Should I Just Move On?

Hello Everyone,

I was hoping to get some advice about a situation I am in. I apologize for the length :).

I met an older guy and we began talking everyday. He is several years older than me (I am 20). I am thinking, though, that this guy is not just talking with me, but most likely many other women. He jokes about 'never being lonely' because there is 'always a woman around' and laughed about having female articles of clothing that other women left behind (!), but then he says 'YOU KNOW I AM JUST KIDDING, GOSH.' Also, when asked him if he would like to make plans one night, he said he was going to bed early, but then was online until midnight or later.

A little while after we began talking on the phone the first time, he asked me to hold on a minute as he had another call. He was gone for about 5 minutes. Now, granted I wasn't about to be nosey and ask who it was, it could have been a friend/family member, but probably not. He has a cellular phone, and not a home phone. He says a home phone is 'too much of a hassle.' HMM. I have not given him my home number however.

Also, he IMed me and asked me a really off-the-wall question the other day. I will try and put this as gently as possible, but he asked me how big my breasts were. I was stunned. Then he told me not to be so sensitive and said "He loves messing around with me" (in the joking manner). He is always making sexual comments and while they were funny at first, it seems as though he does not want to talk about anything else (i.e. he doesn't seem to care when I am telling him about my interests, goals, etc.). And, he doesn't even respond to my IMs some times.

We have tried to make plans to hang out, but both of us are busy most of the time. He will ask me, 'when can I see you?' which is okay, but other times he will ask, "Do you feel like having some FUN tonight?"

What should I do? Should I flat out ask him if he is talking with other women? I can not believe that jealousy is rearing its ugly head, but it is :(. I do not want to and will not have a fling with him, period.

I'd say you should move on, but it doesn't really sound like you've got anything going on with this guy anyways. He's just trying to be a "player." Personally I wouldn't have anything to do with someone like him because it's pretty obvious what he's after. And if he's being disrespectful (making you wait 5 minutes on hold, lying about where he's going to be, making rude sexual comments) I wouldn't even have him as a friend. There are a lot of good men out there. It won't be hard to find one who treats you better than this creep.

Did you meet him online? It's just that I'm seeing some red flags with all the things you've told us. He doesn't have a home phone, just the cell phone yet somehow, while you were on the phone to him he had another call come through, does he have 2 cell phones then? What's he hiding springs to my mind.
Another thing, he's very disrepectful towards you. What does he think he's doing telling you all these things about never being lonely etc. I'm sorry and I might be wrong but it sounds like he's just using you right now, out for one thing. Just be careful, I'm glad you haven't given him your home phone number, I wouldn't do either until I was sure of who he is and if everything he says is true. One thing jumping out at me, and I'm probably wrong is that this guy could even be married, it would account for his apparent lack of a home phone, and wouldn't he need a home phone line to access the internet? Maybe I'm reading this all wrong and if so I'll apologise now but if not, then I'd move on, save yourself more heartache. Take care

I wouldn't worry too much about the fact that he doesn't have a home phone. My SO and I only use cell phones (which have call waiting), and we only have a home phone because we have DSL internet. If he has cable internet service he woudn't need a home phone at all. So it doesn't necessarily mean anything.

But he still sounds like a jerk. :D

I guess I just have a very suspicious mind Pink, seen too many people get hurt where a guy has been lying through his teeth, though I should say I've seen just as many who are really happy. Like I said, I'm probably wrong, usually am lol. I agree thuogh, he sounds like a real jerk and she deserves better :D

oh my... This guy seems like he's just "playing" you.. I'm sorry but it doesn't seem to me that hes into the relationship like you are.... he seems to be looking for a goodtime... to me he sounds married...why can't you call his home phone...

I would stay clear... it will only cause you pain in the end :) When it's true love you would know it...

I appreciate those that replied to my post. Thank you very much.

I just wanted to let you all know what happened last night. I IMd him only with the intention of letting him know that I was not interested in pursuing anything more with him. Now, I know I did not owe him ANY sort of explanation. When I IMd him, there was a woman claiming to be one of his female friends on the other end! She began asking me where I met him, and then went on to say, "I can't believe he is still single with all the women that come on to him." WOAH. This 'friend' then proceeded to tell me that if she and him we still single in a few years, they made a pact to GET MARRIED. I politely excused myself from the conversation. NO MORE OF THIS JUNIOR HIGH IMMATURITY. I CAN'T BELIEVE A GROWN MAN IS ACTING LIKE THIS. Now, granted, it probably was a friend of his, but he is letting her ROAM on his computer and talk to one of his aquaintances on HIS SCREEN NAME. :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

Good for you! This guy sounds like he is not worth one minute of your time. You are much better moving on and meeting someone who is interested in behaving like an adult who will treat you with respect.

And just for future reference, if you ever meet anyone online, and they ask you about your breast size (or if you want to "have some fun tonight", etc.), cease all communication immediately.

Who are these people???

Hi there well from the looks of your story babygurl, move on! Drop that zero & get yourself a hero, Someone who will like the real you instead of your flesh honey. :) Plus pray to God to send you a decent man who gonna cherish you okay? Goodluck & god bless you:)