Really really sad

Not only am I still grieving over another relationship not being what I wanted but someone stole my credit card. Over $1,100 in cash was taken at an ATM. What is really really bad is that I think someone in my family did it. I am just sick sick sick. I will get the money back in my account but IF it was family then the bank might take the money back.

I think I need a BIG change. Have you ever moved just to change a LONG string of bad luck? Well, as much as I hate to move away from some of my family... that is my goal. I just pray that I will have the energy and organization to get everything in order.

Those of you that believe in prayer... please say one for me. Thanks ageless friends..... :(

What a horrible thing to have happen. And even worse if it was family. I'm sorry your in this position and I wish you all the strength and blessings possible to move onto a more fruitful position in your life.

And I wish you luck, too. GOOD luck. :D
~phosphorescent

Oh yellowrose, I am so sorry. :(

That's just awful. A big change might be nice for you.

Good luck with the bank. :( Hopefully you will end up getting it back with no problems.

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I know how it feels to be dupped by your family. I just had an incident with my grandmothers trust fund she left me, all spent by my drug addicted uncle. Not a fun thing to have happen. I would do whatever I could if i were you and I wouldn't be nice just cause they are "family", they didnt think of you as "family" when they did it to you. Im so sorry. Everything will be okay! I will say a prayer for you!
Take care!!!

I'm so sorry Yellowrose. Yes you will be in my prayers tonight. I did once work for a financial institution and if you press charges on the one that did it, I believe they do give your money back. I have seen it so many times at the bank. It makes me sick. Most of the time the family members won't press charges. My advice-do it. I've seen it happen repeatedly with the same family members. There was once an elderly lady that was driven to the bank about once a week in a cab with her young grandson (16 or 17). She would always withdraw a couple of hundred dollars. The tellers knew what was happening and they would come and get me. I'd tell them, There is nothing I can do, it's her money. We all knew he talked her into it and it was for drugs, but it didn't matter. I often wondered if she had anything left after she died. I was gone from that bank by that time. While we're on the subject of banks, there is a large ministry close to our town and they also had an account there. It's very well known, on tv and such. The minister or his wife would bring a stack of checks written from all over the US to cash. Most of them were made out to him personally because elderly people just do that. The checks were written in little scrawled penmanship. Used to just tick me off to have to cash them. As he or his wife drove off in their Mercedes.

yellowrose ~

I'm sorry to hear about your recent 'trials'.

I tend to think that one of the good things about getting older is that we somehow know that things will eventually get better.

However, sometimes 'things getting better' need more than just a helping hand. Yes, I have moved to change my life. And, man, did the move change my life. Funny, though, after several years of living here and there, I ended up moving back home (i.e., to my home town.

So, while the moral may be that "no matter where you go, there you are", when you change, the world around you changes. Don't move to run away from your problems. But if you're ready to make some changes and you feel totally 'stuck', pack up and go, baby.

I've been cleaning out boxes almost all day today. These boxes have been packed and in storage for, oh, 5-8 years. :eek: It took me a long time to find the desire to grow roots. I came across a file folder with all these silly jokes and quotes. This one might be worth considering:


THE ONLY DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A RUT AND A GRAVE IS THE DEPTH.

I'm so sorry to hear that Barbara. And how awful that it may be a family member! :mad:

I'm sending positive thoughts your way and hoping that you get things straightened out real soon.

I'm sorry things aren't going well for you, Yellowrose.

Maybe it's time to treat yourself to something you normally wouldn't do because you'd consider it an extravagance.

Pamper yourself--it will be the best medicine.

As for moving, I'd hold off on it. Even though it may not feel like it now, there's *much* to be said about an established "root system." Now I'm not talking about just family and friends, I'm talking about little things like going to your favorite grocery store and knowing where everything is in the aisle...returning to your favorite hairdresser for a cut and shampoo...

Little B.S. things that we really don't think about every day and when they stand alone, they seem so insignificant...

In reality, they're really not.

Why not take a little vacation instead and vow to yourself when you return that you won't buy into the nonsense anymore?

You'll be in my thoughts.

