I am new to this site and am amazed that one like this exists! I know they say you can find anything on the internet, but I'm still surprised! I have been in an OM, YW relationship for (going on) 7 years now and I must say, a lot of the issues I thought were specific to me are actually pretty commonplace! I can finally talk to people about how I truly feel!!! YAY! First off, I'm 29 and my OM is 54. The first year we were together, I told no one of our relationship (well, except one 'friend' and then she just blabbed to everyone about it!) The reason I didn't tell anyone was I wanted to be the one to tell my parents, and not have them learn from someone else...but I was out of town for the year (finishing up University) and I didn't want to leave my parents alone in the same city as P! When I finally did tell them, my mother had a lot of questions (does he want to get married? does he want children?) because she knew what my dreams and aspirations for the future were. Some of my friends were not so kind. I had a few friends who were so against our relationship, that they kept saying 'it feels so weird to call and ask how your date went' or 'i don't know what to talk to you about anymore'...like dating an older man had taken away my personality!! So, yeah, I lost a few friends along the way, but I have gained such a wonderful, honest, decent partner to share my life with. There are always the ups and downs (generational differences are inevitable) but we are very much in love. Thanks for listening, people!
aclassyguy 07-14-2004, 06:51 AM I am glad to see your happy
Mark
DawnMarie 07-14-2004, 08:32 AM Hello & welcome
You know what u r lucky to find such a wonderful relationship.
Some people never find it. I am 31, my man is 52 & we have a great 1 1/2 year relationship & plan on moving in together this month.
You say that you lost a lot of friends along the way, you know what that tells you, that they weren't good friends to begin with.
Good friends will not judge you or your partner that you choose to be with. Good friends will love you no matter what.
So enjoy your relationship. Along the way, i'm sure u will a lot more good friends that won't judge you & a lot of them could be right here on this sight. Enjoy
littleme 07-14-2004, 09:16 AM when i first started seeing my OM (now ex) I told only a few friends (who knew I was madly in love with him before hand anyway). After that I did not tell anyone- not even my best friend cos i was afraid. Then "one day" i realised that if my friends start acting weird or making rude comments then they are not my friends anymore and I was not scared to lose them. It turned out that all my friends accept the fact that I had an OM and were happy for me.
My parents... that was another story...
bobmarbj 08-08-2004, 09:00 AM I am happy for you as well and also new to this forum. It WAS
great finding this site....it makes a difference knowing there are women like me experiencing the same issues due to the generational difference. I am 45 and my wonderful husband is 70....we have a 5 year old son who is the abosulte joy of our lives. I never new I could experience such happiness and joy in my lifetime. If someone had told me 1o years ago I would meet and marry a man old enough to be my father I would have laughed myself silly. I was a very happy and fulfilled "career" woman when this wonderful man first became my golf buddy and then things just blossomed from there. I had no intention of "dating" him, but before I knew was head over heels in love with him. What started out as a terrific friendship has turned into the most intimate, fulfilling and loving relationship I have ever had. He is truly my soulmate and best friend. I too had problems with my parents acceptance and both have since passed away. My Dad "came around" right before he died as he realized just how happy my husband made me and he told me that all he ever wanted was for me to be happy. Unfortunately we were in Japan visiting my husbands son from his first marriage when my father died (He was going to meet my husband right after we returned from our trip). But at least I know my Dad had recognized that his daughter was truly happy.
We still have people that assume I am my husbands daughter and that our son is his grandson! He handles it all with humor and grace and tells me how proud he is let people know that he is our son's father , not grandfather! I get a kick out of wathcing people "squirm" when we gently "correct" their mis-assumptions
:) about us.All in all, life is great, never without it's problems, but to be in a truly loving, respectful and committed marriage is one of the GREATEST joys I have ever known! Thanks to all of you who post on this site.
calybo 08-08-2004, 10:14 AM welcome marianne, and cici. i'm so glad you found us. hope to hear more from you!
EMCAD80 08-08-2004, 11:45 AM Welcome!
I don't know if Cici is still around....I haven't seen her post :( but welcome all the same and welcome bobmarbj, hope to read more about you :)
EMCAD80 08-09-2004, 04:06 PM Glad to read you're doing so well Kim!
bobmarbj 08-10-2004, 08:04 AM Thanks to EM and Calybo for the welcome! You guys are so genuinely warm ....I am sooooo impressed with this site! Have been corresponding by email with another great woman who happened to see my post on another website. I referred her to this site as well as I feel there is a "real" connection between women who are experiencing the same day to day "challenges" of being a "younger wife". Appears to me that I am the "older woman" here at 45 :) (LOL) But the experiences are the same and I truly appreciate all who post to this forum. Go girls!
EMCAD80 08-10-2004, 02:24 PM bobmarbj,
Why the sad face?
Anywho ~ always glad to help...I'm no longer in an ageless relationship...but the people are one in a million and I couldn't bring myself to leave :D
I hope you stick around for a while!!!
EMCAD80 08-10-2004, 03:06 PM I'll find and bump the thread :)
Jewel83 08-11-2004, 12:21 PM hello cici!
Welcome to YW/OM forum:) its a pleasure of meeting you here!
Im 20 yrs. old with a 29 om. Long distance babygurl keep your head up, If your friends dont like then find some supportive friends who cares 4 you & wanna see you happy. Becuz Im happy 4 you, not too many people find someone whose real good to them. So keep ur eyes on the prize. Bye!
EMCAD80 08-12-2004, 01:18 PM Originally posted by Jewel83
So keep ur eyes on the prize.
Exactly!
bobmarbj 08-13-2004, 07:51 AM oops again....don't know how I got a sad face on my last post...but thanks for the welcome EM!
Yankeegirl....."aging bimbo" ....love it!!!! That describes me perfectly :) I'm by far the oldest mom in our neighborhood but our 5 year old keeps us both young!
EMCAD80 08-13-2004, 12:22 PM ah...the joy of children :D
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