Do you have any special feelings...

...for someone here in ageless, but is/was not brave enough to openly say it nor send him/her an IM?

1- How do you deal with it?

Some options...

-Do nothing.
-Ask other people about him/her hoping they'll tell you're interested.
-Post something in their threads but don't quote his/her words.
-Same as above, but dares to corageously at least mention his/her name (lol)
-Send IMs asking serious things or commenting about something he/she's written.
-Post funny/clever things hoping he/she will someday notice you.
-Ask people to say/post nice things about you.
-Pray.


2- What would you like this hypothetical person to do if you knew he/she wants to approach you?

Hi Paul,

I know what those secret crushes can be like in real life, but online I suppose maybe its a little easier to try and get to know someone, but maybe thats just me!!! Anyway as to your question:
2- What would you like this hypothetical person to do if you knew he/she wants to approach you?


I would like them to approach me!!!
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You never know until you try right!?

Paul, there is an old saying: Fair maid was never won by faint heart. If you are attracted and she is not in a relationship, by all means write to her and tell her that you would like to get to know her better. That's all...just an offer to talk. Don't say I think I'm falling for you, or anything so strong.

If it was me, I would figure that any man who can't write to me directly isn't worth bothering with because he's got some big problems. Dave was so shy he didn't approach anyone and yet he wrote to me, just a note, but it was a first step.

Any person who has posted here and has been supportive is known by most of the members, this gives you a reputation that will help you if you do approach someone. I knew Dave from what he wrote to others, so I was pleased that he wrote me since I already knew what kind of man he is.

Peace,
Jane

Originally posted by BearsAngel
Paul, there is an old saying: Fair maid was never won by faint heart.

Interesting...
There's a saying here which is more like a tale, but I can't remember it in details (maybe Maria could help).
In it, those interesting, intelligent, loving and caring women are compared to good apples there, on the top of trees while those "not so honorable" ones (hey, I don't want to sound chauvinist, that's someone else's tale ...lol...) are those apples on the ground.

It says men prefer to catch the ones on the ground, they are easier, while the real good and tasty ones will be still waiting for someone who will spend time and effort to get to them.
In real life I've seen it a million times, also happened to me, to friends of mine and I bet everyone here has something to say about it too.


Ravenglow You would like them just to approach you?

Hummm, you women are really confident in that aspect...
In some ways your lives are so much easier

....... errr ....

.......... errrrrr ..........

ok...

well, there's pregnancy, menstruation, 4 kids fighting all the time, that bald and chubby guy on the coach asking for more bear and cleaning his hands on a clean towel after fixing the radiator fan of his car ... ok, ok, forget what I said, you are absolutely right ;) (THIS TIME....lol)

BTW, I started this thread not because I want some tips, I am just curious to learn how frequently these things happen here. :p

I agree with Ravenglow's suggestion about the direct approach, however, here on ageless, if you are not a regular poster and you send a woman a PM, she may not feel that your intentions are the best (see Hunting Women on Ageless thread). So, I recommend that you post, become a regular member of the community here, and get to know people first.

Originally posted by whiterose
...however, here on ageless, if you are not a regular poster and you send a woman a PM, she may not feel that your intentions are the best (see Hunting Women on Ageless thread). So, I recommend that you post, become a regular member of the community here, and get to know people first.

Hmmm, that reminds me of a woman who I got kind of involved with...
She hadn't posted for several months and most of her late posts were deleted (or edited) but as soon as I subscribed here I got her PM in my inbox.

At that time, I wanted people to know we were kind of ...dating... and this idea would scare her to death.
I can imagine there are lots of people, men AND women, who only approach this way.
It's very convenient ..... for only one of the sides involved, agree? ;)

From the land of bananas and bikinis, this is Paulo Roberto.

Originally posted by Charming_Paul
...for someone here in ageless, but is/was not brave enough to openly say it nor send him/her an IM?

1- How do you deal with it?

Some options...

. . .
-Post something in their threads but don't quote his/her words.
-Same as above, but dares to corageously at least mention his/her name (lol)
-Send IMs asking serious things or commenting about something he/she's written.
-Post funny/clever things hoping he/she will someday notice you.


2- What would you like this hypothetical person to do if you knew he/she wants to approach you?
I think I would be brave enough to send the person a PM, as long as I thought we would be compatible. If I didn't think we would be compatible, I would just keep my feelings of admiration to myself, but would certainly contribute to an interesting thread that this person was posting in--because the thread in itself is interesting, not because I was trying to impress him.

Above, for your option no. 1, I deleted the things I would *not* do, and left in the things I *would* do. NOTE: If I were to post funny/clever things on Ageless it would be because that's who I am, not to get the other person to notice me. If I don't know the other person, I would have no way of knowing what his sense of humor is like, so I would not know whether he likes mine! It would be a waste of time to try to impress him that way (unless, of course, I already know something about his sense of humor). Better to just "be myself."

As for number 2, if the other person likes me, let him send me a PM! I respond to all of my PMs, and I'm not intimidating.

Paul, is it me? It's me, isn't it? Sigh... not another one...

