jerrysgirl
07-29-2004, 01:06 PM
A few weeks ago, I wrote asking for advice from anyone who thought they could help me with a problem that had been bothering me. I got many great responses and very helpful information and advice. I took some of the advice and implemented it, to a degree. I realized that what many had to say was true, but I also remembered, I do love him. So I wrote a letter to him, and I asked him to take himself out of our relationship and look at this as someone asking him for advice. I told him everything aobut the way I felt about him, our relationship, and his negligence of considering my feelings when it came to meeting his children. Well we had a discussion about it and he said he was sorry, he didn't realize that it hurt me that much.
Well, I am happy to say, that I have had the opportunity to talk with his daughter on the telephone for almost two hours, and was able to meet her in person this last weekend. This man has other children, but they do not live close, so I have not had the opportunity to meet them yet, but I feel better knowing that he is okay with me meeting them. I understand now his reluctancy to let me meet them, because she told me that he asked her several times to meet me and she said no. She also said that she told him she wouldn't like me, and never would. She even told me that she had prepared herself not to like me, but she reconsidered when she saw how much her dad had changed and she said she had to give me a chance. She told me that she doesn't know what I have done to him, but she has never seen him this happy. She also told me that I am welcome at her house anytime.
Since this has taken place, our relationship is so much better. He is not as uptight like he has been in the past. Now I call his house, and if his daughter is there, he puts her on the phone. She is really a great girl and I hope this is the start of a new relationship between she and I.
I just wanted to thank everyone who gave me their input, it was very helpful at a time that I was unsure of what to do. Thank you so much for the support.
Well, I am happy to say, that I have had the opportunity to talk with his daughter on the telephone for almost two hours, and was able to meet her in person this last weekend. This man has other children, but they do not live close, so I have not had the opportunity to meet them yet, but I feel better knowing that he is okay with me meeting them. I understand now his reluctancy to let me meet them, because she told me that he asked her several times to meet me and she said no. She also said that she told him she wouldn't like me, and never would. She even told me that she had prepared herself not to like me, but she reconsidered when she saw how much her dad had changed and she said she had to give me a chance. She told me that she doesn't know what I have done to him, but she has never seen him this happy. She also told me that I am welcome at her house anytime.
Since this has taken place, our relationship is so much better. He is not as uptight like he has been in the past. Now I call his house, and if his daughter is there, he puts her on the phone. She is really a great girl and I hope this is the start of a new relationship between she and I.
I just wanted to thank everyone who gave me their input, it was very helpful at a time that I was unsure of what to do. Thank you so much for the support.