Pet Peeves

Originally posted by Bella
. THAT'S what I was looking forward to in a long term relationship area. And sometimes its nice to vent, and just snarl about the normal things you'd snarl about with any man, without having his age thrown in my face. Yeah, like the dirty socks under the computer chair, got nothing to do with his age, got everything to do with being male.:p
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OMG no kidding.... Mine is my husband leaving the darn sugar on the counter daily... DRIVES ME NUTS!!! LOL

I agree with Babes. I think that for everything we find wrong with them, they can do the same.

And, as a woman who has been living single for 9 years, I can tell you that I'd much rather be picking up dirty socks than no socks at all. ;)

I spilt the thread... LOL Looked like good topic for a new thread and so we can keep the other one about the definition of a Long term relationship LOL

Ok guys

Lets list pet peeves.... !!!!

G's WHOLE ENTIRE APARTMENT!!! :eek:

I agree with Babes. I think that for everything we find wrong with them, they can do the same.

This is very true . . . but it doesn't mean we shouldn't vent!!! :D

As stereotypical as it sounds....

My husband will NEVER stop to ask for directions!

(thatgirl grumbles but is very thankful this is her *only* pet peeve)

:)

Oh my..

My husband drives so slowwwwwww.... he drives the speed limit no matter where we are... I said speed limits are made to go at least 5 mph faster LOL.... I know I'm a lead foot... but HE is like the turtle... LOL

Yikes Amina! My dad used to do that to me in high school..smoke in the car with the windows up! Grrrrrr....

J eats at the coffee table in the living room in front of the TV. He never eats at the dining room table.

He also never puts anything back in the refrigerator. Sometimes we will go to make a hamburger or something quick, and we find out we don't have any ketchup because he has left it out in the living room overnight! That one really gets me. *frown*

Okay, I think the worst one. On Sundays, J will walk around in his boxer shorts until noon. He doesn't care who comes to the house. Heck, it could be the kids teachers and he probably would still stay in his boxers. I want him to put on a pair of sweat pants or pajama pants or something! Do you think that is anal of me?

Jo, could be worse, my father used to walk through the house in his jockeys first thing in the morning, no matter who was there.
Those Saturday mornings with kids over could be awfully embarassing for me.
He'd say it was his house, if someone didn't want to see him in his underwear, they could leave.
He wasn't exactly in prime physical condition either.

David wears those old man undershirts under everything. There are only a couple of shirts he wears without, and only because they're sort of mesh stuff, and you can see them.
Polos, button-downs, whatever, there's an undershirt on.

He also is great at doing projects, but when he's done, he's done. The tools could sit on the dining room table for a year, if I didn't put them away, or catch him walking through the room and hand them to him. I've tried for the whole time we've been together to convince him that putting the tools away was as much a part of a project as getting them out.

Well, I can see that! hee hee

This is more like....people stop by the house and he doesn't get dressed. My family..the neighbors..whoever! He will walk out and get the mail in his boxers, out to the car...etc. I wouldn't be surprised if he went to the neighbors to borrow a cup of sugar in his boxers!

Pet peeves...? Hmmmm.

HSN and QVC. At least sports have finite seasons -- those *&%$! channels are selling 24/7! I never know when I'm going to become a Suzanne Somers or Nicky Butler widower.


-- Wayne

You know, other than me going through this stupid insecurity phase, we get along so well, it's almost funny to complain about some of his habits.

Unfortunately for him, my ex was almost a neat freak. His house was nearly spotless all the time. My YM came not quite but almost directly from a college roommate environment where dishes in the sink for weeks at a time was the norm. He just doesn't SEE dirt or messes. Now, I am by no means a neat person by nature. It has taken me years to learn to keep my house in order (and I say that loosely) but I finally had to admit that it does make life easier. And it's not so embarrassing when someone drops by. :)

He is getting SO much better about it, though. And let's not forget:


refilling the water bottles in the fridge

doing the dishes does not mean leaving all the pans to soak until I wash them

emptying his ashtray

clothes go in the closet, not in a pile until the next time you wear them


But, girls, he puts the seat down, including the lid. :)

Originally posted by MrsHedgeHog

Ugh, aren't neat freak exes "fun?" Mine used to do white glove tests on the house when he came home from work! :rolleyes:

We didn't cohabitate and he hardly ever spent time at my place. He was VERY orderly, very disciplined - indicative of him being a self-control freak. I'll take the slob that can talk about his (and my) feelings any day!

