Not Sure What To Think!!

Ok !! Well Let Me See !! Im 42 And My Husband Is 26 We Have Been Married For 3 Years And They Have Been Really Good ..he Does Alot For Me ..has Always Been There When I Need Him..we Do Everything Together..he Surprises Me With Little Things.. Goes Out Of His Way For Me ..helps Me Out In Evrything..ok He Is A Great Guy But There Is One Problem..for Some Reason He Has To Talk To Other Women He Meets On The Net And It Isnt All The Time..ive Tracked His Cell Phone Bill And There Has Been Calls To Girls But Looking At His Bill All The Time It Is Only Once In Awhile.. I Have Asked Him About It And He Cant Seem To Tell Me Why He Does It,,i Have Replyed You Want To Get A Divorse And He Say Hell No That Hes In Love With Me And That These Girls Are Just Friends But Like I Said They Are Just A Few Calls Here And There And He Is Always With Me At Nite..he Doesnt Go Out He Like To Do Things With Me ..i Get Jealous Because I Cant Figure Out What It Is ..when Ive Called These Girls To Ask Them They Dont Seem To Remember And I Know He Is Lying To Them About His Real Name So If He Is Lying To Them About His Real Name Is It Just To Pass The Time..like I Said We Are Always Doing Things Together..the Sex Is Good And We Have Fun So If Any In Sight Please Give Me Some Info..i Dont Know If He Is Going Through A Phase Or What ..there Is A 16 Year Difference And We Love To Be Around Each Other ..he Calls Me So Many Times A Day To Just Chat He Is Great To Me And Im Just A Bit Confuse To Why He Does It And Lies To The Other Girls He Talks To Every So Often So Help !!! :d

i think this is in the wrong forum...............................

Hi Lolo,

Isn't is great to have a site where you can get such a variety of suggestions and opinions? I presently am working in Baghdad, Iraq; but previously I have worked many years as a Social Worker in long term care. So here is my take on things. I'm sure if I am wrong there will be some men correct me and quite possibly my typing!

Men love the excitement of the chase. They like to conquer and they are goal oriented. It may be that things are just a little too predictable even though you say the marriage is solid. If you are spending all your time together, you might want to think about pursuing an interest or individual hobby. You might change something in the way you dress or apply your make up. Something you are comfortable with that is just enough to add interest.

Perhaps some of the married couples can share ways they have kept the excitement and interest alive in their relationships. Three years is about when things settle into a routine. There are some great books available a Love for a Lifetime, by James Dobson, Rekindling the Romance by Dennis & Barbara Rainey.

It sounds as if you have a good relationship. I would not invade my husband's privacy if in your situation... unless I suspected infidelity. I would strongly tell him that honesty is extremely inportant to you and his actions are beginning to erode your trust. Hope this helps. I'm divorced.....I didn't read the book! Peg

Ummm Hello?????????? He's calling other woman from the internet? And these woman don't know his real name? And when you call these woman they deny the phone calls?

RED FLAG RED FLAG RED FLAG

I'm sorry I think this is a major issue, one you 2 need to seriously sit down and discuss. If these woman were truly *Just* friends, they would know his REAL NAME!

Best of luck, I think you need to do some serious thinking and talking with your S/O befor its to late....

Welcome to Ageless!

Back in the 70's, we used to call this "Looking for Some Strange!"

This is not a complicated question. Your husband is looking for some side-action -- probably using an assumed name. He may be waiting until he finds just the right scenerio. Believe me, I've dabbled on the Internet dating thing for a short time, and long enough to discover that there are both married and single women out there (as well as men), who's main goal is to get laid. They don't really want a committed relationship -- no long term ties. In many cases, men and women want to find just the right scenerio in that the other is not wanting or looking for anything but wham-bamm thank you mam - no questions, no promises just TCB.

And there's plenty of that going on. Sad but true!

Don't think this is a small issue. You have a big problem on your hands!

P.S. And he might be calling you so many times during the day "just to chat" so he knows where you are -- and where you're not! :eek:

P.P.S. Oh, I just caught your age differences -- Honey, he's definately looking for some young stuff!

I think you should ask yourself a few questions... The main one being, "What would your reaction to this situation be if your husband were the same age as you or older?" Would you give him all this trust then? Would you be so quick to excuse his behavior then?

Second, what do your instincts say? You know they're talking to you...Be honest about what you REALLY think/feel.