update on his lying about my age!!

First of all, thanks so much for all the input from everyone. I decided to have a "come to Jesus" meeting with him about the lying to everybody. He said that when we first started dating he was really happy and excited to have met someone that he really liked, and he wanted to share that with his friends and family. Knowing that I would soon meet his friends and that there was an obvious age diffrence he told them that I was 35. He said the reason that he did'nt tell them truth was that he wanted them to take us seriously and not think of it as some older woman sex fling.. Okay i was trying to keep a straight face this whole time.. I guess you have to be over 10 years older than the guy for it to be a "sex fling" LOL. anyway he said that he would set the record straight with his family before i meet them. We are supposed to go to his hometown in january for his dads Birthday. I asked him if my being almost 40 was a huge issue with him and he said that it was'nt that the issue for him was that people realized that this was a genuine relationship and not a fluke. So I guess I just have to trust that he will tell people the truth and thats that. Becca

Nice going, Becca. Sounds like things came out fine.

And, yes, it sounds as if you can (and should) take it at face value.

We all have fears about things in our lives. How he deals with his "fears" may not be how you would think about dealing with the same fear but that's because, hey, we're all different!

It is always up to YOU to decide if things are past your boundaries. Note that in my book "past my boundaries" shouldn't be the same thing as "outside of my comfort zone". The latter is what causes us to react with panic because it's a new situation, unfamiliar and uncomfortable. The former is when something just continues to make us feel uncomfortable long past what should be its normal shelf life.

So the fling thing applies once the AG is 10 years+? *giggle*

Hopefully your guy realizes that no matter that AG, or lack thereof, people may not take a relationship seriously. The only thing that proves it to them (and ourselves) is...time.

I'm glad you two were able to talk it through together. That's great news. He sounds like he really does care about your relationship alot.

I'm glad you are feeling better about this.

I was thinking about you earlier today, and I was just pondering the idea that I don't think this is that big a deal... I really don't. And I don't subscribe to the idea of, "If he can lie about this, there is no telling what else he is lying about" because everyone tells a little white lie every once in a while.

Great!! Glad to hear it all worked out!

Originally posted by Nessa
OMG we are a fling... LOL we are 11 years apart...




LOL. Fling going on over here, too. :cool:

We're having a BIG fling with 19 years here... lol

Originally posted by Nessa
guys please let's not make fun of the young man's beliefs.

i know we mean to be supportive and welcoming and we are just releiving the stress that it worked out.....

right????


Hey, you started it!

But you're right. I don't think the intent here - by anyone - was to make fun of anyone, specifically. I think we're having an amused reaction to what many of us see as the general attitude of society at-large.

Becca, no offense intended to you or your sweetie.

You guys are great!!! Becca.

16 years here and the sex is better then good....fling going on 4 years:D