The toilet seat talk has me kind of giggly... only because I'm the stellar opposite of most women. I would RATHER it be left up. Only because then I don't have to bend over and check it for drippings. LOL Having a little boy changed my perception, and I told him ~ emphatically ~ to leave it UP, so I would not have to feel the need to inspect prior to sitting. Easier for me to just put it down myself assured it will be dry. He DOES know to put it back the way he found it at other peoples homes.. I have taught him that much, but I think ~ for my own sanity ~ I'd rather it be up.

And my fabulous YM??? He totally upsets the dynamic of my arrangement with my son, because he always puts it back down!! But, it's definitely NOT a pet peeve... because, it would have to upset me to be a pet peeve. I don't plan to try to change him on this one. Lately, I've resorted to telling my son and daughter to use their OWN bathroom and stay out of mine ~ and I stay out of theres. Working fairly good. :D

I try to stay flexible... and must adapt to things, too.

As for any pet peeves? Nope. Oddly, don't have any. (drums fingers on desk... twiddles thumbs in thought...) nope. Nothing he does drives me insane... and nothing he doesn't do drives me insane. In fact, my list of potential oddities in the relationship is blank. WTF??? No wonder I love him so much!!! He must really compliment me in such a way that I don't even notice anything really being WRONG.

... you are all welcome to slap me now... I wouldn't doubt it if he had some pet peeves about me... but, ah... he hasn't mentioned them and we talk ~ almost too much.

~phosphorescent

Oh, you wouldn't BELIEVE this Amina! YM has been taking my son with him and taking the dogs out EVERY DAY. They have now learned "sit" and are getting closer to understanding "stay." A whole week, and they've been walked EVERY DAY. YES...

So... I can't even include THAT one anymore. :o I only had to complain about it to you in email. Didn't even have to really SAY anything. LOL. He just kind of reads my vibes and sometimes I think the guy hears my inner most thoughts without me even voicing them.

There's GOT to be some explanation as to how he figures me out so quick all the time... LOL.

~phosphorescent

How about this one? It drives me nuts that nothing he does drives me nuts! LOL. :D

I liked your play on words, BTW.

And I definitely LOVE the boy time they spend together with the dogs. G's Dad and former step-dad never bother to spend any quality time with him ~ especially not one on one. It's one of the things I appreciate most about J. Thing is, with G... he is two totally different people in one big body ~ with you one on one, he's attentive, curious, asks questions, and is totally THERE ~ with anyone else around, he is distracted, disobedient, disrespectful and totally tuned OUT. Part of his disorder. J knows this and takes the time to spend with G; which, of course, just makes my heart melt overtime knowing the effort he puts forth...

... and yet, he still doesn't think he contributes enough... :o I could care less about money ~ we're in different places in our lives ~ what he gives this 'family' is absolutely immeasurable!

~phosphorescent

I have another one...grrrrrr.

When we go out and he is driving...he changes the radio station every couple minutes. He will find a good song, sing about half of it rather loudly and off key, then get change it to another station, sing about half of that. I don't think I EVER hear an entire song in the car. Even if its a CD, he skips from track to track. AND....AND....when we are in the car, and he has something to say to me...whether the music is loud or not, he reaches over to the volume knob and turns it all the way down long enough for him to say what he wants to say..and then turns it up. I asked him to stop doing that, but he said it is a habit. His mother always did it, and it annoyed him. Now HE does it and it annoys me....

I wanna kick him in the shin. If I didn't live a billion miles from everything, I would just walk! lol