Update on "jealousy" - MUST READ!!!

I posted last week about Jealousy and my marriage, well my last post was on Saturday and and later on that evening, I got a serious wake up call and my whole perspective has changed. I learned a VALUABLE lesson. Listen to this......

My husband got home from work at about 8pm on Saturday night and we were going to the club with his brother and his brother's wife. We got there aroung 10:30 and were having a blast. We danced and cut up and were just winding down from a long hard week.

Well at about 1:15 am, my husband told me he was ready to go (which isn't normal) I asked him if he was feeling bad, and he said "I don't know", which alarmed me a little , then I asked him if he wanted me to drive home and he said that I might need to, well my husband NEVER has me drive, so i was like, ok, there is something wrong here, so I went to tell his brother that we were leaving but he wasn't there, so I turned back to my husband and he fell backwards off the stool onto the floor, out cold - I got down to him and his eyes were open and he was sweaty and I thought, Oh my God, he's having a heart attack!!!. I yelled for someone to call 911. I went to Paramedic school, but it's a lot different when its someone you love that is hurt. I rolled him on his side, in case he got sick, but then I noticed he wasn't breathing, so I rolled him back over and started rescue breathing, in the meantime, a guy got on him and started doing chest compressions.

After about the 4th breath, he came to and said "I'm fine", well he wasn't, cause he was on the floor....well, people there helped him to a stool and he was still very woosy and I told him to rest againt me and he kept saying, "I'm fine, I wanna go" (I knew that the ambulance was on the way, so i needed him to stay until it got there) well, he passed out again for about 20 seconds.

We got him outside and on the ambulance and to the hospital where they did a bunch of tests - Cat scan, bloodwork, x-rays. They said he wasn't drunk, no head injury from the fall, he didn't have a heart attack or stroke - THANK GOD, but they didn't know what was going on, and to follow-up with our family doctor.

We went on Monday and the Doctor thinks that he may have had a petite mal seizure, so we are going for further testing.

He doesn't remember anything, which is good, because it was horrible, I have nightmares about that night and I wonder if I did everything right.

I was so scared that I was going to lose my husband and unfortunately, or fortunately - I have a new outlook on our relationship. The unfortunate part was that I had to have something like this happen to make me realize how incredibly lucky I am to have this man in my life. Everyone has faults and insecurites, but Y'know, I'll take them, cuase my husband truly is the love of my life.

Thank you all for your advice,

Kimi

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OMG kimi. I am so sorry to read this. I hope that it isn't anything too serious and I hope that it never happens again! But it is strange how something so terrifying can be a blessing in disguise and good for you for realizing it!

Please keep us posted!

Another big hug for you . . .

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What a frightening experience! I'm glad your husband is okay, and that you had the training and the presence of mind to deal with the situation that way.

I hope they can figure out what happened and that it never happens again.

That is my worst nightmare, and I worry about it all the time. I have lost a number of people in their early 50's to sudden heart attacks or strokes, so I worry, worry, worry.

Oh my goodness. Well I'm so relieved to read that your husband is ok. I can't imagine what that must have been like. I agree with Moon, it's sad, but its true...sometimes things like this are a blessing in disguise. Chin up. Keep us posted!!

~Em

Wow.... I'm so sorry to hear that happened to your husband.... but I'm so happy that he's ok....

Sometimes tragedy brings out the answers... sad but true.. makes us realize how much we take our loved ones for granted!!

I lost my fiance 6 years ago.... Life is way to short to take for granted...Love each other and thank god everyday that you wake up!! :) I do....

Thanks so much guys for your kind words, I really do appreciate it, and am also glad that my husband is doing better. He is back to normal, but I worry about him all the time now and think of him constantly.

The testing they want to do is to determine if he has epilepsy or not. He was a little worried and I told him that hundreds of thousands of people live full, normal lives with Epliepsy everyday and with the right medication, some people can go years without incident, and not to worry about it right now. Although I am happy knowing something, rather than knowing nothing at all.

I guess it was a blessing in disguise, because I wonder if it would have happened while he was driving to or home from work, or at work. I am very glad I was with him, although terrified. We did find out from that Doctor that he does have low red blood cell count which means he is borderline enemic, so we are taking care of that now.

The feelings buzzing between both is almost like when we were dating, y'know the butterflies and the "I can't wait to see you and touch you" feeling, the "drunk in love"? Not saying that we didn't have feelings like that before, they are just so much more intense - thats a great feeling to have.

And I don't care that he strewns the newspaper everywhere after he's done reading it, that he can't seem to make it the extra six inches so that the clothes actually make it into the dirty clothes basket, that he has a hole in his lip and he ends up with more food on his shirt than in his mouth, that he uses every pot and pan that we have to make a 2 course meal (he's an excellent cook by the way), that he and my son think passing gas should be an olympic event, because I have him hear with me to do those things.


Thanks guys and I'll keep you posted!!!!

Kimi

Kimi, I will keep y'all in prayer. :)

Originally posted by Kimib
And I don't care that he strewns the newspaper everywhere after he's done reading it, that he can't seem to make it the extra six inches so that the clothes actually make it into the dirty clothes basket, that he has a hole in his lip and he ends up with more food on his shirt than in his mouth, that he uses every pot and pan that we have to make a 2 course meal (he's an excellent cook by the way), that he and my son think passing gas should be an olympic event, because I have him hear with me to do those things.

I know exactly what you mean!

Wow.

I'm glad you two are doing better.

I love your new photo--both of you look so happy. I hope you two have many days where you look like that.

:)
thatgirl

But why does he have a hole in his lip?

At first I thought you meant a piercing but food certainly shouldn't fall through THAT!

I don't know if you're exaggerating or not?

Other than his lip, I hope he's just fine! :cool:

LOL....Dat, that was too cute! :D