Points for muscles and veins

Yes, I know that some neophyte calling himself Blade posted in Sexually speaking a comment about deducting points for vericose veins and lack of muscle tone.

But when it comes right down to it, in a long term relationship, does that stuff really matter? I say not at all.

When my ex and I were parting, I never said, "Gee, I'm glad you're going. You just don't have the muscles for me anymore and your veins aren't as nice". Nor did I ever say during our married life, "Gee, honey, its our anniversary! That muscle tone and those veins got us another year together".

I just saw my lady tonight, and after over a year of seeing eachother, I still am head over heals in love with her, more so now than I was at the beginning. When we met, she was eighteen years older than me. I was 34 when we met. I knew that she was special from the moment that I laid eyes upon her, but I had no romantic feelings at that time; just admiration for what I saw. I couln't pin down what it was that I saw. Certainly, she didn't look like a young lady. As I said, she is eighteen years older than I. She looked great for her age, but she still looked substantially older than I.

Now that I have been dating her for over a year, I know what I saw. I saw the person she is on the inside reflected in her eyes and her smile. The person she is overshadows any looks that she has, so wonderful she is. I listen to her as much as I can, and I study her as much as I can, for the more I learn about her, the more I love her, and the more I love her, the more I want to learn about her. Its like that vicious cycle thing, but in this case, its not vicious, but incredibly wonderful.

It is our love that makes our relationship a long term (I hope and pray an eternal) relationship. There are times that we have disagreements. There are times when we annoy each other. We talk out our issues and resolve them in a loving and respectful way, knowing that while in the valley temporarilly, we will soon be on a peak. Our love is worth the work.

No amount of muscle tone can ever replace the lady she is, and no vericose veins can ever reduce the lady she is. She is the lady I love, and I will have her in any look she happens to have, because regardless of the external trappings, she is still who she is.

DanE

That's beautiful, DanE!

So good to know that there are loving, caring people like you who aren't distracted by the exterior wrapping, but know that it's what's inside the package that counts.

You're a sweet guy, and a very wise one too. All the best to you and your lovely lady. :)

why can't everyone be so evolved *sigh*

Lovely just lovely!

What a wonderful post Dan!
Thank you for the warm fuzzies and the smile and good luck to you and your wonderful lady :p

Dan that is so wonderful...

I know exactly how you feel... My husband of course is older ... he is 17 years I feel exactly the way you said that!!!

Way to go Dan!

Dan...I just want to hug you..or nominate you for an award or something.

thanks for that post, you made my day!

Oh, c'mon. :)

No need to insult me, although maybe I should apologize for my lack of sensitivity. My point was that if you were to apply points to the situation (which is a flawed argument because it's stupid to begin with, in retrospect) then vericose veins would be minus points.

On the same note, the smaller the penis/breasts/etc.. the fewer the points.. and we'd probably deduct for beer bellies and any other lack of tone.

All in all, my comment was superficial and I formally apologize to any offended by it.

I hope I didn't get off on the wrong foot with this community..

You are forgiven, Blade. Learn from Dan. He is so wise.

Originally posted by lencarol
You are forgiven, Blade. Learn from Dan. He is so wise.

Even though I don't have big guns or washboard abbs?

DanE

Originally posted by Dan Echo
Even though I don't have big guns or washboard abbs?

DanE

You have a big HEART.

And washboards went out with the automatic washing machine. :p

Originally posted by lencarol
You are forgiven, Blade. Learn from Dan. He is so wise.


Thank you, Lencarol, but I am not wise; I just happen to be blessed with a lady who is much more worthy than I am and I'm lucky enough to not be blind to it.

Thank you, also, Scarlethawk, Mrs. Jonesolet, Mrs. Hedgehog (isn't that Mrs. Tim?), Jo, Amina, MerAlove, and Ravenglow (cool new avatar, btw) :) You gals flatter me more than I deserve. I think that all of us here at ageless, I assume Blade included, think along those lines already. You gals were all here first, so I'm the one following your wisdom, not the other way around.

You guys all rock, and Blade, welcome aboard.

DanE

Originally posted by ScarletHawke
You have a big HEART.

And washboards went out with the automatic washing machine. :p

Thank you, ScarletHawke. You do as well. But is it true that the automatic washing machine went out?!? When?:eek:


Keep on rockin',

DanE

Thanks, Dan.

Originally posted by Dan Echo
Thank you, ScarletHawke. You do as well. But is it true that the automatic washing machine went out?!? When?:eek:


Fiiiiiine, with the advent of the automatic washing machine.

Yeah yeah, ya got me. Yeesh. :rolleyes:

Oh Dan, you are wise AND humble! Where's your brother??

Originally posted by ScarletHawke
Fiiiiiine, with the advent of the automatic washing machine.

Yeah yeah, ya got me. Yeesh. :rolleyes:

And here I was thinking that maybe there was some new Duck Dodgers invention to replace it. Bummer:p

DanE

Originally posted by lencarol
Oh Dan, you are wise AND humble! Where's your brother??

With his wife in NYC.

