Past relationship arises

Hi well I thought I would see if I could find a forum on this and thankfully I did. Last summer I was in a relationship with an older man, it went on for the whole summer and was very physical. I have non regrets about what happened and I really don't think it hurt me in anyway. After our summer though he became concerned that my parents might find out, knowing my parents I agreed even though my heart and my body hurt without him. We kept a friendship and eventually I drifted away to other friends and lovers. About two weeks ago he sent me an email, and all my feelings of love and lust came back. he's almost 20 years older, but still very fun to be with, but I know that my parents would freak out if they ever knew we were an item. I'm out on my own and so tempted to call him again if nothing else for the pleasure he once shared with me but I don't know if I should. Any thoughts or advice would be very welcome.

Lynne

How old are you?

Sorry it was in my profile so I didn't post, I am 18.

Thanks Skibunny I appreciate your comments a lot

Hmmm....I'm trying to remember what I was feeling at 18. Oh yeah....I thought I was in love...blah blah blah. I was with the same guy for four years and after we broke up I started dating an older man. I was 21 and he was 38 at the time. No one - and I mean no one - has ever made me feel like he has. I'm not talking physically...well...that's a different subject, but emotionally. He was the most fun, most caring, most everything. He was a true gentleman and had life values that no boy my age could truly grasp. That's probably why I'm having problems in the dating world...lol. So long story short - go with what feels good to you....emotionally. BUT - be careful....don't let your heart open up too much if it's only going to be physical.

Keep us posted!
All the best
~EM

Em thanks I really appreciate your thoughts on this. I really don't know if I want just a physical relationship, but I also know with everything going on in my life I'm not sure how deep I can go in an emotional relationship either. I keep hoping that if I wait to decide what is right that my heart will know what to do, but so far my heart is telling my mind to think it though.

Then that's what you should do....sounds like your heart is doing the right thing ;)

Thanks again, I really appreciate your comments and being treated like an adult by you - thanks. I think one of the words you used really hit home as I think about this, "gentleman" and that's what he's always been to me, unlike the guys my age he was always considerate, caring and put my needs first. I don't know maybe a physical relationship isn't bad either. LOL to many things going on to make up my own mind ;)

Thanks skibunny. As for college I did plan on going, but the issues with my parents and my move out changed those plans. I am going part time at the community college and next spring I'll apply for financial aid on my own and I should qualify for some, hopefully it will be enough. For now working pays the bills.

I don't doubt that I could move in with him, but after going through what I did with my parents I also want to be independent, moving in would be easier, nice house and doubt I would be fixing top raman lol.

I'm going away this weekend with and old friend (girl) so I'll have time to think about it hopefully.