I have a question - ym's friend

Last night I had been drinking, and we ended up at a pub where we ran into my ym's best friend... I'll call him Eugene. Anyway, Eugene and I get along, generally, but we don't exactly like each other.

Anyhoo, I mentioned I had been drinking, right? Haha.

Eugene was getting under my skin, due to the fact that I thought he had somehow dissed my ym. whether or not he actually did... not totally sure now.

So. Then Eugene starts some conversation about some skank or other, and then he stops, kind of glances at me and says, "I'll tell you later."

OH MAN, did that piss me off!

I ended up totally snapping at him and storming off. Overreaction? Probably. But I hate that Jr. high school bs, that secretiveness, "hide it from the girlfriend" in a very "hide it from the mom" sort of way.

Oh, yeah -- I had been drinking. Heehee. Oops. So... I probably didn't come across too well. Heh. Ahem.

Sooooooo.... what do y'all think I should do??

Well I voted to not worry about it, but it might be helpful if you did give some sort of apology ...brief and pointed just so he doesn't think you are a complete and total biotch...

because it will make him do exactly what you don't like - that is be secretive.

Heck, it might even strengthen your relationship with him, and since you both plan on being in your YM's life... would that really be a bad thing?

I agree with Firstlove. I doubt the guy is even thinking about it, but just in case, I guess the next time I saw him I might say...

"Hey, I had a few drinks the other other night, so if I went a bit too far, I apologize". No biggie. *smiles*

Sometimes when we drink, we get a little paranoid (I can hear Julianne laughing at me right now...she calls me "Paranoid Polly" :D) and we see or hear things in a different perspective, our own perspective, than what's really going on.

You said he was talking about a skank, and then said, "I'll tell you later." Well, maybe he wasn't being secretive, maybe he was being polite, because he didn't want to offend you with what he was about to say. I mean, maybe he was going to start talking about the sex they had, or maybe he was going to start talking about her body. Then he stopped and thought, "Hey, this might be offensive to Pinkcat, and she's been drinking anyway, I'd better shut up now!" :D

Robin has a best friend I'm not all that fond of either. We tolerate eachother, that's about it. The funny thing is, I LOVE the rest of his friends, they're all great, it's just this one guy that I don't gel with, and he just happens to hang out with Robin the most. I'm extra careful when I drink around him, NOT to perceive things or read too much into them than what they really are, because he tends to piss me off too. Maybe it's because he's taking Robin's attention away from me, I don't know, and for a long time, he didn't have a girlfriend and always wanted Robin to go out with him.

Anyway, the next time you three go out, just be nice, be happy, if he says anything weird, just take it with a grain of salt. He's probably not that bad of a guy, because he's friends with your ym, and your ym is a great guy. Try next time to give him the benefit of the doubt. He's probably trying to do the same with you. :)

Hey all! Thanks for the awesome input! I decided to let it go for now, and play it by ear the next time I see him. He usually ignores me anyway (bastard) so nothing will probably happen.

Thanks again! :D

Sounds like "Eugene" (LOL!!!) was what us guys call "C**k-blocking"!!! I'd tell your YM.

What is "c**k blocking"?

:) :D

If it has something to do with covering up for my ym, no. It's nothing like that... he was talking about someone my ym hasn't even met. Some skank that Eugene wants to do or something.

Just really disrespectful to me, I thought. :(

I think anytime someone starts a conversation in front of a group of people and then won't finish it in front of them all is just rude, whether they are drinking or not.

But, I do agree that apologizing for storming off would be a good idea.