need advise

well i am new need advise some can help out well i am 39 year old and i got girlfriend she 52 and i love her very much , we know eachother for six month dating for few week and together two month now i make her happy she was alone two year sad thing happen divorce. now she very happy she love me more. one thing is she told me once not want get marry again but why??? that why need ask advise....

Welcome scoshibear. I think that your girlfriend is probably the only person who can explain why she feels this way. Have you asked her why she feels that way? Maybe she was hurt pretty badly as a result of the divorce and maybe she's afraid it will happen again?

I agree with whiterose. Maybe you should ask her why she feels this way. Perhaps she was hurt and is simply averting any situation in which she may be hurt again.

That may not seem fair from your persepective since you may have no desire to harm her. But 'once bitten, twice shy' as they say.

I agree with the others. She is probably still very raw inside from the divorce. I've been through divorce twice (2nd not yet finalized ~ have to wait a full year) and I said up and down and to everyone I knew when my second husband left me, "I WILL NEVER, EVER, EVER GET MARRIED AGAIN." I even told my friends they could slap me upside my head if I ever even BEGAN to think like that...

... and now I'm in a fabulous relationship with a guy I really can't imagine NOT being with. I will live with him under any terms he wants, no qualms about it. I don't need to be married, BUT... if he asked... and it was important to him... no doubt, I would say yes. Because, in my heart, I love him. I don't ever want to be without him.

... and the really funny thing? Those friends I told to slap me upside the head? One of them asked me the other day, "Are you going to marry him? Are you two at least TALKING about it?" :o I don't think he took me very seriously, do you? LOL.

Welcome to ageless. Don't give up on your lady. Give her time, love, attention. Help her heal and maybe, just maybe, how she feels about "till death do us part" might change as her feelings for YOU change and grow. A day may come she cannot envision life without you and has reason to trust you to honor your vows - and to trust herself to honor hers.

~phosphorescent

well i want thank to all advise i would be best for her anyway we still love eachother i love her and like say thank all lot help in my head..

I hope things work out for you. :)