New here, and so here is my story

Hi, Just found these boards and would like to post my story.


I just returned from London after being there for 8 month's, I met S there he is 45 and im 24. ( cue cheesy music here), we met in the park I was there drawing under a tree and he was there to listen to one of his friends talk about something, anyways he saw me drawing and asked if he could have a look. To make this short, I showed him and we ended up talking the rest of the day until 3 in the morning. After that we saw ( until I had to move) each other everyday.

S is the strange, dark and mysterious type. He does not have many friends but the ones he does have he is very close to. Until he met me he had never been in a serious relationship, in fact until that time he had not dated in 15 years. I know the reason why ( to personal to get into) but lets say that he has not had the easy life.

I had to leave London to work on a project in VA, near DC. I won't be back until August at the earliest, Ive been here since the middle of June, he has came to see me 3 times, and will come again next weekend.

S and I have a very strong physical, and emotional relationship, we connect on so many levels. He treats me like a queen and I know that he would never do anything to hurt me. He once asked me after I was having a very bad day at work, how he could make it better for me. He is very sensitive, and is such a romantic. I vividly remember crying the first time we made love because the feelings were just so strong. After that night we have never slept apart until now.


Ok I should just get on with my problem.

The thing is, I feel like this is to good to be true. he is not perfect and we've only had to deal with one major problem that almost tore us apart, but that only made us stronger in my opinion. I guess it could be the distance that is getting to me. And after this project my contract with the company in London will be up, and i'm not sure if they will renew it. We have talked about getting married but nothing is set in stone. I would love to live in London full time but not sure if I can find other work there, the only other option is getting married, but like I said that is not set in stone.

The other problem is I have never told anyone here in the States about him, not any of my friends, or family. Im afraid that they will see that the age difference is to great and that I should find someone my own age. In London this wasnt the case, his friends loved me, and my friends loved him because he treated me so great.

Thanks for letting me get this off my chest. I would apperciate all the advice I can get, and any simular stories.

Teresa

If you love this man does it matter what other people think. What is worst to not have him or disappoint your firends if they disapprove

Mark

hi, this is my first time here, and when i saw your post i felt very familiar with it. I am a 23 years old girl that lived , for a year, with a 46 years old man. It was the best year of my life, because for the first time in my life i believe i found someone that i really love and admire. Currently we are not living together , he is in America and I am in Argentina. It has been really hard,and I plan to go back in December. But i am not sure what is going to happen. One of our problems is that I never told my family about the situation, I feel the same way that they are not going to aprove this. They know that i have a boyfriend but i never showed a picture of him. They are always asking to see a picture or something like that but i can´t show them. I dont know what it is, he doesn´t even look like a 40 year old man. this is driving me crazy too... So, what i am trying to say is that i understand what you are going thru. I am sorry i can´t help...:( but i thought that sharing my story would be good.
let me know what happens with you

So you spoke of getting married..... Im not sure I heard a reason why you would marry him in your writings.

Alright...first of all WELCOME!!!!! Second of all, many of us here can relate to your situation. Its clear that you are very 'taken' with this man.....isn't love great!!! I would definitally recommend checking out the 'Long Distance Relationships' forum for getting advice with the distance thing.
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[COLOR=indigo]Next, you should not hide that fact that you are with this man......believe me i understand completely......but if you hide it then when everyone eventually finds out (and believe me they will) they will have a reason to wonder why you hid him and they will immediately get suspicious. So, talk about himj! :-) Don't even bring up the age thing unless someone asks....show them that it is so not a big deal. That way, if they do make an issue about it, its THEIR problem, not yours.....and eventually they will accept it. My family did, My guy is 42 and I am 22. Although he looks as if he is 30...the point is I would never not be with him just because he happens to be older....you obviously feel the same way. Just stay positive and have faith in your love! :-)

Enchanted , if you love this man it shouldnt matter what others say, what do you think in your heart for S? Seems to me that yall truly into eachother here. First thing, Don't never allow negative people into the realtionship! becuz there are people out there who are jealous of your relationship whether you tell them or not. Its up to you what u believe its right. But Gurl do your thing, you two lovebirds go on ahead & live happily together dont worry about everybody else. okay? Be yourself & make ur own decisions. :)

GOODLUCK!