ScarletHawke
08-30-2004, 09:20 PM
Hi all! I just thought I'd share the wickedly wonderful glee I'm experiencing right now in regards to my ex-husband. As some of you know, this sexually incontinent loser ran out on our marriage to chase the tails of not one, but two other women (one of whom was already married). He left declaring that I was inhibiting his precious freedom and that these two women were his "true friends" who "understood" him so much better than I did.
For quite awhile after this betrayal, I was the Furies incarnate. I wanted him strung up by his testicles. I wanted rabid wolverines to eat out his heart. I wanted him staked in the sun covered in molasses over a hill of fire-ants. No torture was too depraved for him, and I was very very tempted to exact revenge on him myself. It didn't help that I was in a position to do just that, because I had several good friends who said to me, "You probably won't get as much satisfaction out of taking revenge as you think, but I sure won't stop you -- because he deserves it."
After months of inner struggle (I wonder if this is how world leaders feel when they're about to hit that big ol' Launch Nuke button), I decided that he wasn't worth risking bad karma over. Also, I'd have to live with the consequences if my revenge scheme backfired, and last but definitely not least, I knew that even if my revenge was successful, I'd lose some respect from my friends if I actually went through with it. So finally I decided that I would take the High Road, leave him and all thoughts of vengeance behind, and just get on with my life.
Since that time, and without my having to ask, I've discovered quite a lot about what's happening with my ex right now.
-- His married girlfriend and her husband seem to have kicked him out of their apartment. I find this hugely amusing because before he left, he was talking about having a group marriage with these people. Hrm, guess that didn't pan out... what a shame.
-- He appears to be moving in with his other girlfriend, but she lives in a student house with three other people. Not much privacy or comfort there, but it's all either of them can afford.
-- He's racked up a lot of debt. I know this because I'm getting phone calls from his creditors who are trying to track him down. Of course, I'm happy to give them his phone number. Just trying to be helpful, of course. ;)
-- Most of the people he considered friends of his are so disgusted by what he did to me that they won't even talk to him anymore. (This I learned just recently from a buddy of mine.) Apparently, several people have dropped out of the drama club he frequents and several more will actually cross the street to avoid him. Not only that, but the handful of people that still associate with him are also being similarly shunned.
-- My ex himself is apparently descending into some bizarre psychological morass of equal parts hyper-egotism and self-delusion. According to my buddy, he refuses to admit he's wrong or even slightly mistaken about anything, no matter how insignificant. If anyone challenges him, he'll try to twist their words around to appear as if that person is actually supporting him. Quote from my buddy: "He's creeping everyone out. A lot of people think that he was probably messed-up back when he was with you, but you sort of kept him in line. Now that you're not around, his true colours are showing... and they're not too pretty."
Wow -- talk about justice, and I didn't even have to lift a finger. Better yet, my finances are getting in shape, my friends respect me and are happy for me, I'm rediscovering my avocation, and I have a wonderful, amazing YM that's everything my ex wasn't.
So yeah, when in doubt, take that High Road. It's so worth it. :cool:
For quite awhile after this betrayal, I was the Furies incarnate. I wanted him strung up by his testicles. I wanted rabid wolverines to eat out his heart. I wanted him staked in the sun covered in molasses over a hill of fire-ants. No torture was too depraved for him, and I was very very tempted to exact revenge on him myself. It didn't help that I was in a position to do just that, because I had several good friends who said to me, "You probably won't get as much satisfaction out of taking revenge as you think, but I sure won't stop you -- because he deserves it."
After months of inner struggle (I wonder if this is how world leaders feel when they're about to hit that big ol' Launch Nuke button), I decided that he wasn't worth risking bad karma over. Also, I'd have to live with the consequences if my revenge scheme backfired, and last but definitely not least, I knew that even if my revenge was successful, I'd lose some respect from my friends if I actually went through with it. So finally I decided that I would take the High Road, leave him and all thoughts of vengeance behind, and just get on with my life.
Since that time, and without my having to ask, I've discovered quite a lot about what's happening with my ex right now.
-- His married girlfriend and her husband seem to have kicked him out of their apartment. I find this hugely amusing because before he left, he was talking about having a group marriage with these people. Hrm, guess that didn't pan out... what a shame.
-- He appears to be moving in with his other girlfriend, but she lives in a student house with three other people. Not much privacy or comfort there, but it's all either of them can afford.
-- He's racked up a lot of debt. I know this because I'm getting phone calls from his creditors who are trying to track him down. Of course, I'm happy to give them his phone number. Just trying to be helpful, of course. ;)
-- Most of the people he considered friends of his are so disgusted by what he did to me that they won't even talk to him anymore. (This I learned just recently from a buddy of mine.) Apparently, several people have dropped out of the drama club he frequents and several more will actually cross the street to avoid him. Not only that, but the handful of people that still associate with him are also being similarly shunned.
-- My ex himself is apparently descending into some bizarre psychological morass of equal parts hyper-egotism and self-delusion. According to my buddy, he refuses to admit he's wrong or even slightly mistaken about anything, no matter how insignificant. If anyone challenges him, he'll try to twist their words around to appear as if that person is actually supporting him. Quote from my buddy: "He's creeping everyone out. A lot of people think that he was probably messed-up back when he was with you, but you sort of kept him in line. Now that you're not around, his true colours are showing... and they're not too pretty."
Wow -- talk about justice, and I didn't even have to lift a finger. Better yet, my finances are getting in shape, my friends respect me and are happy for me, I'm rediscovering my avocation, and I have a wonderful, amazing YM that's everything my ex wasn't.
So yeah, when in doubt, take that High Road. It's so worth it. :cool: