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Hello,
I dated an older woman before previous to meeting another older lady. It didn't work with me and the other lady because I think she wasn't mature enough, which was likewise the reason she is still single. However, I met another older lady who is 15 years older than I, the other was 14 years older than I. She seems sweeter and more mature. I've kissed her several times, kisses that were beyond friendship. I'm just having trouble convincing her to date me. I think I am a pretty mature guy and I could handle a relationship with her, I'd at least like to try. I need some pointers on what I can do to help stimulate her a little more into letting her feelings out about me. She says she does have feelings for me, but she just wants to do what's right for me and not hurt me. Help Help. I need someone's advice. I'm 22 and she is 37. She's friendly and attractive. I'm physically fit and attractive too, and I have strong feelings for her. Any input from older male or females is wanted. I need some tips on how to win her love. She says I speak with high intelligence and she thinks I am a sweetheart, but I want more from this. Obviously she is attracted to me, you should have seen how we kissed, she's just afraid to hurt me, but I'm willing to take the risk. Like I told her if I get hurt I'll deal with it. Hearts get broken all the time, and I've been hurt in the past, but I heal and I want a shot at this. Thanks.

Justin McHugh

Why does she think she will hurt you? Is she married?

Hello,
No she's not married. She's just worrying about me a lot when I think there is nothing really to worry about.

I was in the same situation as your older women. I cared about my y/m so much I wanted to do what was right for him .I was afriad I was robbing him of his youth and chance at a real relationship , not that o.w y/m cant have one. .. also I was in denial for a long time about the age difference until I found this site ,Is she on this site if not she should be.
She needs to know it is not her decision to make , it is yours and dont give up on what you want she will come around

Hello,
Thanks for the advice. Everything went well with her and I on our first date and we had a second date after that. I'd rather not put her name on here for privacy, but my name is Justin. I tried to post something this morning, but it wasn't working right for some reason. I'm telling you now we have so much in common and we met by mere chance. We both live off of the same road though which is strange and her best friend is good friends with me too. It's just weird and we didn't meet through her friend. We met somewhere which I can't mention, but it was likely that our paths would eventually cross in the future because we go to a lot of the same places. We've already exchanged our "our love you's to each other". She is 37 and I am 22. We have a pretty intimate relationship going and we even talk for hours on the phone a day. This isn't a long distance relationship don't let me confuse you. She lives in my town and even in my township and I did not meet her on the internet. I met older women on the internet before, but they turned out ot be nut jobs or other weird things came up about them. She's a sweetheart though and I met her at a place in my town. I figured I'd finally get the strength up to ask an older woman in my town out and it worked fine. If you are interested in some of the other things we have in common that just seem strange coincidences post me your email and I'll explain. These things could not all be by chance, we were destined to meet and hopefully our relationship prospers. Thanks for all your advice. I know I may seem mature for 22, but people say I am mature for my age. That's why I like older mature women. They appeal to me more.

Lots of thanks,
Justin

I talked to her about this site, we are going to get one of those disposable cameras and take a picture of ourselves together. She also is interested in posting on this site. She's not good with the computer though, she can type, but as far as finding stuff on the net she's not. I'm going to show her the site at her house and maybe she'll type something up under my name. She said she would at least.

Thats great. We will all look forward to meeting her and seeing both of you. :D I felt a lot like you when I met my y/m. So many things put us together that just went beyond coincidence.

Hey it's me again,
Well it's official she is now my girlfriend. I slept over her house last night it was fun. Can't really talk about what we did ;) , but I'm sure you can all guess. She's so good to me and I've never been happier in my life. Unfortunately, I'm going down to North Carolina with my parents to see my brother for 10 days, I won't be back to the 22nd, but we both have phone cards to call each other. I'm looking forward to seeing my brother again, but I'm going to miss her. She was crying about me going away and I felt so bad. It just showed me how much she cares about me. She asked me to show her how to use the computer and stuff when I get back from North Carolina. I'm going to show her how to use it and she is interested in this site too. I don't even know if she types that well at all I've never seen her type, like I said we met in my town not through the internet. Although it took her a while to agree to start seeing me, I believe my aggressiveness and persistance paid off. She was just afraid she'd screw my life up, but that she won't do. I'm a persistant man and sometimes I have trouble taking no for an answer. I've never been turned down by a woman I picked. I'm not saying that is something to be proud of, I just stuck to it with her. I believe I broke down the wall she had up and after last night I removed any last bit of doubts she had. You would be surprised what romance and love can do to a woman's heart and a man's likewise. All her worries seem to now be wiped away. In the beginning I thought I had no chance with her, she's never dated a man as young as I, things went my way though I guess and I'm happy and thankful for that. I'll post the whole list of coincidences on this threat soon possibly tonight or tommorow. There were just some mysterious things that makes us both think we were meant to meet. When I put the whole list on you may be shocked, but they are true. Somebody most likely God, wanted us to meet and be together and that's why I was so persistant to not give up on her. I have to work on my charm though, I'm too much of a sweet talker. I guess you can say I know the right words to say and when to say them. She told me I make her heart melt. I just say the right things to make her feel like the beautiful woman she is. She is self conscious about herself, but I guess a lot of people are. There's really nothing wrong with her though. Well I'll finish this later. Nice hearing from people on here again.

Hi,
well Im glad to hear your now officially a couple. LOL Let us hear from you when you get back from N. Carolina. Meanwhile, have a safe trip. :D

Hey,
I'm down in North Carolina, and I really miss my girlfriend back at home. It's okay down here, warmer by far, but I got a cold from my mother and I'm sick now. My parents, brother and sister-in-law are all out doing some baby shopping for their baby girl that is suppose to be on the way in July or August. You can tell she's pregnant she is showing a lot. So I'm going to be an uncle, I can't believe it, but it's finally happening. I'm starting to get up there in age anyways so things like this normally happen. Anyways my throat is burning, I have a pounding headache, and I feel nasceaus from this bug I got from my mother. My mother saw the doctor and has some antibotics left over though and I am taking them so I should feel better. I feel better than this morning for sure since I took the pill and I'm sure I'll just get better. Chiaro, not sure how you spell it exactly do you have another real name or is that your name. My name is Justin. Thanks for staying in touch with me it's nice to hear from someone every now and again. It's pretty warm down here probably about 60 degrees compared to the 30's where I am from in Pennsylvania. I think I'm going to go for a walk to the gas station a little later on. I just want to let everyone know I love this site and it has helped me out a lot with advice. My girlfriend is older, but she's definitely crazy about me. She cried the day before I was going to leave and I felt so bad. She thinks she can't go 10 days without me, but in reality we haven't known our whole life and I'm sure she'll be just fine as I will be fine likewise. I definitely miss her, but I know this will make us love each other more when we both are back home and in each others arms again. If anybody has any personal questions just ost them on this forum along with your email if it's not in your profile and I can send you a reply to your email. I just don't want to post too much information on here because then everyone will have access to it and that wouldn't be to nice to do to her. Well nice talking to you all.

Love and best wishes,
Justin McHugh

Its CHARO , Justin, and no thats not my real name. LOL Its a combination of my guys first and middle name. Anyway, sorry to hear you got sick . Take it easy and Im sure youll be better in a day or so.
You mentioned Pennsylvania. Thats where I am from and YES its even colder than the 30's some days and even worse at night. Today happens to feel like summer because it finally got up in the 40's but that isnt going to last. :( I know you miss your girlfriend, but its good your getting a chance to visit with family and I hope you have a great time . Thanks for the update and write again when you get time. Its always good to hear from you.

Hey,
I figured I'd write a little about myself this time and just keep it on my normal forum thread. I'm 22 male with blue eyes and brownish-blonde hair, 5'10" and 140 lbs. I know I sound skinny, but I lift regularly and I am strong. I grew up in Pennsylvania and still live near my town that I grew up in just one town over. I'm thinking of moving somewhere, maybe North Carolina near my brother in the future. I'm very athletic and enjoy many sports and activities. I was on the top of my class and I was a member of cross country running, chess, science olympiad, and national honors society. I also was a boyscout and eventually became an Eagle Scout. I enjoy bowling, running, boxing, lifting and many other things. It's easy to keep me occupied. Some non athletic things I do are play chess, play guitar, and read novels mostly science fiction. It looks like it's going to be a warm day down here in North Carolina. I'll be here to the 22nd then it'll be back home to PA. Well I'm off for now I guess. If anybody has any questions about me feel free to ask. Oh, I've dated an older woman before if you are wondering and my parents allowed my current 37 year old girlfriend to come over to the house. They don't like it completely, but they allow her to see me at my house.

Hello Charo,
What is your real name if you don't mind and where in Pennsylvania are you and your man from?

My real name is Dee . I was from the Pittsburgh area and my boyfriend is from a small town a couple hours away..... where I am living now, with him. Hmm I was right about the weather. Today it was snowing and raining, turning to ice now that its getting evening. (end of weather report)
Sounds like your a pretty active guy and like a variety of things, smart too.... good catch. LOL Did you talk to your girl today....Valentines Day you know?;) Well, Im off to the store before the roads freeze, while I can still keep the car on the road. Have a great vacation and thanks for sharing about yourself. You sound like a pretty cool guy. :cool:

Hey Charo,
Yes I talked to her today, once in the morning once at night. She said she misses me a lot and was thinking about me all day. I just want to go home, I really wish I was home. I love my brother and all, but my parents forced me to come down south for 10 days maybe longer. When will this ever end.

LOL yea, I know. You can only take family for so long nomatter how much you love them once your out on your own.
Be glad for the time though.... not trying to be a downer, but you never know what will happen in the future. In my case I visited my mom and yep I got the homesick blues after about a week too, but my mom passed away a month later and I was so glad I got to spend the time with her when I did. Oh this sounds so depressing ... but I guess my point was to look on the bright side of your visit, be thankful you have family that loves you, and enjoy them while you can. Your making them happy that they have you there. Youll be home soon enough and will go on with your life. Its all good :D