JUST KIDDING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ;) HAHAHA, sorry, I thought I was pretty hilarious... ;) I'm not making light, sorry.

:D

If I'm interested in a women (older or younger), I always tell her. Unfortunately, everyone here is at least halfway across the United States. :(

"If there's bright a center to the universe, you're on the planet that is farthest from." - Luke Skywalker

;)

LOL...I couldn't agree with you more Trish.

Originally posted by Raven Magdalene
And...Men are like fine wine. They start out as grapes, and it's up to women to stomp the crap out of them until they turn into something acceptable to have dinner with. ;)

*LOL* The alternative is...

The women stomp on the men's "grapes" until they w(h)ine....

*LOL*

And there are some men that LIKE that....
Heck, there's some men that will pay good money for that!

BUT, I digress...

Back to your regularly scheduled grape stomping...

Why not just chop the tree down. Then, you can get all the apples. :D (Just kidding.)

As for guys being wine . . . I'm very bitter. My ex-fiancee' stomped too long and too hard. :(

;)

I agree with Trish...

Paul, I think the direct approach is the best as some have said. Rick and I met in the chat room here. Rick came in chat room all the time, but never posted anything or read much on the forums. I noticed him and had a secret crush on him and he on me, but of course no one knew including us. lol Anyway, just out of the blue one night in the chat room, after several months of coming on, he said, "Jannie you seem like someone I would like to get to know better." And that is where we started from.

I liked his approach. It was personal but not too personal, nice and polite, and not all up in your face so to speak, and I like the fact that he approached me, and there was no guesswork involved, it was I would like to get to know you, just honest.

How exciting is this!!! Hottie is in love!
Now we all are waiting to find out who it is!

Originally posted by Canche
How exciting is this!!! Hottie is in love!
Now we all are waiting to find out who it is!

All I want to know is who "hottie" is... Someone I know??? :)

Oh, if you mean me, I'm not in love at all, it was pure curiosity, unfortunately I'm still waiting for someone to show me the way.

I've been out for a few days trying to make a good business negotiation here, but didn't work out as I expected...
Brazil...So beautiful and so complicated...We have the HIGHEST TAX RATES in the world here in Brazil and yet so many social/economic problems.

Maybe I'll be moving to the USA, Portugal or Australia by the end of this year, I'm really tired of working too much for nothing...

(thanks God someone still calls me hottie, even though I really think you need glasses, kind lady ..lol..)

Paulo

Hey Paul Australia is great come on down!!! And bring the bikinis.

Originally posted by Raven Magdalene

So the apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they're amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.


Bah. The heck with this waiting around to get noticed crap. I say to all the "good apples" at the top of the tree...

Ladies, when you see a good man, DO A NEWTON!

Even the good guys need to be hit in the head!!! :D

*waiving the hockey stick of love*

Did I ever say that you crack me up, Sally?

:D

I'm applying for honorary Canadian status.

Clearly, I belong ......

FORE

Originally posted by Desert Spring

I'm applying for honorary Canadian status.

Clearly, I belong ......

FORE

Woo, Desert Spring! Welcome to the Great White North!

Not too many deserts up here though... maybe change your name to Drifting Snow? ;)

Oh, and by the way... it's ZED. :cool:

Originally posted by sally

example:
We don't call the band Zed Zed Top!:D

We would if they were Canadian... ;)

Coo...coo-coo-coo-coo-coo-coo-cooooo!
Coo...coo-coo-coo-coo-coo-coo-coo.

