Potty Training!!!

My darling son has no interest in potty training.......and it's driving me crazy. He just turned 3 and is still not potty trained! He even fights it half the time when you try to make him go to the toliet. My 2 daughters were pretty easy to train around a year and a half of age, but my son is proving to be a different story. Is there a difference in training boys and girls? Or some ideas that might make him more interested in wanting to go like a big boy? Would appreciate any ideas.....thanks.

Raveness

Raveness...

I dont have a son who is yet about to potty train although I WOULD LOVE TO LOL.. hes only about 6 months and I think that's a little soon LOL...However,

I helped my g/f potty train her son.. he was like 3 1/2 and my other girlfriends son was 4 years old when he trained... boys are VERY VERY HARD.... I think it's laziness really but talk to your pediatrician he'll tell you not to push him but you need to take the time with him to train him.... Kinda has to be your priority.....:)

Good Luck... TRUST ME I'M JEALOUS YOUR CLOSE LOL.. I got about 3 or 4 years !!

LOL MerAlove23 I am so ready to be outta the diaper/pull-up stage it isn't even funny. With my younger 2 so close in age it seems like this stage has lasted forever!!! Yes, I have heard that boys are harder than girls........I was looking for ideas that worked for others with unwilling little boys...lol. Thanks for letting me know it is a little boy thing.......I shall keep trying hopefully he will really take interest soon.

Raveness

you know what my girlfriend did LOL I'm not lying either.... he was 4 years old or maybe a week or two before.... She got so fed up she put his underwear on and his pants with NO diaper and YES he pee'ed his pants that day LOL but you know something he got so grossed out LOL he NEVER did it again and wha la he was potty trained in 24 hours LOL... Not sure if you wanna do that now LOL but I thought it was funny!!

LOL.........yeah I have kind of already tried that too.......didn't work.....just ended up with wet pants and soaked tennis shoes...ewww...but I have noticed that lately when he does wet his pull-up now that he wants changed right afterwards.....it might be time to try putting underwear on him again. Maybe this time it will work on him. Still open for other ideas at this point though.

ugh, potty training

my first born didn't potty train til he was like 4 years and 2 months. just would NOT.

my 2nd son, 3 years old.

#3 son, he'll be 2 first of feb. so we'll see

we did fruit loops in the potty, aim at em, aim at em!

we did the pottying dolly, affectionately named "Fred" lol

we did "good boy" stickers on his training potty, that helped.

what did it? his age and his chart. for everytime he told me and he went potty on the big boy potty, he got a sticker on his "potty chart". i did it up on the computer. when he got 12 stickers, he got a prize. bottle of bubbles, colors and coloring book, silly putty, play-doh, silly straws, cheap stuff but they don't know that.
i do believe i did it so that if he went 6 times of getting a prize, he then got a bigger prize, power ranger, rescue hero, etc.

he loved the prize system. it took like a week. that was one more stubborn kid.

number 2 son just decided he was gonna use the big potty. no fenagelin', no bribing, no nuthin'. he just "decided". prolly from seeing big brother go. so i'm holding out hope that the littlest one is gonna potty train as easily. but he's an imp, so i dunno.

"we did fruit loops in the potty, aim at em, aim at em!"

To funny....lol


Unfortunately I think that part of the problem is the lack of another male in the house......poor little guy is in a house with 3 females, and there hasn't really been a guy around much for him to have a role model. But also being the only boy and the baby...he also gets babied a lot he is a big momma's boy, and his sisters coddle him a lot. Maybe he just isn't ready yet......I am just ready for him to be I guess.......but he just might take a little longer.

He has done everything else later than the girls so I guess this shouldn't be any different. He did the same thing with walking......absolutely refused to walk then one night just stood up and ran across the living room........everyone got excited and was clapping and yelling yaaaa! He just turned around and looked at all of us like "I could do it all along"...lol.

