How To Calm A Nervous YM?

OK, my original thread got buried and I hope it's OK for me to start a new one.

My ym lives across the Street, he's 21, I'm 33. He started coming around and then he did the back and forth thing.

Last night he came by again. We just always seem to be around each other when the other one needs it.

His grandfather had passed away and he was really upset about it, so I invited him in to talk because he looked like he could really use a friend.

After a while he kissed me and we finally started talking a little bit.

He thought, that I thought he was to young and I'd thought the opposite. We talked some more and then he kissed me again

Then he got really nervous and had to go.

I understand he was upset and looking for comfort, so I'm not going to try to read to much into most of what happened.

I am wondering how to make him not be so nervous around me though. I've had another ym that was interested in me before and he said it made him nervous because he thought I was more expierence then he was. So we never became more then friends and that was fine for me. He's a great guy.

I'm trying to figure out the best way to let this guy know that I do like him, but I'm not going to rush into something if he's not ready for it.

The two of us are so nervous around each other I think the whole thing is rather amusing actually:p (I'm nervous because it's been so long since I've felt this way about someone.)

So any advice from anyone that's been there on how to help him relax a bit. You'd think I was going to jump his bones any second sometimes lol.

Thanks again
Dawn

Send him a note saying you're sorry for the loss of his grandfather and add a line or two about how he may call you at any time.

I don't think it could get more clear than that.

Good luck to you.

Peace,
thatgirl

just tell him.
explain that you know he needs a friend right now because of the loss of his grandfather, but when he gets to a place where he's more at peace....because if they were really close you don't want to be the cork to fill up some hole in his life for the time being.....that you would be really interested in exploring taking your friendship further. until he's in that place you will be there for him as a great friend and confidant.
let us know !

good luck to you both and condolences to him.

Trace

I agree with thatgirl and greeneyedgirl.

Make it simple. Also, just try to relax and be there for him. He's in a little shock right now and what he needs is comfort and someone to talk to. You're doing a great job by doing that for him. Just give him some time and let him open up on his own. In the meantime, just enjoy the companionship and go with the flow. :)

I agree give this guy a little more time to figure some things out, sure being 21 can be challenging enough but life goes on. But still I wouldn't wait around tooo long for him to figure things out..believe me there are other nice guys out there looking for an OW.

the waxer

Thanks guys.

I just wanted to be sure I was on the right track.

I won't sit about and let him drag feet forever, but I will try to give him some time to get himself together.

He may even find it's not what he's looking for.

He's a nice man though and it wouldn't bother me to keep his company even just as a friend.

I'm letting him call the pace of things right now because he's younger and I don't want to push him into something he's not ready for.

It's helpful to come here and get advice from others that have been here.

Dawn