The way You knew.....

I'm curious..... what was it that your SO did that you knew He/She was the One.....


I remember one time my husband and I were laying in bed...while we were dating for about 3 months..... and as I woke up I just saw my husband then boyfriend looking at me smiling and caressing my head......it was at that very moment when I knew I loved him and wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.....


How about you... When did you know?

Thats such a cute story nessa!!!

Ha Ha, Mrs. Hedgehog, that is so funny and sweet!

I have a couple of "a ha" moments. But, one of my favorite memories is when he went away for a week camping with his friends after we had been dating for about 6 months. I woke up on Saturday morning and walked down the street to a cafe with my journal in hand. I drank coffee and wrote for about an hour, and all I could write about was him. The last sentance in that entry was "Oh God, I think I love him!" And I started to panic. I hadn't heard from him in 3 days because he was out in the middle of nowhere with no cell phone service, and I started to think "Wouldn't it be ironic if I finally figured out that I love him, and he decided he didn't love me?" He had been actively pursuing me and constant in his attention and affection for 6 months, but I though maybe this time apart would make him think he shouldn't go on. The thought just broke my heart because it had taken me a long, long time to come to this realization.

I went home and there was a message on my machine, it said "Mad Bess, I'm sorry I missed you, but I walked 3 miles to find a pay phone in order to call you. I just want you to know that I miss you and I love you. My friends think I have gone crazy, and they are planning a wedding like 12-year-old girls."

When he came back a few days later, the first thing I said to him was "I Love You!"

Thanks for letting me remember that!

Well, this may sound corny but, about the third day we were together while I was watching her cook supper at the stove, the thought came to me that this was a woman I could spend the rest of my life with. And thats what I plan to do.


Cowboy

Aw, these stories are awesome!!

Umm... I had a few moments, but there is one that really stands out.

I had been going through a period of wondering if I wanted to be single so I could "have fun" -- and by that, I don't mean messing around with different guys, but rather, travelling, that kind of thing. See, when I was married, my husband was very good and reliable, sweet, loving (okay, you are wondering why I ended it...) but being with him felt like my life was over, like I had to settle down and sit at home every night and watch TV. It was seriously killing me... anyway. So when I got involved with my ym (pretty much right after my marriage ended) I was worried. I didn't want to settle into this dull routine on my way to the grave... sorry, but that is how it felt!!

But then one day my ym was saying how he wants to have 2 kids (and I am still open to the idea and I'm only 31 so it's definitely in the cards should I choose it), and I was thinking how that might be sort of scary, but then he mentioned how he's always wanted a family to "travel and experience life's adventures" with him. It was a pretty big deal... it's actually pretty hard to explain just how what he said clicked with me. Ummm... yeah. Just thought I'd share that.

Thanks you guys...

PinkCat your so right these are FABULOUS stories... Keep em coming I love em!!

These stories are great!!!!! I love reading about happy moments like these.:D

Raveness

I had so many fears going into our relationship that even though there were many many* I know* moments....the (to good to be true) doubt would always creep back in. The first time I picked him up from the airport after talking for months and months online.We held each other for what seemed like hours......there were tons of people around yet no one but us...... it felt like home.....I just knew I belonged in his arms......that was my 1st IRL moment.

Everything about him was exactly what I'd always dreamed of.So as things unfolded those moments came alot.....the time I wanted to pick wild flowers on the side of the road and he was so into getting me the silly flowers that he fell down a small hill......I just stood there laughing and thinking.... God I love him.

The time we ran naked in the rain in front of my house late at night....OMG so much fun!

The time we went sleding down a huge very steep dirt hill (no snow) and risked life and limb for a bit of fun....I thought,wow I found someone as crazy as me....now all is right with the world! Lol

The time one of us said late one night.....we have so little room left because of all the stuff we bought at yardsales that soon we will have to start glueing things to the cieling......we just looked at each other and knew we were gonna be glueing stuff to the cieling Lol and we did!...starting with a globe. It actualy looked cool in an artsy fartsy kind of way :)

So many times.... I knew..... but I would get scared :( the big *I KNOW* didn't come for me until after I sent him away :( and not under happy circumstances.... at all.

I went through a very bad depression when he was gone....not just about him but about many many things from my past.

Everyday he ws still there for me....he'd call and try to make me smile (he did)......he'd tell me over and over it was going to be alright......somewhere in one of my down moments.......it finally hit me and I *TOTALLY knew*

It washed over me......there is no one else that could ever take his place in my heart......I have everything with him.....he IS my soulmate....my shoe bottom friend.....my husband for life.

