How can I convince her?

Hello. I am a new member and I have been reading these forums for the last couple of weeks. It is great to have a source like this site for people like me to understand that OW/YM relationships are not strange or uncommom. I have recently began dating a great woman who is 49, while I am 25. We have an amazing time together, and I have never felt a connection with anyone like I have with her. She has a son who is 7 years older than I am and a 6 year old grandson. She wants a lifelong relationship for the sake of her family, because they are her life and she doesn't want to see them hurt due to a breakup. I am looking for a lifelong relationship too, but she thinks that in the long run it will not work out betwwen us. She has the typical type of thinking for OW/YM relationships. She fears that I will leave her for a younger woman, or because I will want to have children which she can't give me. She is always saying things like "Why would you want to be with me", and "I don't want to like you this much". She is convinced that I am going to break her heart. What can I do to convince her that she is what I want? Should I do nothing more than what I am doing now by being with her and giving her all the support that I can?

Welcome to agelesslove fellow Kentuckian. :D I grew up there and now live in So. Indiana.

About your situation... everything that she is feeling, I have felt, too. I am 46 years old and am engaged to a 28 year old man. In fact, I nearly didn't even give him a chance and only did so after coming to this site and meeting other people in the same situation as me. I learned that all the feelings I was experiencing were "normal" for women in love with younger men.

So, you might encourage her to come here and read the forums. It will help her see that she is not the only one who feels that way.

As far as what you can do personally... yeah, just give her the time and space and support that she needs. My fiance had to wait six months for me. His patience was WONDERFUL. He never pressured me. In fact, his patience made me love him even more.

If she says that she is worried that you'll one day leave her for someone younger, then give her the reassurance that she needs. And, be patient with her. If you get tired of saying the same thing over and over again, don't let her know. Eventually, she will learn to trust in what you say to her.

Good luck and keep us posted on how things are going.

Yep, what she said -- tell her to come here. You even have the option of deleting your thread before you direct her here. Not that we like it when people delete stuff, but just in case you'd feel more comfortable.