Peace,
thatgirl

It is so nice to depend on you all. Everyone said something that I can use to feel better or make a more informed decision.

Actually, I moved away from Dallas to here almost 5 years ago. I lived in Dallas for the past 38 years. My best friend from the 2nd grade is moving from here BACK to Dallas as soon as they sell their home. My youngest daughter moved to San Antonio last month. She has my little 2 yr old Amber who I missing terribly. It would be so much closer to live in Dallas and go to San Antonio to see Amber.

I also have TONS of friends in Dallas who I miss. All I do here is watch TV. I am pretty sure that my oldest daughter's children are going to be taken away and given to the biological parent in Florida fairly soon. So see, there is really not much for me here.

This moving is not a whim... I have been planning it for some time now. My Dad said if I wanted to move, to not stay here on their account. He said that life was too short and to go where I can be happy, that he gives me his blessing and to not feel guilty.

I have to say that I am so fortunate that I have the best parents in the world. They are age 83 and 79. Dad still mows his own grass. Mom is a go-getter. She loves to shop and loves to cook. My sister and I enjoy them immensely. I just wish my oldest daughter could stay off drugs....:( She has been taking advantage of them too. I made my parents PROMISE that they would not give her any more money. Drug addiction is such a tragedy to families.

Dallas sounds like fun. One thing I've learned is that once you decide you are just sitting around and doing nothing, it's time for a big change. I'm all for it! Can I come?

So sorry to hear about your troubles {{{yellowrose}}}.

I had my credit information stolen last winter, and I'm still dealing with it. It just feels so betrayed and violating (who was it and how did they get it). Mine was by a complete stranger, how awful it must be for you.

Barbara

I am so sorry this has happened to you. It is so sad to be betrayed by your own family member who obviously has no respect for you. If the bank requires you to press charges in order to have the money put back into your account, then do not hesitate to do that. I know how difficult that may be to do, even if it is your own child, but people have to learn there are consequences for their actions.

My sister had a similar thing happen to her. Her oldest son (an alcoholic) stole about $300 from her account by forging a check. She didn't even hesitate to press charges. Not because she doesn't care about him, but because she cares about him and loves him so much! He is 31 years old and struggles through life because of the terrible choices he has made. It is no one's fault but his. My sister loves him. It is her son, but she also has her own life to live and her own bills to pay.

If you are comfortable and have the means to move and the support of your parents behind you, then do what you have to do to be happy. Your father is right! Life is too short.

I wish you peace in your trials...

Julianne, this is the first time I have seen your photo. I just wanted to tell you what I beautiful face you have!!

I was out of the country for an extended stay in Japan once....My drug addicted sister stloe my checks...I had to go to the police...she went on a $6000 spending spree...I pressed charges. She spent 2 years in jail. I was happy...you know why? because I at least kept her off heroine for two years....
she voided family love when she not only betrayed me financially, but slept with my boyfriend at the time......yeah , yeah, folks..I discarded them both....if you were wondering...* anyway, he was not the herione addict..
So sorry to hear this Barbara, you gotta do what you gotta do..you do have power to aleive this situation...do you know what family member it could be? and are you able to turn your back on them til they straighten up?
I have to say.....I trust total strangers more than I trust my own family..by experience.....but my situation was differant..I had to go to at least 3 differant places for each check she wrote....it sucked...had to fill out affidavids, and get a lawyer...show him proof I was not even in the country...your situation may be harder, since it was ATM withdraws...I am saddened you had a financial loss...and saddened more if it was done by Family.
make your decision to keep your credit in check...remember , this person did not care if you sank...or swimmmed.
Peace,
Yvette