I love you Tony

One moment that sticks out to me is when he took me to South America to meet his family after only 3 months of being together! That was huge for me..........
Everytime I read a card he has given me I am reminded how wonderful and good he is, I could read his words over and over again.

Ok, I am not really sure that I can consider Remi and me a long-term relationship YET, but we're headed that way. So, I figure why not? I'll go ahead and post my "aha!" moment.

For six months, Remi had voiced a romantic interest in me. We had become very close friends. But, I fought off the notion of being with him every step of the way. Even got myself involved with a man living in NJ for 5 of those 6 months. But, could never stop thinking about Remi and that magical moment when I first saw him on cam. :)

Then, in mid October, 2003, I had sent Remi two packages. He had to travel to Oradea, on the other side of Romania, to pick them up. We have never understood why. I guess that's one of their customs check points. It would be about a 24 hour trip for him round trip, if he went non-stop. As he did not have a car, and he would need help carrying two packages, he decided to hire a driver to take him.

On Saturday, his roommate, Radu, IM'd me asking me if I had heard anything from Remi. He was worried because he was supposed to have returned home by Thursday. Radu had no way of contacting him to make sure he was ok. :eek:

For four more days, I worried myself sick about him. All I could think about was how STUPID I had been for 6 months worrying about the age difference, and the geographic distance between us. I realized just what a fool I had been.

Here I had been a loner for something like 6 years, other than that 5 mo. so-called relationship with the guy in NJ, and I was on the verge of losing the most wonderful man I had yet to meet in person. That's when I knew that he was my future. I decided that the moment I got to talk to him again, I would tell him how I was really feeling about him.

He and the driver had been stopped while driving through the Carpathian Alps when the police closed the road due to a sudden ice storm. The road remained closed for two days. They even ran out of gas trying to keep the car going just to keep warm. Petrika, the driver, even developed frost bite of this feet and later had toes amputated. :( The only food they had was some peanut butter and crackers I had sent Remi (Remi had never eaten peanut butter before that -- I bet he won't ever eat it again either). The driver had bottled water in his trunk.

Remi had to eventually walk to the closest town to get gas for the car. Finally, when he had returned, the roads were open again and they were finally on their way home.

The moment he came online the following Wednesday night, I felt this HUGE rush of emotions and just had to tell him how I felt. He and I spoke for hours that night (this was when he was living with Radu and had 24/7 computer access)... and we began forming our plans to meet in person. We were both on cloud nine by the time the conversation ended.

wow whiterose you must have been besides yourself.Thats horible about the driver losing his toes :(

Imagine having to drive all that way just to get packages.....I guess you never sent anymore huh

I did send him one more after that, but only because I had already bought the items (it was for his birthday) and because I was able to get everything into one box which he could carry alone. He took a train that time to pick it up, but still had to go all the way to Oradea. And, the worst part? The customs officials had already opened it before he got there. They claimed it got "wet" and items were missing. :rolleyes: Same thing happened the first time, too.

But, that was a year ago and even though his birthday is tomorrow, I refuse to send him anymore packages. Besides all the trouble, it's very expensive, too. I think that one box cost me something like $90?

The customs officials had already opened it before he got there. They claimed it got "wet" and items were missing. Same thing happened the first time, too.

:( I would send a card

Your stories touch me so much I had to cry! And Whiterose, that's crazy that your gift helped him to survive :o What an amazing connection evolving.

*sigh* there have been several moments, one in particular, when I was resisting sharing how I felt after a year of corresponding because I was afraid my feelings were not to be reciprocated.

Out of the blue he told me how he felt about me and it completely took me by surprise, even though I already knew, in my heart.

That was about a year ago :o How time flies. So now it's been nearly two years talking online, a year since that initial "moment" and in two days we meet in person for the first time.

I'm confident that he's the one but I'm sure there will be another *moment* at some point in our "real life" relationship to reconfirm what we already know.

As far as knowing he was "the one"...mine isn't an incredibly romantic story. We've had tons of romantic moments, but I knew Robin was "the one" right away, the first night I met him. I dated so many men throughtout my life, I was at the place where I knew EXACTLY what I wanted and didn't want. Robin fit the bill like a glove. We talked for like, 8 hours the first night we met, and then he spent the night *sheepish grin*. I guess aside from the talking, the awesome sex was the clincher!:D