how do you stay "close" even if you're miles away?

Hi all,

just wondering if anyone has any suggestions on how to make those lonely times in a LDR more bearable, and how to keep the fires of romance burning between you and your SO even though you are apart physically

I have a few myself I'd like to share....

about every other month or so, Bob and I make gift packages for each other. We always record tapes of our favorite music for each other and we actually talk on the tapes. I know listening to his voice can't compare to him actually being in my arms... but it helps tremendously!

We're also keeping a journal which we send back and forth to each other. We're on our second journal now. Our first one spanned form 2/2002 to 6/2004.

Even though our demanding jobs keep us from talking on the phone daily, we always make it a point to at least write a short note to each othr via e-mail every day. Just reading the word's "I Love You" is so significant and it truly does make my day.

I'm looking forward to the responses here! :)

oh gosh... that is an ongoing "problem"... LD is not easy or ideal, and no magic solutions to ease the pain...
i have hit so many lows with it, lost count!

for me its important for daily contact... icq, messages here, phone calls. i need the little day to day stuff shared... that brings it "closer" for me. and planning for its end..making dreams happen

I love the idea of the packages and journals, Bob's babydoll.

We had a thread on this a few months ago that I'll give you a link go:

Ideas on how to keep your LDR alive (http://www.agelesslove.com/boards/showthread.php?s=&threadid=10588)


I personally have been struggling lately with my own LDR. Remi and I only get to talk about 1-2 times a week on yahoo messenger. He has no phone in his apartment, is in the process of moving to another city anyway, his cell phone has died, and sending packages back and forth is VERY expensive and a huge hassle for us. When we do talk, it always seems very rushed as he is 7 hours ahead of me and has to use an internet cafe to talk to me and they are usually getting ready to close (it would be between 2-3 a.m. there when we talk). So........... he and I are really screwed. It's tough. But, somehow, we've managed this for 10 months now. And the one thing that helps the most is patience, which is very difficult to for me to find these days. :(

((((Dragonfly))))

Every night, as long as it may be, gives place to the day. :)

(a bad translation, but it means every suffering comes to an end)

;) and then you either break something, have a drink, or have a good *itch session, or shed the tears...
choices!! i happen to do all at once! ;) and i thought i couldn't multitask! *fluffing blonde hair* ok, so its grey now, i WAS a blonde...

i think we all need to realize... it is ok to feel the low. how else would we know when it is all so good?
and i feel in good company... such wonderful support of caring women facing the same issues.

Originally posted by Dragonfly
Boy can I relate to your post whiterose. I would love to send things back and forth to my husband... but good lord ... shipping anything bigger then a greeting card to The Netherlands is simply WAY to expensive. Cost me about as much to ship his Christmas present as the present itself. Then he got a bill for the import tax as well. ~rolls eyes~ I HATE LDR's .... and like you said... they begin to grate on you.... after a time it seems like all the fates are conspiring against you. And yes ... I am in a feeling sorry for myself mood today. ~smiles~ But a year and a half with another 5 -6 months ahead of us ... is really dragging me down today.

Yes, that stupid tax. :mad: I forgot to add that to my post, too. It cost me MORE to ship Remi's package than the contents were worth. He then had to travel across the country from eastern Romania to western Romania to pick it up, and then had to pay something like a 19% tax. AND, to top it all off, the package had been opened, some of the contents were missing and some were wet and smelly. This happened both times I sent him packages. So, I told him never again. It's just not worth all the trouble we both have to go through. I will just take his birthday and Christmas presents with me if I get to go there this fall.

I, too, am having a very down day today because of our LDR. I already mentioned some of how I feel in my earlier post. But, tonight I realized it has been 11 days since he and I spoke. Right now I don't know if he's in Bucharest or back home, or.... who knows. :( I can only wait. (sigh)

Sorry to hijack the thread Bob's babydoll.