love or lust?

I have finally met this wonderful OW of my dreams..she is sexy, is wonderful to be with and I know enjoys my attention. But is this love or lust?..even she has questions concerning this relayionship. I guess time will tell....

So I was wondering if anybody else has these questions concerning mutual attraction?. Is it really love or simply instant lust that attracts??..questions questions..

sleepless in Seattle

Love or Lust, Love or Lust... Oh what a question, waxer.

A little of this and a little of that, would be my answer. What attracts? Depends on who you are...

I've been married twice, and both times for the wrong reason. The first time, it was lust... and we got pregnant... and then married (because we thought it was the 'right' thing to do)... and, well, that didn't work out. Obviously. LOL. Oddly, though, I do consider him a quasi-friend, NOW. Never while we were married, though.

Second time, I married a 'friend.' Not someone I really was attracted to, just someone I had loved as a friend for half my life. Minus the lust factor, it was pretty much doomed, too. I suspect, he didn't have it for me either, considering how everything ended... a story I tend to avoid telling. LOL.

And this time... I absolutely, without a doubt, love my YM. But, on an equal level, the 'chemistry' is absolutely there. Totally and completely there. I DESIRE him. I want him. I LUST after him, most assuredly. My body wants him, my mind wants him, my soul wants him. It's... well... very, very different than 1 or 2 aforementioned.

So, if you find yourself attracted (chemistry), that can work as a catalyst to drive you to finding out if you like the person mentally/emotionally/psychologically... to see if you're a 'fit.'

But, I know that if I could go back on my own life ~ or if I could truly advise another person... I'd honestly say, if there is no chemistry, it isn't likely to grow out of nowhere. But who knows...

I'll stick with.... a little of this and a little of that...
~phosphorescent

Hi Waxer!

Originally posted by waxer
But is this love or lust?..even she has questions concerning this relayionship.


***LOL*** A year ago I was asking myself exactly the same question. Back then I was still confused and I was trying to "explain" our relationship. The answer - love or lust - was supposed to answer my concern if it would last and if there was "sense" in it.

I can now say that our attraction is both :)

The fact that you're asking yourself this question tells me that your relationship is maturing. And that's good!

TROLL ALERT!!!!!!!

WTF???

I think of "lust" as "seeking self fulfillment ".

I think of "love" as "seeking the partner's happiness".

OOoOOooo beautiful one, yellowrose.
~phosphorescent

Right now were certainally going thru the "lusting" phase of this relationship..which both of us are enjoying/smiling. It made we feel good when she said she hadn't ever had a man make her feel this way sexually in bed, especially when she told me she has been married four times...

The love part will grow I'm sure but for now were becoming two lovers enjoying the moment. Thanks everybody for the inputs..will keep you informed. yellowrose your statement is simply perfect!

the waxer