what to do??

Hey everyone!I was in 7 yr. relationship and just dumped the man, sold the house and said it's time to start over w/ my 2 yr. old daughter. It's been a short time frame but I've met a guy whose 25 and I'm 34. This guy is the smartest, funniest and most caring man I have met in my lifetime (and there's been a few) The thing that's bothering me is that he's totally into me when he's w/ me but when I'm not around it's like "Oh well". Like out of sight , out of mind. Any input out there? IZ:confused: :confused:

Also I guess I should have said it's one of my closest friends son. We've actually been making plans for New Years Eve.. Then I start thinking this guy is gorgeous why is he w/ me? Ever do that??IZ

Does he know you're into him?

He's gotta know it's been 3 months.. I know some people that move in together after 3 months but NO I get to see him 1-2 X's a week because I live an hour away. Stupid of me I'm sure but I am gonnna buy a house closer to him in Orlando. IZ

If he's out doing his own thing when he's not around you, he's just not that into you...of cause he does know how to play the game...when being around you, you're his main attraction, so his attention should be focus on you. You feel good about that don't you, so his attention focus has done what it should do, is make you feel good around him...and you're thinking of moving to be closer to him because.....??

First off, first find out where he's coming from before you make any decisions. Second, you have a child...to uproot her just so you can play house with a guy who doesn't think about you when he's not around is a bit of a red flag.

Thirdly, if he's the son of a best friend, are you prepare to lose that friendship if your best friend doesn't want you grabbing on to her son. There are so many men in this world in which to choose, a best friends son should be off limits. But this is just me, so what do I know.

Paris

Best friends sons should be off limits? Not necessarily. Of course, I say this... because I have a son. Right now, he should definitely be off limits. But... when he comes of age, if he happens to fall in love with a friend of mine, who I also happen to love. Well, hey. Win-win for me! LOL.

Just a thought...
~phos

Oh dang, Nessa. I still hold out hope she'll go off to Law School and in another 10 years or so, still be available and waiting for the right guy to come along, and fall for my little man, so I can call her MY daughter in law! LOL.

God, we're BAD!

Amina... it's because we love you so much. Maybe we should just adopt her? :D

BUT ~ so sorry izcool, to take your thread off topic!!! But, ah.. irparis?? Where in the OP did you get the idea this man was her best friends son? There was nothing in the OP about that, so I was just curious there.

There is a point, though, that if he was really, really into you... it wouldn't be an out of site, out of mind situation.

I know my YM is never out of mind and from what he tells me (and I do believe him) neither I am ever out of mind, either.

;)
~phos

You gotta re read Fos...what happen is that she started new threads with new thoughts instead of just posting a reply onto her old thread. Now the mods have splice everything together so it reads more continuous.

And although you may be ok with your older friend boinking your son, that's not to say her best friend will. It was just a caution, her friend may not see it the same way. So it may have the potential to blow up in her face. I'm not saying it will, it just might.

Although the age difference is no big deal for sure, but he's not close either, and at this stage in the relationship anything goes. To be out of sight out of mind...its not exactly a "good thing".

Hope he decides what he wants but if you really like him, tell him what you're looking for and see if he's on the same page.

Paris