So I guess I just need to have a little more patience. LOL just having 2 back to back.........I am really ready for the whole baby stage to be finished....LOL. Well but then there are still times where I wish time wasn't making them grow up so fast. LOL What do you do with that one....LOL.

My boys were 10 times easier to train than my girls, the oldest was the key though. He found Spiderman underwear that he wanted really really badly. I told him they were far too nice to wear if you still went potty in your pants, that that would ruin them. So if he could go three days in regular pants without going in them, we'd go buy the Spiderman ones. Three days later we went to the store.
He trained his little brother who is only 15 months younger than him.
He'll get there. It's just gotta be his decision though mostly. They can be stubborn little things.

Well... my son was almost 5 when he pee potty trained. Closer to 6 1/2 before he finally got the poo thing right. :rolleyes: My daughter. HAH. Around 3 she just kinda started doing it on her own, some encouragement. She's been totally trained over 9 months.

But, for the pee standing up thing, I swear... Trace is right, it's the cheerios or frootloops for target practice. Capitivates their little boy minds and they aim and fire. Make a game out of anything and they WANT to do it.

Also, the star chart thing definitely works, especially if the prize is something they REALLY want.

I really did nothing to potty train my daughter, though. She just kinda went with the flow.

~phosphorescent

Raveness, it's not unusual at all for boys to potty train later than girls. My son was my first, and as an RN, I thought I had things all figured out and was going to train him at about age 2. :rolleyes:

After about a year of working on him, I finally voiced my frustration to my pediatrician who assured me that I was wasting my time. He said that boys sphincter muscle control comes later than girls, typically. He encouraged me to let it go and stop trying to control him and told me that he would begin to want to train when HE was ready. And, sure enough, he was right.

Once I let up and stopped trying to train him, he slowly started getting ready on his own. He was daytime trained by the time he was about 3 1/2, but he was not nighttime trained until he was about 5.

My mom always told me that putting pants on them and seeing what happens worked with my 4 brothers. But, I think it only humiliated my son. Each child is different.

But, the bottom line, is don't stress about it. He won't get ready until he is ready.

My daughter was easy as pie. In fact, I don't even remember having to train her at all. She just sort of instinctively knew what to do at about age 2.

Well it sounds like I might have a little more time to wait. He actually brought me a pair of underwear today, and wanted to wear them.....he actually went a couple of times to the potty, which was exciting for me.......so maybe he is getting interested. I'll see how it goes.....maybe I was just pushing to hard to get it done. Maybe he'll keep showing interest if I let him just do it on his own. Just expected him to be train earlier...like his sisters....having a boy is very different for me......

I guess because my oldest was a girl, and I learned how to take care of a little girl....then my second child 8 years later was a girl so I knew what to do, but having my son is a whole new experience for me....lol even buying toys is hard...not to sure what little boys like....I have lucked out that he is a big spiderman fan (just like his mother =) and the Hulk is his newest liking....well and his sword (light saber) that he has to sleep with ever night..lol.

I guess I just need to realize ever child is different, and come with different experiences. What worked with his sisters, isn't necessarily going to be the same with him.

Originally posted by Raveness
I guess I just need to realize ever child is different, and come with different experiences. What worked with his sisters, isn't necessarily going to be the same with him.


This is so true. And, wouldn't it be so much easier if they were all alike? But, then life would be pretty boring, too. ;)

My son and daughter are very different. The one thing they have in common is that they both enjoy teasing each other and laughing. That's the one common feature they got from their good ole mom.

My daughter was potty trained before she turned 2. When she was 18 months old, I bought a potty chair and just let her use it when she wanted to, talked to her about it, tried to make it seem fun...

My cousin was babysitting her at the time and shortly before she turned 2, my cousin worked with her for one week and after that, she was trained.

Several years ago, when I worked in a day care, there was a little boy who was 3 1/2 who was not potty trained and he was a tall kid for his age... he would walk up to us and say "My diaper needs to be changed because I pooped in it". We had to lift this big kid up to the diaper changing table and change his diaper. :rolleyes:

I know the consensus is that it takes boys longer to have control, but I also felt that this particular boy just didn't want to stop playing to go to the bathroom...

