32 yr age difference

Hi! I am a 50 yr old man who is seeing an 18 yr old fem. We have great times have similar interests. I keep saying this is nuts, im not woddy allen. She will be going to college here in town. i have encouraged her many ways, including college. Can this work? Any thoughts, advice?

It can work....however I will express my feelings a little bit here. She's 18 and still has a bit to learn. I'm only 23, but have vastly grown since the ripe age of 18. The best I can tell you is to be open and honest with communication...this includes the positive and the negative.

There are some 18 year olds that are far beyond their years....I'm not sure what your YW is like...but I wish you all the best. I look forward to hearing more about you and your new relationship :)

Hi there...

Welcome to ageless..... I agree with what Em said... It definatly can work.. it depends on the two individuals... I'm 29 years old Married to a man who is 46 17 years difference.. We just had a baby I know it's not as big as your gap.. but age is a number... but I also remember what a difference it is to be 18 years old then to be 21 years old and Now I'm almost 30.. women change drastically in there teens....Men do to.. but I don't know how they feel because I'm a woman ;) Just talk and talk and communicate Like Em said...

Good Luck

Just out of curiosity Padre...on a side note...I see your from Cali...and your screen name is Padre....are you a fellow San Diegan?

It definitely can work. I've known M since I was 14. I'm now 20 and we're married. (He's 39 now.)

The thing is, she has to be willing to make some sacrifices. Being with you isn't going to be all amazing and easy. She will see stories on the news about parties going on in the town... or things like that... and she won't be able to go because maybe you wouldn't fit in.. or this or that... it sounds mean, but it's true.

I had free tix to go to the Super Bowl if I just participated in the TRL show here, but M was too old to do it.

M refuses to go to clubs downtown...

Now I don't OMG need or what to go to these places, but it does go through my head that other people my age are indeed going out and having fun.

Everyone wants to think that it's just gonna work out cause there's love there. But sacrifices will have to be made, and ya gotta be ready for that.

Good point Ellie....but also, Padre, you'll have to make sacrifices of your own. You might have to give in every once in a while to something she wants to do....it's give an d take...not all take ;)

What? I still go out. With and without my boyfriend. And he goes out without me sometimes. Just because you're dating someone older doesn't mean you're supposed to act like them. I sure as heck wouldn't want him acting like me, nor would I want to act 40. I'm not ready or willing to completely hang it up yet. Actually as long as I'm with my OM we'll never hang it up. He doesn't do "club clubs" but we've definitely always had a great time in bars.

Hope you can handle her still acting like an 18 year old. She's going to college and she should enjoy it.

Different strokes for different folks....
When D and I first started dating he and I were going to clubs left and right...dancing all the time. But as we got more comfortable with each other we just wanted to spend time alone. I stopped going out w/ my friends for a while because I didn't want to be w/out D...and since he was uncomfortable w/ my friends and they didn't approve of him being 40, I just stayed in. So I SHOULD have said I WANTED to stay in...I didn't really give it up.