How long til "I love you" - - ??

I've been skeptical of folks who will profess love after a few meetings, a night or two together, etc.

Love takes time.

I told YM that I loved him after we had been together for about 9 months (we knew each other for almost a year before we got involved), though I knew/suspected that was how I felt around the 6 month mark.

It took him until last month - just over a year & a half into our relationship - to express that same feeling. It was not easy to wait to hear it, especially since I was not sure that I would, but I knew that nagging, questioning, begging would never get me what I hoped for.

so - -

how long would you wait?

how long have you waited?

how long should you wait?

are we all just romantic fools!?!?!?

I didn't plan to say it first, but . . .

& yes, I think YM really means it, but I had to ask him what DOES it mean to him - - -

he had told me a few months ago that he had never said it to anyone (I couldn't ask - - - did he mean not his mom, his sister - - I knew what he meant)

I agree, Nessa, that sooner than 3 months is cause for concern - - especially if there's no other prior relationship between you.

I said it in a letter to him for the first time.... 6 weeks after we broke up......But i didn't feel comfortable saying it while we were together...I guess it was relevent to the 'subject matter' in the letter and That was why I mentioned it....

To be honest with you I generally feel stupid 'saying' it.....

Actually **Showing It**...... Hey, well, That ..... really Rings MY **Bell** !!!

Well i said that to 2 ppl in my life...and thats to Tracy and my ex...and i think i waited a few months b4 i even said it to my ex...and i doubt i even loved that person...what i feel for Tracy is so much more...more then i've ever felt for any1 in my life...and if what im feeling for tracy right now is Love(which it is) then yea i prolly didnt feel it for that other...i told Tracy maybe after a Week...lolllll....and took me like 10 minutes to do it "Tracy i have to tell you something very important promise me before i do tho that you wont get wigged out that you wont suddenly have to go" and stuff like that then i finally said "Tracy i uh i Ummm Tracy i love you!" and i was told a few secs afterwards that she had to catch her self a few times from saying the same to me...we knew eachother before we were "together" but im talking about together we knew eachother for a few months before that and then it was me being a a** to her and then us becoming friends( funny all my friends i have ever made i got into it and disliked em for a while before we became friends...lol) but this is my fault i disliked her i didnt even get to know her at that point...but after i did i couldnt get enuff of her i mean we spoke 1 day for 14 hours (on and off) talking about anything and everthing i guess you could say we got to know eachother pretty good within that first week of time...but i see...as each day passes my feelings for her grows a little bit more...

Remi told me that he loved me six months before I told him that I love him, and about 3 months after we first met online. I just could not accept that someone who had never seen me in person could actually love me. And, I felt he was rushing things. It took me a long time, but I finally realized that I was falling in love with him.

I don't think you can put a timeframe on when it's the right time to say it. It's all so subjective.

Oh heck. I always say it first. Diarrhea of the mouth. But I don't seem to feel it first. They feel it and keep their mouth shut until I catch up - lol.

A year and a half with my late husband, 13 months with the in between guy, and a mere three months with E (a world record by my standards).

But I said it first, each and every time. It was reciprocated twice
:D

I haven't said it first in the last 4 relationships, but I was feelin it when they said it. The only person I didn't say it right back to was Jeremy. He said it after only 3 - 4 weeks. I told him after about 6 weeks. Looked at him and said something to the effect of, 'You ***hole! Why'd you have to go and make me fall in love with you??" Real romantic, huh? I was teasing, but he loved it, because he knew it was true. :)

That's cute Kristen...

I never say it first. I love/hate it when a guy says it early on.. I love to hear it, but I know at 3 or 4 weeks, it is still only infatuation. :cool: