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My case.

kcg
09-27-2004, 10:01 PM
Hi all,

Fist of all, I'm sorry about my English 'cause it's not my mother-language. And I'm very glad to come to this great forum.

Let's my try to tell you about my case. My home country is Vietnam and I'm studying aboard now in Netherlands. It's about 2 years since I've left home. Right now, I havent graduated yet, it's 2 more years. That's something about myself.

I and she studied the same high school, but she's 6 years older than me. I met her 7 years ago when I visited my teacher in the Teacher's Day (in Vietnam, there is a Teacher's Day in 20 Nov every year). She also went the visit him - the Literature teacher. He introduced me to her. She migrated to Canada right after finished high school. That's mean it was 3 years she've left VN already. I was attracted by her tender, charming, fine, dignified. My teacher told me to give a ride to her hotel. That was the first time I talked to her. How brighten she is! I had a chance to get along with her, I became the "driver" by showing her around the city. We had a nice memory at that time when she invited me to come to Ben Tre where she was born. It's a small village with great view and various fruit-tree. I had to lie to my parents that was a school tour. I have to say that was the most beautiful memory I've got in high school.

After a month, she came back to Canada, and we tried to keep in touch by paper mail. But you know, it took time and I just can wrote for her 2 or 3 letters per year. Time went by, a lot of thinga came up and I didnt have any news from her.

I though meeting her is just a fate, and when the fate ends, I need to learn how to forget her. I found out that she's a most gorgeous girl I've ever met. The more I wanted to forget, I more I missed her. But nothing I can do, i was just a 16, 17 years old high school boy. That hurts me for a long time.

Finished high school, I went to university in VN. Two years later , I got a chance to study aboard in Holland and I decided to go. About a year ago, while searching around in Internet for my report, I found my high school's Website and forum. Wow, it was great and I visited it daily. You guess what , I met her again, in that forum. Yay! Again, my heart beats a miles per sec. She also regconized me and we started to chat through Y!M, Paltalk. She usually asked me online in Paltalk to sing for me. Believe me, her voice is the sweetest thing in the world (for me, of course). I listened to her story, her life in Canada. We became close-friend although I want more than that, but I'vent got any chance. One day, she told me she've got a boyfriend already. He's a 30 yrs-old bussiness man, more or less. They had a fight back then. I tried to comfort her, sang for her, wrote poems, etc, everything I could do to reduce her stress and sadness. They got over it and were at ease with each other. I was glad, too and same time, felf paintful. By the way, we both love poem and everytime I or she finished one, we gave it to each other and waited for comment. By that way, I can see her emotion, her feeling and her sadness. I think she knew I like her. Attually, I've liked her for 7 years. Now, I love her with the full meaning of "love" word. I love her so much, miss her every morning right after I wake up. Whenever I brush teeth, it reminds me of her because she an official dentish about 4 months till now. See, I'm helpless, always thinking about her, always wonder how's she doing, how's the weather in Toronto, how's the traffic in her way to work, blabla.... *sigh*...

I even cannot tell her how much I love her. I dont want to give her pressure and ruin our close-friendship. At least, I can talk with her everyday after she back home, ask her how was her day, does she have dinner yet, listen to her trouble or whatever she wants to say. I'm still two-hands-blank, not be able to bring her happiness. Besides that, my parents would never give me their approval to love her. Hah, she does lnot ove me ... what the heck i'm thinking about the two-family...

Aww, my mind is full of confusion and blanked right now. After write down a long story (in English.. sorry again) I feel headache but more relaxing. i have to stop here. Please excuse me. Thank you for your reading.

Best regards,
kcg

whiterose
09-28-2004, 06:28 AM
Hi kcg, and welcome to agelesslove. I read your story and my eyes were filled with tears. How sad for you to love someone so far away and one who is in a relationship with another. :(

I can understand your feelings of concern. If you have finally found her after all those years apart, I understand why you would be afraid to lose your friendship with her.

You mention that your parents would not approve. Is that because she is older than you?

I don't know much about your culture. But, if they are concerned about an age difference, maybe it's time for a change in opinion on that in your country. Things are progressing all over the world. Age is just a number. Love only happens every once in a while. You two are both living in the world. If you do decide to pursue a relationship with her one day, please don't let the age difference stop you.

Now, about whether to tell her of your feelings for her. This is a very tough decision and one you'll have to make when you feel ready to do so. Just a suggestion.... you may try casually asking her sometime if she ever had any feelings stronger than friendship for you. Just tell her you are curious. See what she says and then take it from there.

No matter what happens, I wish you all the best of luck. :)


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