Oh, it IS me!!!

Hello,

Earlier I posted about the 24yo male that likes me.

Yesterday, I called him & told him that I wanted a dating relationship. Asked & he confirmed he'd be interested in dating. He asked if I'd call him back in a couple of hours...which I did.

Curses! Why am I so quiet when it is him & me?
I did chit-chat a little & asked him a few things then silence. After a bit, he made a 'hmm' noise. I asked him what & said I didn't know what his 'hmm' meant. He said he was talking to himself - my reply 'talk to me will ya?'.
He thought I wasn't talking much. He made a comment about not being much of a phone talker. I said most of the people I know live along way away so I have to talk on the phone with them. Except my best friend who I talk to on the internet. - He thought one of his housemates was my best friend. I told him we were friends but not best-f. -- Then all of a sudden...

He was talking away!!!! I spoke on the topics that he brought up but I was not able to keep the ball rolling. In fact, my mind was a total blank as far as new topics! What is the deal? I usually talk & reveal way too much at the beginning of a relationship. -- I really don't get it. I'm not at all concerned with him continuing to like or dislike me, the person that is revealed. Thus, that is not the problem. Being a blank, is not that common for me. I have No clue what to do to kick myself in gear.

Any advice, tips, etc. welcomed.
NN

Give it time. With each conversation you will probably find that you are finding more and more to talk about with him.

I agree with Whiterose...as time goes on and the more time you spend with him...the more you'll have to talk about...you'll have topics to fall back on about the things you two may have done...something you saw that was funny...movies you may have seen...do you both like those forensic shows...you had mentioned cars once...do you both like racing...the more you two find you have in common the more you'll have to talk about...just give it time...right now things are new and neither of you know much about the other...once these things are learned the more you'll be able to find things to discuss...just relax...calm down...take a deep breath...be yourself and don't worry so much...lol...I think you're so nervous about not being talkative that you've talked yourself out of having something to talk about...lol...now that I've confused you...I'll leave you with it...take care and don't worry...everything will be just fine...Good luck and just remember to relax...K??

LOL

You are both right.


Chilling,
NN:cool:

Hi Natural!

Originally posted by Natural_nature

Curses! Why am I so quiet when it is him & me?

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In fact, my mind was a total blank as far as new topics! What is the deal?

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Being a blank, is not that common for me. I have No clue what to do to kick myself in gear.
NN

Amasing, I had exactly the same experience with my girlfriend!

We usually can be very talkative people, me to the extent that when I was a teenager I used to talk and laugh so much, that my teacher got annoyed and nearly dumped me into a wild alpine river in Switzerland because I wouldn't shut up *** LOL ***

In the beginning that was really weird and I was asking myself "Dear me, what can we possibly talk about???" Being together we normally feel so relaxed and at peace, so tuned into each other, so used to the presence of the other, that talking seems completely obsolete! I can very easily read her feelings at any time. This made me think that there's telepathy between us :)

Anyway, don't worry about this "blankness" - this could be a sign that you connect very deeply :)

the dreaded silence...like many are saying it's being prepared that can save you. I have found a fun thing to do with someone new is make up a list and call it "100 Questions". Write up questions as they pop into your head. Silly ones as well as thought provoking ones. When you are going through them you can stop on anything that inspires further discussion. Keep them lite and do it for the the purpose of laughing. You can volunteer information about yourself too while doing it. That should help keep the ball rolling.

Dragonfly: ;) The answer is boxers!

:eek:


NN


I know his sister -- and she is one of the few people that I took an immediate dislike toward. I met her before him actually. She is out of state right now - thank goodness. She never shuts up. Is rude & obnoxious. I'm sure they have some things in common but outwardly nothing like each other! I think she mentioned another brother once.

He also has a son. I haven't asked too much about the boy. I know his name because the YM has it tattoed on his forearm. I was asking about the tattoes - he has 2 words, 2 names (son's 1st name & his last name), and 1 set of initials - which he did not want to explain = ex's.

Dragonfly - you are 100% correct about different life experiences that we could talk about.

I got to go - I've been at work 11 hours & have an hour drive to get home!

NN