US Emmigration plz help

Hi everyone,

This is my first post and its a plea for help?? I am a 34 year old woman from the UK, who has fallen in love with a 57 year old man from the USA. I have visited him and we both know we want to be together.

The problems start with us being in different countries. He is still married so can't sponsor me to move there. I don't know where to go for help with this matter. Can anyone point me in the right direction. I am going crazy without him, our internet affair just isn't the same any more now we have met each other properly.

US immigration law seems to be an absolute minefield, I know I can go there for 3 months on the visa waiver programme, but I have a 9 year old son in tow. That is also a problem as his dad has said he will file for parental resposibility to prevent me taking him out of the country.

Please, please help I feel lost in all this, and all I want is to be with the man I love.

Thanks

MizzKat

Hi Mizzkat and welcome to ageless. Other members whose SO immigrated from the UK may be able to offer some advice, but my first thought is that since he is married, the only way that I know of that you can spend time together is under that visitors visa waiver program that you mentioned.

You might find information on visajourney.com, but I believe there are other websites out there with specific information on immigrating from the UK to the US specifically.

I am assuming that he is planning on divorcing? If so, how long before that will be final? If you had to, could you wait until then? Because if so, at that point once it's final you could definitely go through the fiance visa process if you two intend to marry.

umm, yes...he's married. what is the intent with that??

Hi and thanks for the replys. sorry it took me so long to post but I've had problems logging on the site, think it was to do with cookies.

Anyway, I have since seen a lawyer who is going to start the immigration process. There are no guarantees but it's a positive start. And down the line when my intended gets his divorce, if I am still waiting I can change my application status to fiance.

We are currently in a situation where he cannot divorce his wife immediately. Even if he did there is a 6 - 9 month wait for it to be finalised and the cost which we cannot afford just now. I want to move over there as soon as possible so I can look for a job and settle in to a new country, as well as spend precious time with him.

Now I have the added worry that my son's father is applying for parental responsibility to prevent me taking him out of the UK. I don't know that things can get much bleaker. Anyone have any good news they'd like to tell me about the immigration process. :(

Maybe you are not an European citizen? Otherwise you should be able to go to the US as Dragonfly said, for a period of 3 months, totally legally.

And I wanted to tell you, nobody was able to access the site since last July 19 th because our old server crashed and now we have a new one.:)

Mizzkat, since you're applying to immigrate here, and not just visit, well.... again I don't believe you'll be successful at doing this since he is still legally married -- at least you won't be able to on a K-1 (fiance) or K-3 visa (spousal) . But, please keep us posted.


EDIT: I just re-read your last post. It sounds like you're trying to immigrate here under another sort of visa. Like possibly a student or job related type. Good luck to you. I still think you've got a difficult road ahead of you getting here.

It is HARD to immigrate to the US... not nearly as easy as one would think.

Thanks for all your help. To clear a few things up, I do want to legally emmigrate to the US, with my son. My OM and I intend to marry when his divorce is settled.

The biggest problem of the minute is that we want to be together NOW!! I know it's selfish but we are both miserable. I would like to be able to spend time in the USA until he can legally sponsor me to stay. We both understand that it could be months before we are legally able to have my application okayed by immigration. For those months inbetween I want to be able to stay in the states.

I dont think the 3 month visa waiver will be long enough and I can't legally look for work whilst there. Also with him still being married for the moment he is in no position financially to support myself and my son.

I am an IT trainer in the UK but I know that there is no shortage of my skills in the US, so that more than likely rules out the employment visa. Also coming from the UK, I dont qualify for the green card lottery.

Hopeless and Helpless but thankfull for all your input

You do have an opportunity for an employment visa. Here is what I would suggest... contact a recruiter, a head hunter, and try to get a job in the US. You can search for one online.

Thanks marcy, I've gotten so used to looking at all the doom and gloom posts from others looking for work in the US, that I hadn't considered trying myself. I didnt think my skills were unique enough.

Of course all this is going to cost precious money, I don't necessarily have but if I am successful in finding a job, it will be worth it.

One other question? Does anyone know how long after you've come home from spending 3 months in the states on the visa waiver, you have to wait before you can go back for another 3 months?

Well a head hunter would not cost you money at all. They collect their fees from the companies once you are hired. This is why I suggest them. If you have one that wants to charge you a fee, then they are not likely very reputable!

As far as when you can get back into the US... this is completely discretionary. You can be turned away at any time for any reason and its all up to the discretion of the customs officer. :(