As to being wise and humble, I still am not sure that I qualify, but I went through alot of years of being foolish and haughty. It took the unexpected arrival of my first child by my now ex wife (who at the time she told me she was pregnant had ditched me two weeks previous and became my ex-girlffriend) to get me to start examining my own heart and to start to grow as a person.

I wish that I could have gotten to where I am without having done some of the really moronic things that I did or having said some of the outlandish things that I have said. But, learning from mistakes is, I suppose, the catalyst for making us all who we are.

I've read some of your posts, Lencarol, and you are certainly quite intelligent yourself.

DanE

Originally posted by Powerpuffgirl
I just had to comment on this particular topic.

I am so insecure about my looks, I don't even want to list what I am so insecure about.

My YM turns out was insecure about not having tons of muscles and washboard abs. It didn't matter what I said...he was determind to build up some muscle before I came out to Australia recently to visit him. He is perfect to me but he just persisted in this mind set. I got to see what I appear in a mirror reflected back to me (I am always trying to lose weight).

He though thinks women "should be soft" and doesn't seem to me being fluffy.

Kind of blew my mind.

Tell him that if he gets an automatic washing machine, he won't need the abs.

DanE

PS. Soft is good

Originally posted by Dan Echo
Tell him that if he gets an automatic washing machine, he won't need the abs.


I'm not gonna hear the end of this, am I? :p

Thanks DanE. Makes my day.

Originally posted by lencarol
Thanks DanE. Makes my day.

But not like Josh Groban:D Hey, does he have washboard abs?

DanE

Thats right. The king was still a hunka hunka burnin love, and he sure didn't need them.

DanE

I love the King as well, and he will always be Number One, even over Josh!

Originally posted by lencarol
I love the King as well, and he will always be Number One, even over Josh!

Thankya, thankya very much

DanE

I'm brand-new to the ageless board, and after reading some of DanE's previous posts that described his true love for his lady, I immediately felt inspired and more confident in the love I have for my own younger object of affection (I have felt guilty and fearful of my feelings for so long!). Age truly does not matter when true love is there. DanE, Thank you for being so honest, open and WISE (you really are)... I'm glad to be here!

Thank you for your kind words, Teeny,

But I am no wiser than anyone else. I just happen to be very blessed by a wonderful lady and am lucky enough to realize it:D

Welcome aboard, by the way:cool:

DanE

I am with you Teeny, DanE is wise and wonderful. We should start a Dan Echo appreciation club. He has a very lucky lady. Dan I just discovered you are a Pisces, my favorite sign! So is Josh...

Originally posted by lencarol
I am with you Teeny, DanE is wise and wonderful. We should start a Dan Echo appreciation club. He has a very lucky lady. Dan I just discovered you are a Pisces, my favorite sign! So is Josh...

No need for that, but thank you just the same. Lots of people here are just as deserving of an appreciation club. While nearly all of you who post over here in LTR would be on that list, I frequently think of all of the wonderful posts by Whiterose. Since I have been on this site, originally under that auspices of Danelectro, her post have always been very kind and caring, while at the same time insightful and to the point. Mrs. Hedgehog's posts are always great to read; honest, candid, and always with a kind word or good advice. Remy and Tim are both very lucky. As for posts that certainly are of the highest calibre, Jo's posts are amongst some of the best I've read.

Many others have posted very excellent things, but Whiterose and Mrs. Hedgehog, and Jo are the ones that happened to come to mind at this moment, though I will doubtless think of more after I submit this reply. Also, Amina has been through alot of ups and downs lately, yet her posts are still kind and caring.

Me? I'm just some guy who happened to be lucky enough to meet a lady much finer than myself and who managed to somehow convince her to give me a chance as more than a friend. I just happen to have gone through some experiences that women are usually on the receiving end of, so maybe that has made me a bit more empathetic, I don't know.

Josh is a Piscean. Whats his B-day? Well, Lencarol, since the subject came up, I can now ask a very '70's question: What's your sign?:p

Thank you, Lencarol, for your kind words, but I really don't think that I am any more deserving of an appreciation club than anyone else.

DanE

Oh, you are so right, Dan. These women are very wonderful and I value their wisdom and posts as well. No disagreements there! I am so glad to have found this forum, even though at present there is no one special person at this time. I am in over my head with several right now, but having a good time meeting and getting to know new people.

Josh BD is February 27, so is coming up. I think he will be 24. My several serious "loves" in my life have all been Pisces! Don't know what that means, probably just serendipity, but am very drawn to them. I am Aries. Yes, trite and so 70s!

Originally posted by lencarol
Oh, you are so right, Dan. These women are very wonderful and I value their wisdom and posts as well. No disagreements there! I am so glad to have found this forum, even though at present there is no one special person at this time. I am in over my head with several right now, but having a good time meeting and getting to know new people.

Josh BD is February 27, so is coming up. I think he will be 24. My several serious "loves" in my life have all been Pisces! Don't know what that means, probably just serendipity, but am very drawn to them. I am Aries. Yes, trite and so 70s!

But cool nonetheless

DanE