they were talking about a "solid" member here!
LOL, Ladies!
Blessings, TD

PMs from active board members who want to make comments, ask for advice, offer advice or just want to get to know you is fine. I have made friends with fellow boards members, male and female, out of threads/posts they have published. I'm talking about someone I have never ever seen contribute anything to this board and they give you some line like you're at a singles bar...that's what I'm referring to. And they usually have a name that suggests they are looking for some fun with an OW or they think it's cool and usually gives the year of birth or age. It's like they think all they need to tell you is that they are a lot younger and they're in. And they have ZERO info about themselves. Who knows who they could be. I just ignore them completely. I never respond to people like this.

Also if they like what you have to say on a post, why don't they just interact with you on that particular thread and offer some input as well and then possibly later, send you a PM with a private comment if they wish. As I said, I don't have a problem with that...but these PM out of nowhere with some lame question, like, "So where do you live, exactly?" or "I'd like to get to know you." Like I'm going to tell YOU or be interested in some anonymous stranger with NO information except that they are supposedly some guy younger than me? It's just comical...but annoying at the same time.:rolleyes:

Thank you for the kind words TD as I really don't ever want you Gals to get angry at me :rolleyes:
your friend Jerry from Ohio :bgrin2:



Jerry, I wouldn't know lol. But I doubt that they were talking about a "solid" member here!
LOL, Ladies!
Blessings, TD

Maybe they were scared, what people say and do are sometimes two different things.

I can understand your disappointment but remember life is good. One of the great things about being on-line is that you can be totally honest about yourself and your situation. Deceit only ruin your chances of reaching someone who can enhance or change your life. One of my golden rules is let the other person know that "don't ask a question that you are not ready for all the possible answers." We often have a pre-set answer in mind and when we get a different answer we are disappointed.

Ving Rhames is hot. I LOOOVE big men :D.


Close! It was Ving Rhames in Pulp Fiction. You get a hug anyway.

*hug*

I do believe we have a romance scammer on the site right now. He tagged me on Yahoo and I blocked him. Beware.

I must admit, I thought this was a place to meet older women when I first joined. I sent a couple PM's telling a couple ladies the were pretty. Now I know better. And I actually have met good fun people to talk to as well.

I can relate to having a long distance relationship. In a way, they are safe for both parties. As for not being able to "bond" online, of course we can bond online. Look at the thousands of "met in real time in person" relationships that end in marriage, with disappointment and divorce. I know it sounds fickle, but many people will string several people along looking for the best "deal" and not a relationship at all. I have decided to concentrate on making MY life good for myself, and not wait by the telephone. I had red flags go up when my friend began to get too nosey about my income.It's a balancing act between showing just the right amount of interest, but not being too enthusiastic. I hate games, but a little caution is a good thing. I am leery of a man who is too eager, or too elusive. I tend to be polyamorous out of necessity. There are no guarantees. But no reason to give up hope, either.

I actually put a keychain on my profile and posts just to keep the ym from this site from hitting on me and I'm completely single. I'm reallly sick and tired of it

You have a very pretty picture up so I guess this is like a red flag to bull.

I just put a "flying solo" banner up and a night time mysterious picture of me. Maybe I should take them down...:eek:

Lately I have noticed something around ageless that has deeply disgusted me and I would like to discuss this with you.

I have seen some guys come to the site, start conversations with some women, then flirt with them, get them very interested, talk about a serious, commited relationship, talk on the phone, spend hours building the illusion, set a date to meet....and disappear.

It's not like a passion that had no continuation because of the difficulties of the virtual world, or discovering incompatibilities, but it's just a cruel technique to seduce and then drop the other person as a used tissue.

I would like to advice especially the female members here to be careful; Ageless has grown and has probably attracted more weirdos than we needed (did we need them?) and although beautiful friendships have been built here, behind the curtains there are people suffering for having trusted too much.

Some people are really sick in this world.

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I would love to meet a younger woman here, which is why I joined in the first place, until I found the true value of this place, and that's not for finding a date to begin with. It's a support forum and in here I've made some great friends - all without hitting on them. I often feel that this is an extended family of mine. I joined at first for the wrong reason, but I keep coming back for the right reasons. I'm sorry that there are "lurkers" who come here for an easy l*y. I suggest that women in here use their better judgment and "spider-sense" to sniff out the phonies.

Why is it wrong for a single, available guy to look for somebody here? I seem to read that message in some of the posts. As a married man, I obviously don't come here for that reason, I come to support and encourage people interested in age-gap love. However, I don't see why a single guy looking for a companion on an age-gap board is a bad thing. Maybe I'm missing something. If I'm not mistaken, there are even personals ads in one of the Ageless categories.

Bob,

You are quite right that there is a personals section and if a single guy who would like to meet women wants to post there that's what it is there for. And if he gets responses from women who are interested, then all is good.

BUT, for all the men who have joined this site over the years and then never post a single post, and proceed to private message every woman whose pic he finds appealing, and never bothering to find out at all whether she is already attached . . . well, there are a lot of us who have been down that road too many times to count and find it quite offensive.

That is what Maria was talking about when she first started this thread way back when. :)

Wow. I didn't realize there were so many people who did that! I guess it's not a good idea to give out email addresses.