Barbara-I used to think that crappy times in my own life were God's way of teaching ME something....now I know that sometimes he uses those bad times to use US to help or teach others in our life. I absolutely hate betrayal...in any form...but when it comes from someone you care about and love...FAMILY...the hurt and loss runs so deep. I freak out when my son takes 20.00 out of my purse without asking let alone over a THOUSAND dollars (well, unless it is the week i pay my mortage...I don't have a thousand for someone to take). You have given emotionally, physically, and financially all that you have to your family. You are a wonderful mother and grandmother and it makes my heart SICK when family takes advantage of good-hearted and loving parents...or in this case...grandparents, too. It would be hard for me to press charges against my own children, but when the loss places such a financial hardship on you after you have done everything possible to help anyhow....I suppose you have been the counseling/intervention route? When our adult children continue to make bad decisions we often have no other choice. My guess it that even then it wouldn't make a huge impact, but may send the message that you refuse to be taken advantage of again. Drug addiction is awful in families...it ruins so many lives...and often takes a tragic event for those involved to 'come around':( I pray for you and your family....I pray that if you do decide to move that it will bring you closer to a support system of loving people there for YOU....at a time when you need to feel the love of those that care about you most. Many hugs, Darla

Awww. Barbara. My only thought is that you don't deserve any of this. Not at all!

By all means, make a change if that's what you want.

Wishing you all the best, always.

((((((hug)))))))

Remember that I shared with some of you that my oldest daughter has six kids and her husband left her 2 years ago. Well, she had a really hard time with depression and self esteem for quite awhile. But she started back to church last year and was working and things were coming together.

She met this guy at church and it was instant romance. He immediately moved in with her and everything was bliss. They got married 2 months later in February. I tried to get her to wait just a little while to make sure but she just knew that this was "God's will".

Well, it wasn't God driving the deal... it was a con guy. This guy is constantly whacked out on grass or cocaine. Now she is doing the coke/crack and the two of them did not even go home last Friday until Tues morning at 6 AM. CPS has been called by the ex, the neighbors and finally ME. I am certain it was my daughter and her jerk/husband that stole my ATM card Friday.

Yes, I will press charges against WHOEVER did the deal. She had a drug problem in her teens but she had been clean for like 18 years or so. Her oldest daughter said when her mom got home she looked like death. My mom and I decided that we are going to talk with the pastor that married them. We will see if we can do some kind of intervention for her. There is more but you know how these things are when serious drugs are involved.

I am ok... I feel better emotionally today. I talked with my little Amber today and hearing her sweet little voice saying "I love you Gram-ma.. can I come see you?" was the sunlight that I needed.

Thanks for the replies... you guys are such an important part of my support system. We are so lucky to have one another aren't we? :)

gosh, yellowrose, so sorry to hear about your mishaps...

my older sister found out after my little sister's death that my little sister had used her social security number to sign up for a credit card and charged over $5000 on it...

ever since then, my older sister always viewed me w/ an eye of suspiciion as if she couldn't trust me either...

me, a tithe payer, reported 100% of my table-waiting tips, never cheated on my income tax ever and don't plan on it either...don't even take extra changes mistakenly given by cashiers and hunt down the customers that dropped extra $20 bills...felt very hurt by her suspicious nontrusting behavior towards me...

now that i'm hearing u mourning over your loss, i can understand a bit how my older sister must have felt...

gosh, i'm so sorry that it happened to u...

hugs,
ng

Oh no, Barbara. I know how disappointed you are. I remember you posting when your daughter met this man, and how happy you were she met someone in the church. To have it end up like this....and to the level where they would steal from you.

People on crack just become a whole other person. Until recently, I helped care for a baby of a crack addict. The little girl had been here since last March (the father is in Iraq). Her mother lived with us for some time when she was a teenager. She was a smart girl, good grades, a cheerleader. She always went to school, always held a job, and always made it home by curfew. Now she's an addict, and she is a whole different person. I am so completely offended by her behavior and the choices she makes in life. She only had her baby back 2 weeks when I received a call that CPS had picked her up, and she was in a temporary foster home. She couldn't even care for her for 2 weeks.... *frown* It's gotten to the point where I hope she gets arrested, just so that she will be forced to get some help by the legal system, or at least get off drugs by sitting in jail.

I pray that CPS will listen to your concerns.....I know its a difficult position to be put in, but the kids are innocent and are the ones who really need help first. I know how much you love those kids...and it must tear you up to see them go through this.

Im sorry all this has happened....Im saying so many prayers for you and your family.