singinbeauty
09-08-2004, 03:47 PM
Hello all!
I came across this forum by mistake and really like it! Everyone seems so supportive and kind that I know I will fit in quite well... A little about myself and why I am here:
I am a 27yr old female from Tacoma, WA
I have a 37yr old boyfriend who I just started dating a few weeks ago.
A little about him:
He is the sweetest and kindest man I have ever been with and he treats me like I am a goddess! I love that! So different from the military boys from this area! There are a few things about him, though, that I am a little iffy about...
-He was divorced five years ago and has a daughter about 10 - (He doesn't get to see her because of some circumstances with his ex-wife)
-He also has a son from a previous relationship with whom he doesn't ever really see
-He was in treatment because of an addiction caused by the stresses of his life and not being able to see is daughter and such but he is on the track of recovery and since I have only ever had alcohol (which is not his addiction) he is glad that he does not have to worry about being tempted with drugs around me. :)
The reason the divorce and the kids are flags to me is because my parents divorced and I remember the issues that my step-mom and I had (In fact I hated her) and I don't know if I want to put myself in that position of being on the other side. I know I thinking about things way to far in advance but I figure I never date just to date and this seems like it may have potential and you can never be to careful with kids involved.
I confuse myself all the time with this going back and forth. He is all about me and how to make me feel special and I love that about him. We can talk and have really good chemistry. He is sooooo HOT! And makes sure I know that he thinks that I am sexy. He has even introduced me to his family (at least the ones closest to him) and they loved me. I really like them too and feel that I could really benefit from this relationship. I am an idiot I know because I know that we are good for eachother but what do you think?
Am I being stupid.. I also have trust issues because the only other guy to treat me the way Lou does left me without any notice or goodbye. He just said that he loved me and that he would see me later that night and then he was gone... So I guess I am just afraid that Lou is going to do the same. How do I keep from letting this get in the way? Thank you so much for listening to me whine!
I came across this forum by mistake and really like it! Everyone seems so supportive and kind that I know I will fit in quite well... A little about myself and why I am here:
I am a 27yr old female from Tacoma, WA
I have a 37yr old boyfriend who I just started dating a few weeks ago.
A little about him:
He is the sweetest and kindest man I have ever been with and he treats me like I am a goddess! I love that! So different from the military boys from this area! There are a few things about him, though, that I am a little iffy about...
-He was divorced five years ago and has a daughter about 10 - (He doesn't get to see her because of some circumstances with his ex-wife)
-He also has a son from a previous relationship with whom he doesn't ever really see
-He was in treatment because of an addiction caused by the stresses of his life and not being able to see is daughter and such but he is on the track of recovery and since I have only ever had alcohol (which is not his addiction) he is glad that he does not have to worry about being tempted with drugs around me. :)
The reason the divorce and the kids are flags to me is because my parents divorced and I remember the issues that my step-mom and I had (In fact I hated her) and I don't know if I want to put myself in that position of being on the other side. I know I thinking about things way to far in advance but I figure I never date just to date and this seems like it may have potential and you can never be to careful with kids involved.
I confuse myself all the time with this going back and forth. He is all about me and how to make me feel special and I love that about him. We can talk and have really good chemistry. He is sooooo HOT! And makes sure I know that he thinks that I am sexy. He has even introduced me to his family (at least the ones closest to him) and they loved me. I really like them too and feel that I could really benefit from this relationship. I am an idiot I know because I know that we are good for eachother but what do you think?
Am I being stupid.. I also have trust issues because the only other guy to treat me the way Lou does left me without any notice or goodbye. He just said that he loved me and that he would see me later that night and then he was gone... So I guess I am just afraid that Lou is going to do the same. How do I keep from letting this get in the way? Thank you so much for listening to me whine!