Need advise! OW/YM situation

I am 51 he is 33, we've been in a relationship for almost a year, he fell in love with me about 4 months after meeting, I took a bit longer, I'm always nervous about the sweep me off my feet emotions, which happened in my third marriage, I was careful this time and took it slow.
I would greatly appreciate some advise as to how to handle telling my boys, which are 25 and 33, both married with children. I live in one province, they another, I'm going to be out there for Christmas and plan on telling them at that time, my y/m does not live with me, but does spend weekends with me. Meeting him was totally unexpected, prior to meeting my y/m whenever I would go out with my friends, I would always attract younger men. I rarely talk to my boys about whether I'm dating or not, that part of my life is never discussed, only because they don't ask, and I don't talk about it. We always discuss what's going on in their lives, my grandchildren etc..I was always there for my boys for emotional and financial support. they would tell me anything, but they've moved to a different level in their lives, they don't need my advise or confide as much anymore.
I'm very nervous about telling them, I love my boys dearly and care what they think and they about me...How do I handle this? I'm concerned about my oldest son, they're the same age.
Any advise is greatly appreciated.
Roseanna :confused:

Sally thank you so much! this does help I greatly appreciate the advise....

when my boys where younger in their teens they would discuss with me or my now divorced second husband, we did talk about relationships, sex, never judged their opinion, now that their married, their worlds are all about their kids, my grandchildren, they're both very happy in their marriages, and I am totally happy for them, so my advise I give to them now deals more with their experiences with bringing up babies.

I've been on my own for 2 years now, which has gone by so quickly, during that time, they've both married and had kids, I think they may have forgotten that mom is out here having a life.
There was a posting here not sure who wrote it, her son refused to see or talk to her for quite some time, I would be devistated if it came to that, I guess I won't know until I talk to them.
Sometimes I feel like this is too much, I'm still not totally comfortable about the age difference.
At times I think I should just walk away.
Roseanna

The Wayne Gretsky of advise! Felt it...Thanks...your right Sally, this is new territory I'm walking on, it's my fear of the unknown talking.
My family here, mom, sisters, cousins, all have met him and like him. He reminds me of a young Keanu Reeves, he's adorable. He's sweet, attentive, and it's true what you said that they need to respect my happiness.

You've advise has made me feel so much better!
Thanks!!!!!!!
Roseanna

I don't have children, but if I had a son the same age as my bf, this is how I would handle that. I would sit my son down and tell him, you know, people find love whereever they find it, it just happens, you never know who you are going to fall in love with. I have met a wonderful man, he is kind, caring, loves me to pieces, but I want your approval, and I know you will be shocked at his age, so I have been apprehensive about telling you, but I also know that being my son, you want me to be happy, and this man makes me very very happy, he fills my life, he would do anything for me. He is your age, I know, you are shocked, I figured you might be. I would like you to meet him so that you can see that we are right for each other.

Ok, that's all I can think of. I hope it helps a bit.