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You might be canadian if.....
-You can repeat the entire Molson's Canadian 'The Rant'.
-You know all the words to "If I had a million dollars" by The Barenaked Ladies, including the inter-stanza banter between Steven and Ed.
-You dismiss all beers under 6% as "for children and the elderly"
-You know that the Royal Canadian Mounted Police (RCMP) don't always look like that
-You watch MuchMusic constantly, in the hopes of occasional fleeting glimpses of The Tragically Hip
-You think Peter Mansbridge is sexy. -You think Lloyd Robertson is sexy. -You think Peter Kent is sexy.
-You think Matt Damon is so-so -You can do the hand actions to Sharon, Lois and Bram's "Skin-a-marinki-dinki-do".
-You know why "killerwhaletank" is funny
-You had a crush on Joey Jeremiah from Degrassi Junior High.
-You know that a "Premier" isn't a baby born a few months early
-You think -10 C is mild weather
-You substitute beer for water when cooking.
-You carry empty beer cans from your camping trips home with you in your backpack so you can recycle them when you reach civilization.
-You know that the 'Extra Creamy' in Kraft Extra Creamy Dinner is 'add more milk.'
-You know what "Canuba" is. You think it's pretty damn funny
-You die a little inside if you can't get your Tim's double-double every morning.
-You know the difference between real snow and "television" snow -- the white stuff that passes for snow on tv and in films. You scream, "For Christsake! That should be sticking to their pants!" and "Lookit, it's not melting! That's *so* not snow!" when watching 'Winter' scenes
-You've actually said, "Stay where yer at, 'till I gets where yer to"
-Can Complete the phrase: "The good old ____ game is the best ____ you can ____."
-You find it difficult to explain "milk in a bag" to non-Canadians, and even more difficult to describe the "snippy-thing" used on bag corners. (Bonus points if your collected snippy-things are stuck to your fridge.)
-You're pretty sure you can see Alex Trebek smirking when Jeopardy contestants get the "Canada questions" wrong. Even if you weren't sure of the answer yourself, you consider yourself a hundred times smarter than the idiots who always guess, "What is .. uh, Toronto?"
-Your Saturday nights in the Atlantic provinces include eating beans and brown bread as you watch Hockey Night in Canada
-Your local zoo is mainly flamingoes, giraffes and sad elephants freezing their asses off against a backdrop of pine trees, grey skies, and precambrian shield formations
-You know that a pike is a type of fish, not part of a highway
-You drive on a highway, not a freeway -You have Canadian Tire money in your kitchen drawers
-You cried when you heard that "Mr Dress Up" died recently.
-You get excited whenever an American television show mentions -You live in a house with no front step, but the door is one meter up from the ground
-You perk up when you hear the theme song from "Hockey Night in Canada."
-"Eh?" is a very important part of your vocabulary, and is more polite than, "Huh?"
-You've ever had your tongue frozen to something.
-You know that in Canada the mosquitoes have landing lights
-You have more miles on your snow blower than your car
-You know that Canadian Tire on any Saturday is busier than the toy stores before Christmas.
-You've taken your kids trick-or-treating in a blizzard.
-Driving is better in the winter because the potholes are filled in with snow
-You can play road hockey on skates
-You have memorized the Heritage Foundation's Heritage Moments, including your favourites, "Burnt Toast!", "You know I canna read a word...",
-You are moved to tears by those Bell Canada phone commercials they show around Remembrance Day, where the grandson calls his granddad from Dieppe. You understand the manipulative nature of the advertisement, but continue to be moved, nonetheless
-You spit angrily when Americans say "ruff" instead of the correct "roof".

YOU MIGHT BE A LIL TOO CANADIAN IF.....
-You read rather than scanned this list

Wow...

That's a good list.

One more though...

You're Canadian if you've turned on the heat and the air conditioning in your car on the same day. :)

Oh man. At least half the things on that list had me scratching my head going "huh"?

or maybe eh?

I do love the Bare Naked Ladies though, so maybe there's hope :D

Just need to buttress my collection of wooly sweaters.

You Canadian folks rock. Boyfriend took a trip to the wilds of Northern Ontario last year and got totally hooked. We're so there if anybody ever asks us.

I'm keeping that hockey stick of love comment forever. I love it :D

Originally posted by Desert Spring

You Canadian folks rock. Boyfriend took a trip to the wilds of Northern Ontario last year and got totally hooked. We're so there if anybody ever asks us.


My mother lives up there. She's in a little village in the region of Muskoka. It's gorgeous.

At Christmastime, it looks just like a postcard. And the winter stars -- it's like you could just reach out and touch them.

Just remember to bring your blackfly gear in the early summer... ;)

Originally posted by sally
(but the Canadian Tire money is excellant for buying scalper's tickets, in nearly any major U.S. city!)
So what is this mysterious "Canadian Tire money"? It's been mentioned twice so far!

(BTW, I read, not scanned, all of Dan's list... and I'm not Canadian!)

Oh, yes, one other thing--you might also be from Central Illinois, if you used your car's heater and air conditioner in the same day! Canada doesn't have a monopoly on changeable weather

Originally posted by Desert Spring
You Canadian folks rock. Boyfriend took a trip to the wilds of Northern Ontario last year and got totally hooked. We're so there if anybody ever asks us.
I'm there..... come on up!!

Scarlet, sweetie, I love ya -- but Muskoka is so NOT the wilds of Northern Ontario!!

Wiser, Canadian Tire is a national chain store (probably started its existence as a hardware/automotive store, but has expanded beyond that now) that gives a 3% premium on cash purchases in its own "money". Bills range in denomination from 5 cents to $1.

There's even a bar in town here that takes Canadian Tire money at par! (That's how you know you're in the "wilds of Northern Ontario"..... :D )

Originally posted by Savannah
I'm there..... come on up!!

Scarlet, sweetie, I love ya -- but Muskoka is so NOT the wilds of Northern Ontario!!


Oh yeah, I know -- it's more like Cottage Country, the Semi-Sorta Gateway to Northern Ontario. But you're right, it's still pretty south. Still, it's as north as a lot of people get.

Unless you ask the provincial government, who officially made it "Northern Ontario" about a year ago. :rolleyes:

Originally posted by ScarletHawke
Unless you ask the provincial government, who officially made it "Northern Ontario" about a year ago. :rolleyes:
Yes, this would be the same government that flies me SOUTH to attend meetings for the northern region. :p

In reply to your questions . . .

1. I'm usually been a very open person. I would tell person that I'm interested in her/him.

2. Do you mean approach in person? I guess sit down over a cup of coffee (and tea) and get to know each other better. :`)
;)