When do you meet the parents?

This might sound a little silly, but my ym just mentioned that his parents would like to meet me. Which is almost fine with me, since they already know that I am 13 years older than him and they are okay with that.

But, we have only been dating about a month now, and have only got to spend "quality" time alone twice. Isn't it way to early in this or any relationship, to be meeting the folks?

Maybe I am having another nervous-can't-think moment.

I did tell him that would be fine, and that I would be honored to meet his family. That was after a long, silent moment, while I tried to gather my thoughts and not freak out. He said good, this weekend would be perfect.....**choke***

Does anyone have any ideas on how to keep a shy, nervous girl calm, cool, and collected when she meets the parents? Other than extra deodorant and powder that day??

Elenni

Are you being invited for lunch or a BBQ? If so you should ask your ym if you should bring anything. And other than being a normal courteous guest, you need have no worries. He isn't telling his folks that he wants to marry you, just that he wants you to meet them. In small towns of old everyone knew everyone else and nowdays you don't know everyone living on your block. So they just want to get acquaint3ed, or your ym wants them to know you. Have a good time!!

Just be yourself and be courteous when you visit.

Personally I think a month is a bit too soon, but maybe your SO believes the relationship is serious enough for you to meet his parents.

i think it's "something" that he wants you to meet em. :D

i'll never meet Lewis' mom. she's umm.......a wench.
and he vows that when he's out of her home, he's never looking back, never giving his new addy or phone # to any but a select few of his family. He wants NOTHING to do with her after he moves out. that's fine by me. some of the things he's told me and things she's commented on concerning my multiple sclerosis.....she's lucky I don't visit her of my own accord. show her what this "cripple" can do SINCE I'M NOT CRIPPLED !! YUP, show her good, wink wink, nudge nudge.

might be a little soon, but it's just meeting them. and they might of been the ones to instigate meeting you? which is good since they already know how YOUNG you are :D

let us know, please !!!

Tracy

I met my ex fiance's father and step mom the day of our second date. At first I thought it was way too soon. But it turned out to be a great experience. I really developed a close relationship with both of them. I didn't meet his mom until we were together for over a year. But then again, he also didn't see his mom much. In their family meeting their childrens' SO that soon was the norm. They wanted to accept their childrens' SO's to the family and make them feel as one of their children.

To this day I still remain in contact with his father and step mother. I even call his father Dad. Even now after we've been broken up for over a year.

Be yourself and have fun! :)

hmm, it is a bit soon, and i do think also it means "something".
relax, enjoy... i think they know you're someone special and they want to meet you. gonna be fine... :)
how to stay calm??? no clue, i've never been able to pull that off ;)

I want to meet Jeremy's parents after 2 months - I want to get it out of the way!!

I guess once you decide you are exclusive - no matter how much "quality time alone" you've had, the meeting of the 'rents is inevitable, so why not get it out of the way ASAP. I feel like it's more difficult dealing with all of the scenarios that go on in my imagination than the actual experience will probably be. (Jeremy's parents are also OW/YM and his step-mom even encouraged him to find an older woman after his last two disasters with YW, so it will probably be a lot less awkward than if they thought I was a freak.)

As far as keeping in cucumber-mode...just keep reminding yourself how lucky he is to have you! ;)

I'm not so sure that the ammount of time you've been together is a factor...it sounds like to me that your fella has been lettin mom and dad know how happy he is with you and he wants to show you off...they want to meet the person that has made their son walk in the clouds...nothing to be nervous about...be yourself and remember to use your manners...lol...really...don't let it worry you...you'll do just fine...