Originally posted by whiterose
This is so true. And, wouldn't it be so much easier if they were all alike? But, then life would be pretty boring, too. ;)

My son and daughter are very different. The one thing they have in common is that they both enjoy teasing each other and laughing. That's the one common feature they got from their good ole mom.

I hear ya there all 3 of them crack me up most of the time....one minute 2 or all 3 of them are fighting like cats and dogs.....then 10 minutes later they are all playing, and loving on each other.......it's funny.

My oldest daughter for years told me she wanted to have a little brother or sister......she was complaining about one of them one day........I said you wanted a brother or sister........so now you have one of each......she said I wish I was an only child again.......lol. But even saying that I know she loves them to pieces....she is just at that age where they get on her nerves a lot.........and she wants her privacy now. Almost at the teen-age years god help me......lol. That has me even more worried than getting Kody potty trained.....lol.

Every time she starts a new phase of puberty I just think "I feel to young to have a daughter going thru puberty"......lol. I still remember like it was yesterday when she was just a little baby.......now she is 12 and only has a few inches of being the same height as me. :eek: Time just flies after you have kids.

I'm glad others posted that it may be a bit of a high expectation at only 3 years old to be completely toilet trained.

My kids were all nearly four before they were consistently using the toilet without accidents.

My son who is about to turn four still has accidents if the light is off and he's too afraid to go into the room...he ends up looking around for the nearest taller person to switch on the light and by that time he's doing such a dance that he just can't contain himself!

lol

oh well. Nearly there :)

the "I GOTTA GO POTTY OMG OMG OMG SOMEBODY HEEEELP ME!!!!" dance?

yeah, i'm somewhat familiar

:D

Well I confess I haven't read the responses so forgive me if you have heard these before.

Here is how I potty-trained and its a very asian method. We did it over 4 days. Stay home and concentrate on nothing else. Before we started it, we went to the store so that the baby could pick out his/her new "big boy/girl" underwear and talked a lot about how we were going to use the potty.

We bought multiple potty chairs and had them all over the house. We then striped said baby naked and monitored closely all day for about 4 days. By the end, potty training was accomplished. Nudity actually helps a lot because it makes it easier for the baby to get to the potty and keeps them in a frame of mind that is very body conscious.

/edit to add: okay read the whole thread and did not see my suggestions anywhere... so maybe try them ;) :)

Originally posted by greeneyedgirl
the "I GOTTA GO POTTY OMG OMG OMG SOMEBODY HEEEELP ME!!!!" dance?

yeah, i'm somewhat familiar

:D


LOL!! Actually, my son would do this dance, but would be in denial the whole time. :rolleyes: He would hold onto his little crotch and dance around. I'd say, "Ryan, do you need to go potty?" He'd say in a matter of fact voice, "No". After watching him continue to do this dance for sometimes up to 30-45 minutes, and asking him several times if he was SURE he didn't need to go potty, he'd finally break down and ADMIT that it was TRUE!! He did in fact need to go! I love and miss that little "I don't want to admit it but I really do need to go potty" dance. :p

Ok.........update on the potty training. I had let it go for a while, and now for over a week he has been pooping in the toilet all on his own. He just one day started doing it. We get excited and jump around screaming yaaaa he's a big boy!!!! He really likes it when we do that.......lol.

But he still pee's his pull-up all the time. I thought the boobooing was the hard part to get them to do. But now that is water under the bridge. Do I have it backwards? Is getting him to pee in the toilet the harder part? Confused....

yeah!!! maybe he is getting the hang of it now!! :)


I had a hard time potty training my son, I also had all females in the house at the time. I wasnt to worried about it, he was my last child and I was more relaxed. He was over 3 before totally potty trained.

Just think, not long ago people using spanking their child into potty training, it was not uncommon to spank them for not going in the potty, sounds archaic now.