Ladies.... Your Advise Plz...

I met an OW just the other day. You see, we work with the same company, but we both are independent contractors (self employed) and only get our division together once a week for a two hour meeting... Then we're out on our own for the rest of the week. Anyway, I met this woman in the hall after our meeting and introduced myself to her since she was new to the group. (I'm 44 and she's probably 18 to 20 years older than I am.) I was very professional and don't think she had a clue that I might be interested! I gave her my card and told her if she ever has any questions, (since I have been in this business for a while) to just give me a call. I only live a mile down the street. The next afternoon, she called me excited about an account she had just sold that afternoon, but wanted to make certain she was completing the paperwork correctly. She asked me if I had time this evening to come by her place. I said I did and dropped by around 7:00pm. She was very friendly, but discussed only business for the first hour. It took that long to walk her through everything. No signs of anything more than paperwork details to me! After we wrapped up at the kitchen table we sat down in the living room and had a nice conversation. We learned that we have quite a lot in common. Being new to the area I asked her how she ended up here, which led to her being divorced, new life, starting over etc. etc. She seemed really comfortable with me. Kicking off her sandals and pulling her legs up in her big easy chair. I was a bit nervous and it probably showed a little! Anyway after another hour of conversation, I told her I probably should be going. She said "well, now you know where I live and there's always good red wine on the shelf or beer in my fridge, come see me". On my way out the door, I turned toward her and said "a glass of wine would be really nice sometime... I'll give you a call..." She smiled and said "great". Her personality is somewhat that like Martha Stewart. A little reserved, a little serious, but always with a smile. For me, kinda hard to read... I was just curious to know if any of the OW out there think she is just being friendly, or would you only say something like this if you were interested? Any advice would be appreciated! Thx...

Take her up on her offer and visit her for a drink.

Is she interested? Maybe. Regardless, if she's interested, you'll want to get to know her better. On the other hand, if she was just being friendly, perhaps if she gets to know you, she *will* become interested.

Give it a shot, you've got nothing to loose.

Good luck.

:)
thatgirl

I agree with thatgirl. Give her a call and have some wine and maybe a nice dinner with more conversation. Just get to know her and then you will know if she is interested.

She must be interested in "something" or she probably wouldn't have opened the invitation to see you again. That "something" might merely be friends for now, but that's the best way to start any relationship, isn't it?

Good luck Romanza,

Elenni

I agree with thatgirl and elenni. You won't know what she is really interested in until you give it more time. She's invited you over, so go for it and see where the road takes you. And definitely keep us posted. :)

I would also say take her up on her offer to stop over for a drink. She could just be being friendly, but my feeling is she is interested, has opened the door and is waiting to see what your going to do.
Its really too early to tell weither shes just being friendly or attracted to you but she has given you an open invitation to come see her, so go for it and see what happens. :D

Thanks for the good advise everyone. We talked today and she asked me over to her place for dinner later this week. Not sure where this is going, but I think we're going in the right direction! If nothing else, I'll make a new friend. :)

Hi again Romanza,
Sounds good. I hope youll let us know how things go. :D

Hi Kimmy,

Originally posted by kimmy
I would guess that it's probably more difficult for a woman her age to imagine a man of your age is interested in her -- (I'm trying to think how my mother would think about it) than it is for a woman my age to think a man 20 years younger than me is romantically interested in me.

I don't know about you, but there are some women her age that can have a very very developed imagination :-)

This women reminds me of a colleague's wife. We've been close friends ever since I started my last job. We often discuss various love and sexual issues and you can't imagine what imagination and insight she has :D

We have a great platonic love for each other; I sometimes bring her wine, flowers and good mood; sometimes we hug...

Recently she invited me to dinner. One of her hobbies is writing and she said she would write a real story about real love dedicated to me... LOL... Her invitation read something like this: "I invite you to a delicious dinner, so that you can nourish not just your brain, but also other organs of not lesser importance" ... LOL ... LOL...

The following story describes her very well:

Her husband has a friend, a well known social drinker, who would often come to visit them and stay till very late. Eventually she got fed up with his visits, so one evening, just before he came, she got an X-rated video tape and played it so loud that it could be heard at their front door. When the man arrived at the porch, he heard the exstatic noises, listened to them in complete bewilderment, hezitated, and then turned around and left...

One day the man met my colleague and her wife in the street and gave them a "knowing" look without saying anything.

The funny thing is that her husband wasn't at home when she played that trick. This led to further funny complications, because their neighbours also knew he was away and when they heard the exstatic noises they thought she was having a wild sexual affair... LOL...

So who said women can't have imagination???

Now as far as your meeting with your colleague's wife for those intimate discussions -- is he okay with that? France/Germany must be very different from the good ole' USA.:D
Of course! We're very good friends - we travel to work together and sometimes he shares his lunch with me. His wife is so fabulous, that every day she cooks for him (and sometimes even for me) a three or four course meal in such ample amounts that he can hardly tackle it alone - and believe me, he's a big man!

Today we feasted on mushroom soup (she plucked the mushroom in the forest herself!), sauerkraut with bacon, tortelini and a cherry & apple pie :)

He knows that his wife is a highly spiritual being. She is overflowing with so much enthusiasm to read books, write, cook, sing, play piano, invent practical jokes and most of all TALK **LOL** that he can't possibly stay on par with her. So he's more than happy when I'm there and we amuse each other. No, he's not a timid guy - but sometimes he would rather watch football or go fishing than discuss spiritual matters, love and sex with his wife.

I hope this explains the situation - as you can see no ulterior things there *** LOL ***

How is the dancing coming along?
Ah, I thought you didn't receive my message. Dancing? Don't ask ***LOL***

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I have a colleague from Spain. In Barcelona there' s a famous beautiful street called Rambla. It is a wide pedestrian only street, with big trees in the middle and shops on both sides.

Rambling can bring you to new unexpected places :)

LOL, Trish, I agree! When Joe is 40, I'll be 65! :eek: