How to chat someone up on the Internet

This is somewhat of a PSA to people who want to meet people on the internet but really are a bit awkward about it.

Pretend the internet is some vast party and your invited. There are all sorts of people there, some you'll like, some who'll like you, and others who you will never like or like you etc. If you were to go up to someone at one of these vast parties would you say things like "So...are you horny?" Out of the blue?

I don't think so. Unless you were looking to get slapped in the face or whatever.

In fact any impertant quiz sure to make the other person feel like they've been put on the spot.

Then how, you may wonder, do I get to know the other person?

You give a little and get a little. Say something general like, how are you, move on to your own likes/dislikes, just like you would at a party.

"Hi, my name is Lady Spinster, how are you today?

I just finished reading another JD Robb book, "Truth in Death", do you like mysteries?"

Because you offered something about yourself first, the other person doesn't feel put on the spot, they feel like they are part of an exchange.

Altho I just used a "Yes/No" question, try to use open ended questions for the most conversation value.

"I'm looking forward to seeing the new Blade movie, what kind of movies do you like?"

This give and take let's both people out of the spotlight and allows both people to learn about each other instead of just one asking a question and the other person answering then going "And you?"

Lastly, try to answer in sentences longer than three words to incite maxium intrest. If a person feels like they are pulling teeth instead of being part of a conversation they might be reluctant to talk to you again.


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This post has been a reflection of my own personal history from over ten years in chat and does not reflect, most likely, the Ageless Love management views.

Hows this Lades

LIKES
I like going on outings, and dinners, I like going on long walks and I love cars, I love driving. I like sterio systems, and cds, I like writing songs, I like making stuff, I like dinners, dinners at home, dinners out, but mainly dinners. I like going to the gym and working out with my personal trainer, in fact, I like my personal trainer, hes the best. I like watching spiders kill flys in their webs (especially mosquitoes) and I really like Huntsmen spiders, they are fantastic. I love fashion but I don't like the industry, its very pretentious.. so I keep away from stuff like fashion parades. I love pay television, and I love thriller movies. I like outings. I like meditating. I love going on planes. I like riding my bike around town, and running on the beach... "And getting caught in the rain" (thats that song!!)


DISLIKES
I dont like not getting my work done because Im spending too much time on Ageless, I don't like big cars, I don't like Junk
Food, don't like doing tax and adding things up, I don't like filling forms out ... I don't like most things that people don't like except for ironing, I like that.

I'd probably need more time to think of more..... But What dyou think?

lol, sounds good, but I was mostly talking about in chat rooms! ;)

Reminds me of the Pina Colada song:

If you like Pina Colada's
And getting caught in the rain
If your not into junk food
If you have half a brain
If you like making love
in the moonlight by the cape
I'm the man you've looking for
Come with me and escape!

:)

AH..............

Lady Spinster,

The only problem with this thread is that the people who *really* need to read it, will likely never see it ;)

Seraa

One can only hope, a lot of people read it but never posted.

I've also written up a post "Where to meet people" on the new members thread...maybe I should ask that this be moved there?

Lades,

Well if you gunna do that .... Tell me and I'll delete my post !!!!

Tinks:)

I'm not in charge of that, so *shrugs* I woudn't worry if I were you.