Kanizsa
09-15-2004, 02:50 PM
Hello, I am new here. I am so glad a friend from another forum suggested me this one. ;)
Ok, I have a big problem. This problem started almost a year ago, when I subscribed to the faculty. From late November, I realised (subcontiously realised) that in the eyes and the smiles of my professor (actually he is the assistant) was something terribly strange. However, I had a problem with another man in that period, and I didn't pay much attention to this assistant.
The thing started when I met him in the McDonalds' during winter holiday. We just suddenly spotted each other on the staircase and stopped - I was speachless from surprise. We talked a little, and then, before he leaved, he patted me on the shoulder (friendly?).
That was the moment when I forgot about the other man and fell for the assistant. In all my confusion, I thought that in the days that would follow, he acted even more strangly.
On the test we had and I saw him first time after the encounter in the McDonalds', he approached me two times: first when I was in the middle of my test to ask me whether it was difficult and whether I will pass, and then in the end, he came to me and asked me whether it will be the best mark. He smiled so sweetly, and I smiled too. After that, I really had the impression he was flerting.
I was surprised (and everybody in my group was) when in our class after the test he pronounced my name some 4-5 times in order to answer some questions (I have no idea why he recalled my name, and no body else's or why he asked me, when I really had no answers, for I really didn't read the subject of that class). And after that, everybody asked why he remembered me, why he asked me. I had no answers, even for myself.
He was always kind to me - whatever I asked, he was (almost) ready to help, while to the other students he was always kind of ironic and repulsive.
The other students couldn't miss he was behaving strangely towards me, and I knew it.
One day even he asked me out (for coffee, in order to discuss some experiments). I was so confused and so happy. But I am still asking myself what this ment, (for we never went out, he excused himslef in the last moment), why did he ask me out, and then just said he couldn't go, just like that? Did I missinterpret that?
Later on, as the school year was close to the end, on a party in the Lab, while I was sitting alone, he just came to me (very carefully) and sat next to me. We went on talking and talking about everything. He smiled and I smiled and after that convesation, I felt so happy.
I think I said too much... not to mention his glance, his smile, sometimes he (accidently?) lent against me. He called me two times "dear".
...
Ok, now that I said all that, (and I think I haven't missed any important detail), can you tell me what you think about this? He is 33, the assistant, and a man with a PhD. He studied Psychology. He must know the effects of what he is doing on a 20 years old girl! Doesn't he?
What do you think about all this story? Do you have any suggestions? Please, help, I have no idea what to think anymore! :confused:
Ok, I have a big problem. This problem started almost a year ago, when I subscribed to the faculty. From late November, I realised (subcontiously realised) that in the eyes and the smiles of my professor (actually he is the assistant) was something terribly strange. However, I had a problem with another man in that period, and I didn't pay much attention to this assistant.
The thing started when I met him in the McDonalds' during winter holiday. We just suddenly spotted each other on the staircase and stopped - I was speachless from surprise. We talked a little, and then, before he leaved, he patted me on the shoulder (friendly?).
That was the moment when I forgot about the other man and fell for the assistant. In all my confusion, I thought that in the days that would follow, he acted even more strangly.
On the test we had and I saw him first time after the encounter in the McDonalds', he approached me two times: first when I was in the middle of my test to ask me whether it was difficult and whether I will pass, and then in the end, he came to me and asked me whether it will be the best mark. He smiled so sweetly, and I smiled too. After that, I really had the impression he was flerting.
I was surprised (and everybody in my group was) when in our class after the test he pronounced my name some 4-5 times in order to answer some questions (I have no idea why he recalled my name, and no body else's or why he asked me, when I really had no answers, for I really didn't read the subject of that class). And after that, everybody asked why he remembered me, why he asked me. I had no answers, even for myself.
He was always kind to me - whatever I asked, he was (almost) ready to help, while to the other students he was always kind of ironic and repulsive.
The other students couldn't miss he was behaving strangely towards me, and I knew it.
One day even he asked me out (for coffee, in order to discuss some experiments). I was so confused and so happy. But I am still asking myself what this ment, (for we never went out, he excused himslef in the last moment), why did he ask me out, and then just said he couldn't go, just like that? Did I missinterpret that?
Later on, as the school year was close to the end, on a party in the Lab, while I was sitting alone, he just came to me (very carefully) and sat next to me. We went on talking and talking about everything. He smiled and I smiled and after that convesation, I felt so happy.
I think I said too much... not to mention his glance, his smile, sometimes he (accidently?) lent against me. He called me two times "dear".
...
Ok, now that I said all that, (and I think I haven't missed any important detail), can you tell me what you think about this? He is 33, the assistant, and a man with a PhD. He studied Psychology. He must know the effects of what he is doing on a 20 years old girl! Doesn't he?
What do you think about all this story? Do you have any suggestions? Please, help, I have no idea what to think anymore! :confused: