Kat
03-19-2005, 09:00 AM
Hi everybody!
I wrote my YM (45-26) a goodbye letter the end of February. "Ageless Love" gave me the support I needed at the time..thanks. I had been seeing him for 6 months at the time.
Didn't see or hear from him for a month, then we ran into each at a musical event a few weeks ago(both musicians) and we couldn't stay apart. This time it's better though, we're talking more and getting things out in the open about how we feel. I think we were both guilty of holding back .Between his intensity and my guarded feelings of getting hurt it was a disaster. There were hidden or imagined expectations and fear of committment.
This time we're feeling a new freedom about the whole relationship. Be true to each other and honest. The friendship is unconditional, which takes the pressure off. We're closer and having more fun than we've ever had!
Must be spring fever. :p
I'm an independent and adventurous woman with dreams and I make them happen. He seems to appreciate that even more now and says I motivate him. He's young, creative and feeling so stuck in his life, struggling to make it though each day. He puts expections on himself of what he thinks the world expects of him. He also puts too much concern on how people view him as an individual and gets frustrated with them. He has a deep passion for music and has the talent for it.
I might add here, our age difference has nothing to do with his concern about what ppl think. We already have many of the same friends. His roomies love me :D , nobody is surprised that I would have a ym boyfriend. If anything they tell him to be good to me!
First I told him, "you surround yourself with the people who love you unconditionally. we can have a lot of friends, or know a lot of people, but those are the most important. sometimes it's just a few ppl that really understand you or know you the best" It's easy to find those ppl, they are the ones that even when you mess up, they are still there for you.
I told him "you don't realize how free you are baby, follow your dreams, take chances". "you are never stuck unless you accept that you are". He knows I won't hold him back. He also knows that I WILL follow my dreams and have a lot of 'em. My passion for music is strong too. This is actually very HOT. heehee.
With all this "freedom" we talk about, although not labeled or anything, we did say we would be faithful to each other. We're both learning and growing. We can't deny how strongly we are attracted to each other. We'll just leave it at that.
He's been good for me. I tend to internalize, not express my feelings with men in the past. This is a new freedom for me too. Life is too short not to have fun, lets enjoy our time together. Things are hot as a firecracker right now! :) woohoo.
I wrote my YM (45-26) a goodbye letter the end of February. "Ageless Love" gave me the support I needed at the time..thanks. I had been seeing him for 6 months at the time.
Didn't see or hear from him for a month, then we ran into each at a musical event a few weeks ago(both musicians) and we couldn't stay apart. This time it's better though, we're talking more and getting things out in the open about how we feel. I think we were both guilty of holding back .Between his intensity and my guarded feelings of getting hurt it was a disaster. There were hidden or imagined expectations and fear of committment.
This time we're feeling a new freedom about the whole relationship. Be true to each other and honest. The friendship is unconditional, which takes the pressure off. We're closer and having more fun than we've ever had!
Must be spring fever. :p
I'm an independent and adventurous woman with dreams and I make them happen. He seems to appreciate that even more now and says I motivate him. He's young, creative and feeling so stuck in his life, struggling to make it though each day. He puts expections on himself of what he thinks the world expects of him. He also puts too much concern on how people view him as an individual and gets frustrated with them. He has a deep passion for music and has the talent for it.
I might add here, our age difference has nothing to do with his concern about what ppl think. We already have many of the same friends. His roomies love me :D , nobody is surprised that I would have a ym boyfriend. If anything they tell him to be good to me!
First I told him, "you surround yourself with the people who love you unconditionally. we can have a lot of friends, or know a lot of people, but those are the most important. sometimes it's just a few ppl that really understand you or know you the best" It's easy to find those ppl, they are the ones that even when you mess up, they are still there for you.
I told him "you don't realize how free you are baby, follow your dreams, take chances". "you are never stuck unless you accept that you are". He knows I won't hold him back. He also knows that I WILL follow my dreams and have a lot of 'em. My passion for music is strong too. This is actually very HOT. heehee.
With all this "freedom" we talk about, although not labeled or anything, we did say we would be faithful to each other. We're both learning and growing. We can't deny how strongly we are attracted to each other. We'll just leave it at that.
He's been good for me. I tend to internalize, not express my feelings with men in the past. This is a new freedom for me too. Life is too short not to have fun, lets enjoy our time together. Things are hot as a firecracker right now! :) woohoo.