doorstar
09-13-2004, 07:21 PM
In the past month i have met an insanely beautiful caring loving women who snagged me good! I never expected this to happen but it did i am 37 shes 18 we met on a chatting game. We tried to keep our distance but the more we tried the deeper we were drawn in!! I tried so many times to walkaway but one word from her and i fly back! The problem is 2 things she lives in Pa i live in MN but my family approves but her family doesnt! Should i walk away and not make her choose? I so want to make a life with her but her family is destroying her will! Should i be the bigger person and just make it easier on her? Im so confused
PinkPanther_04
09-13-2004, 07:41 PM
You can't make the choice for her. Let it be her decision. She's an adult, so if she wants to go against what her family says she is perfectly able to do so. She has to learn how to do that at some point, doesn't she?
Don't blame yourself for her family's response either. My aunt was almost disowned by her father for marrying a Catholic. Can you believe that? It's prejudice, plain and simple, and so is your situation. If you haven't done anything wrong then their prejudice is their problem. I'm sure they only want what's best for her, but they don't necessarily know what that is.
If both of you feel this relationship is worth pursuing then that's what really matters. Her family can't control her life forever.
doorstar
09-13-2004, 07:54 PM
Why do so many ppl hate the fact of this relationship but my own daughter thinks i am the luckiest man in the world i feel like i should be doing something but i cant. I know i cant but it is so disheartning to go thru this and have no control over what is happening
EMCAD80
09-14-2004, 02:01 PM
Quick Question...have you met her in person? I guess it really doesn't matter...just asking :)
Anyway, I agree w/ Pink 100% She has to make the choice...my ex-OM made the choice for me and it was the worst feeling. Some families can't and don't accept the unknown. It's actually quite sad. I was lucky...most of my family is made up for age gap relationships...so they were all very open to the idea. Sounds like your family is pretty open too....but all you can do is tell this woman your feelings for her and tell her that you will understand either way. It could be the hardest thing to go through....it could be the best thing to go through. Take the leap of faith...if it's worth it - and to me - it sounds like it is.
Keep us posted.
All the best
~EM
